Interestingly, extroverts are less likely to struggle with this, which is easy for them to judge. If you feel that you are sometimes extroverted and sometimes introverted, you can have fun with acquaintances and are afraid to communicate with strangers, leaders and customers, then you are probably more introverted.
One explanation is that everyone has two attitudes towards the environment at the same time, extroversion and introversion, but they prefer one of them, which is comfortable and natural to use. This preference is innate, and it is obvious in childhood. As more and more people use a certain preference, they become better at it and become the dominant function, while another attitude becomes the auxiliary function.
Extroversion, in essence, refers to a person's main interest in the external environment. They are more sensitive to events and information transmitted by the objective world, and make action decisions according to changes in the external world, which is realistic and flexible.
Introversion, in essence, refers to a person's main interest in the inner spiritual world. They start from their own intrinsic values. If the external environment he encounters conforms to his familiar ideas or concepts, they will identify with and blend in. If not, they will ignore it or think it is unimportant.
Because of the above differences, in secular society, extroverts seem to have an advantage. They are keen to receive new information, try new things, and are more willing to express themselves in real time, which makes them easier to be understood and approached, thus gaining more opportunities.
Of course, people with introverted preferences also have their own advantages. They generally have internal principles and good continuity, and are not disturbed by the external environment. Once they find areas of interest, they can focus more on these areas, thus achieving deep understanding and creating long-term value.
So if we say that extroverts finally get more secular wisdom and strategies, while introverts get non-secular wisdom, which is closer to eternal truth.
We can also see the difference between the two from these aspects:
Extroverts are ostentatious, active, enthusiastic and good at expressing themselves, regardless of occasions, giving people the feeling of frankness and consistency in words and deeds; Introverts are reserved, passive and reserved, and their expressions are euphemistic. If they are not completely sure, they will pause, hesitate or not express themselves, so it is normal for others to often guess his ideas, because they have too many ideas and it is difficult to say clearly in a short time.
Extroverts like to be lively and make friends. They are proud of their extensive contacts and often become the focus of dinner. People who meet for the first time can call each other brothers quickly. Introverts sometimes seem cooperative and happy, but they may not fully enjoy and feel comfortable inside. If they have a choice, they are more willing to socialize in a small area.
Mr. David in my family is a typical extrovert. He gets excited easily when there are many people. No matter a great person, a professor or a leader, he can talk about what he is doing, his past achievements and what he wants to do without any psychological obstacles. As an introvert, I feel a little direct, grandiose and lacking in connotation, but the fact is that people have many more friends than me.
Why do extroverts love to talk, not only because they want to express and dare to express, but also because they exchange information with the outside world and think about problems. It is easy for them to generate ideas, inspiration and make decisions in communication with others. Moreover, they also need feedback from others to verify right or wrong, or to affirm their own value. Introverts need space and time to think independently. They need to compare and analyze the newly acquired information with the existing intrinsic value before they can make judgments and decisions. Therefore, introverts can't "call a spade a spade", not because they are timid and "mother-in-law", but because they need a measuring process.
When I was with David, most of the time, he said, I listen. He can say whatever he wants, no matter who he hates or how to chase him ... I'm trying to answer him while listening. It seems that he didn't expect me to respond to his next words. Listening to him patiently is the loveliest thing.
Extroverts don't think too much about what they want to do. They do it first, and then make adjustments as they do it, so they do a lot of things, and of course they don't always have satisfactory results (on the one hand, they may be too impulsive at first, on the other hand, they are more disturbed by external information, so they are optimistic about this today and think that the opportunity will be better tomorrow). Introverts prefer to collect more information or do more self-reflection. Is it worth doing? Is it what I want to do most? Some people can find a clear answer and stick to it, while others have been thinking and struggling. .......
In addition to his own media work, David also started several businesses, planned or participated in several projects, selling floors, health tea sets, soy sauce, health products, football and rice paper. Damn it, almost everything. As for me, I haven't done many strange jobs, but I have learned a lot. I felt enthusiastic in the last three minutes. Now, in fact, I am also exploring myself and trying to build a stable and rich inner world.
Generally speaking, extroverts communicate with the outside world more frequently, have a high degree of socialization, have rich life experience and pursue the width or height of life; Introverts spend more time in the spiritual world, exploring the temperature and depth of life.
It's been so many days since the epidemic, and my trouble is that my daughter is always pestering me, so I can't have quiet time to read books and watch movies. David's trouble is that he can't go out all the time, and there are too many friends who want to get together and communicate.
I asked David, when did you know you were an extrovert?
David: Kindergarten. I like to call people since I was a child. I have to call them door to door on my way to school, and I have to make them promise me. Once I called a grandma Liu, and she refused for a long time, so I ran to her house and told her to go to the toilet.
Haha, I don't like calling people since I was a child. I feel stupid.