Learn to love yourself, so that we can face life better. So what should we do? The following is my recommendation on how to love yourself. I hope it will help you.

Love yourself begins with knowing yourself.

When we have emotions, when we have physical problems, when we have fierce conflicts with people around us, and when we are gradually alienated from people close to us, they all send us a signal that you need to look inward. What are your real needs? Is it the life you want now? Is this emotion what you want? Do you know your wish?

When we feel suffocated in a relationship, we want to get rid of this sense of dying. At this time, I will really understand that all these years of efforts are harmful to myself, and love needs to nourish each other. One-way efforts will only make you tired, like? The wax torch turns to ashes and tears flow dry? . The pain we have experienced is not terrible. What's precious is that if we can see ourselves from this process, really don't escape the demand of the ground for ourselves, and explore what we really want, then we won't stand still again? Slipped? Instead, I began to embark on the road of self-satisfaction.

To know yourself, you can start with your own growth experience. I have developed the current interpersonal relationship model. Does my family background have such a shadow? What kind of setbacks did I encounter when I was growing up, and how did I help myself through them? What kind of resources have I acquired and possessed in my past life experience, including my knowledge, ability, experience, family relations, social relations and so on.

Knowing yourself can start with knowing your parents. What is the interaction between father and mother, and how does their interaction affect me today? As long as I can remember, have my parents given me enough psychological nutrition? Did I get emotional support from other important people around me, such as grandparents, teachers, friends and so on?

To know yourself, you can start by knowing your emotions. When I am angry, do I point my anger at others or at myself? When I am sad, do I prefer to talk to someone or bear it silently? When I am anxious, am I willing to spend some time with myself and explore what is behind this fear and worry? When we sort out these emotions, we will understand the meaning behind them, so that we can manage our emotions calmly. Emotion is everyone's inner treasure. If we treat her well and understand her, we can dance in harmony with our emotions.

Love yourself, starting with truly accepting yourself.

There is a saying that the looks before the age of 30 are given by parents, and the looks after the age of 30 are given by themselves. I found that some women around me are very good to others and to themselves. Although their looks are not particularly outstanding, they look very comfortable and exude femininity and gentleness from the inside out. This temperament is nourished by inner beauty.

When a woman pays too much attention to external things and refuses to accept her appearance, she focuses on changing external things, such as plastic surgery, pursuing famous brands, losing weight and so on. She needs these external things to reflect her self-worth, which is precisely the performance of internal lack. On the surface, she loves herself and is willing to spend money for herself, but in fact, she is extremely unacceptable to herself. It is precisely because you don't accept your external image that you need to work hard to change, be dissatisfied with your body, and get breast augmentation; Eyes are not satisfied, cut double eyelids? But does change make you more satisfied with your appearance and more confident? Many times it just breeds dissatisfaction with other parts, so it takes time and money to endure the pain of surgery and even the potential sequelae.

I met a student in the training class. When she introduced herself, she confidently told everyone that she finally got her driver's license when she was almost 50 years old. She really didn't expect to continue to realize her dream at this age. We all sincerely admire her. Judging from her appearance, we really can't see that she is a person who is nearly 50 years old and is full of vitality. And she also generously accepted everyone's praise, because she accepted herself psychologically, and did not feel that she was old and faded, but felt that she was great. Self-confidence is the most beautiful. This kind of energy always infects people around us and makes us feel her young mind.

Love yourself, starting with being kind to your body.

An unhealthy body, no matter how expensive cosmetics you use, may hide your illness. When the body signals, if we still ignore her and don't pay attention to her, she will punish us with pain. When we begin to pay attention to our bodies, we will begin to cherish our bodies. We don't overeat, we don't stay up late, and we also learn to adjust our emotions and pressures. We began to live a regular life, while keeping in good health and nourishing our hearts, because body and mind are one.

A person who is not very good to his health can hardly say that he loves himself. In order to control the other person to get pity and sympathy, she took the way of suicide and self-harm to gain the love of others. This distorted behavior can only make you lose yourself more and bring yourself into the quagmire of destruction. A person who doesn't know how to protect himself, such as getting drunk in an unsafe environment, lacking awareness of prevention in interpersonal communication and always putting himself in danger, is also self-loathing.

Love your body, starting with a good cup of tea and a good meal. Absorb the energy endowed by heaven and earth, savor the sweetness of water and the fragrance of rice, and experience all kinds of beauty endowed by life while chewing slowly, so that the body and mind can feel harmony and strength in a relaxed state.

Love yourself, starting from doing what you like.

When you really find something you like to do, it's not too late to start again. No matter how hard you work, you are satisfied with what you like, and no matter how hard it is, you have the strength to persist. Even if you don't get any reward for the time being, you can experience a kind of self-affirmation and self-appreciation. In fact, taking the road you like means following your heart. There is no compulsion, no anxiety, no inferiority and low value, no distortion and unwillingness in this process. Everything is supported by the natural flow of power from your heart.

Interest is the best teacher. When we focus on one thing, you can be professional. When you are professional enough, success may not be difficult. Of course, spending time, energy and money on what you like and enjoying this process, this experience, inner peace and joy may have little to do with money.

I know a stay-at-home mom. After sending the children to school after finishing housework, her favorite thing to do alone is arranging flowers. She bought a lot of books about flower language and flower arrangement skills, and went to the teacher for a flower arrangement class once a week. In this class, a group of like-minded friends can exchange and share the bits and pieces of life, and their hearts are nourished in the process. The process of arranging flowers is also a creative process, and she has brought her creativity to the extreme. She often takes pictures of flower arrangement works and sends them to her circle of friends. In fact, some people want to learn flower arrangement from her, and some people want to customize her works. Everyone's affirmation and appreciation gave her a great sense of accomplishment and value.

Therefore, doing what you like, no matter how trivial, can bring you happiness; Doing things you don't like, no matter how great the achievement, will also bring you fatigue, bondage and freedom.

Love yourself, starting with taking back your excessive concern for others.

The education we received from childhood is to abandon our own needs in order to meet the needs of others, to sacrifice ourselves for others, and to pay attention to dedication and sacrifice. This educational concept has also brought a lot of reflection to today's society. For example, children themselves have no ability to protect themselves. How can they bravely fight the bad guys? For example, a psychological counselor, his psychological quality is not high, but he is enthusiastically involved in the crisis intervention of natural disasters. As a result, he not only failed to help others, but also suffered more or less psychological trauma.

We will gain our psychological needs of being recognized and affirmed by caring and caring for others. This is also encouraged and advocated by the society, but caring for others actually requires a certain degree of grasp. You always pay attention to others and ask them questions, but you ignore your health and family. Even with the understanding of the family, the relationship is still missing. Without the support of your family, your concern for others will only become passive water and eventually exhaust yourself. The ancients said that if you don't sweep a house, you can't sweep the world, that is, you should do your own thing first, care about yourself first, do yourself first, and then help others when you have time.

Of course, there is also a passive concern, that is, she will not refuse other people's demands, even if she is extremely reluctant, she will meet others' demands with a smile. This kind of repression and anger can only point to oneself, although it also pays, but it can not get a pleasant experience from helping others.

When I really began to love myself, I began to be independent and mature. I won't lose myself because I love others, I won't feel lacking because of kindness and dedication, I won't be troubled because of others' disapproval, and I won't be affected because of others' evaluation. I may not be beautiful, but my inner self-confidence, tolerance, acceptance and humility are fatal attractions. If you want to be loved, please love yourself first.

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