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How to marry a Saudi?
1. If you marry a Saudi man,

My boyfriend and I have broken up. Their religion and law are a big reason. Although this topic will touch my sore spot, I will tell you what I know.

First of all, I don't know your boyfriend's family situation. If he says that he is a real Saudi and not immigrated from other countries, then his family should be very traditional. If he is a good man, then he will certainly not do anything against his family. If he marries an alien woman, he will have a lot of trouble. Their religion protects local women. If he married a foreign women, why not marry a local one? * * Very troublesome.

* * * Religion is a must, and the whole body is black. Foreign women can wear a veil, but his head is covered.

If this is not a problem for you, then I want to congratulate you.

In a country where men are big shots, children are bound to become Saudi citizens.

He can never promise you, and he will never cheat you, good or bad.

I talked to my boyfriend for two years, but he couldn't tell his family about my existence. It is also a very strict family.

But he will put down his pride and love you wholeheartedly, just to spoil you and hold it in his hand.

But we can't go back. I'm going back to China on Friday. Let's leave everything in Malaysia. There should be no more contact.

Mo, I love you.

2. What should I pay attention to if I want to marry someone?

A few people upstairs said a lot, which was to the point and a little extreme. Every nation has its own advantages and disadvantages. We can't just judge whether the man you know is good or bad, can we? (This question should be judged by yourself. Remember to be objective, because this is the root of your future happiness. )

I just want to make some suggestions here. Based on what I have seen and heard for so many years, I think I should try not to marry foreigners, because there will be many conflicts in the future because of different living environment and ideology. Some issues that you think are unimportant, he may be very concerned about (for example, * * * going to fast is very troublesome, and he will sincerely ask you to do the same thing. But there are some things that he thinks are insignificant, but you think are huge (such as the relationship between men and women, of course, not every foreigner is casual. If you are with him, these differences and contradictions will run through your life, and the time of conflict will definitely be much longer than sweetness and happiness.

* * * Men are a little more troublesome. First of all, they have a strict obsessive-compulsive disorder (no intention to belittle the facts). If you follow him, you must follow his beliefs and start all kinds of religious activities, including dressing up according to the requirements of the doctrine (you should have seen the costume of a woman, and the robes and black robes only show your eyes, right? What do you think). Second, the world is still a masculine society at heart. If you are a very traditional person, you have to endure a series of requirements after marriage, you can't go out to work, you can't have friends of the opposite sex, and you can't do anything without your husband's permission. The daily task is to learn to cook all kinds of meals at home to coax children to wait on their husbands. These tasks will be repeated all the time. By the way, there is another very important thing. Some countries allow polygamy. If he likes it, you have no right to object.

In addition, some people are bad (only partially). They are very colorful and deceptive. They will give you many promises and tell many lies. They will say how rich he is and how rich his hometown is, and how good he will be to you all his life. . . . . . But if you really believe him, the scene you see when you come to his hometown may be barren hills, yellow sand all over the sky, 40 degrees high temperature, no running water, no electricity, no telephone, several wives and a group of children guarding a shabby house. They are all his family. The earthen house is all his property.

Hehe, I'm not alarmist. The above is the real scene of a girl I once knew in Hubei who married a man and went to her husband's hometown. This man is Sudanese, and his hometown is Donggula.

3. What is the custom of Saudi women's marriage?

In traditional families in Saudi Arabia, marriage is involuntary, and parents have the final say.

Parents are the heads of the family, especially the father has absolute authority. Moreover, according to the canon of * * *, men and women are not close, and unmarried men and women cannot communicate freely.

There are no nightclubs, no cinemas and no places to stare or chat in the street. Apart from family and relatives, young men seldom contact with women, especially girls.

Therefore, choosing a fiancee can only depend on parents and relatives and friends. During the centuries of tribal life in Saudi Arabia, the principle of choosing a marriage partner is very simple, that is, choosing within the family.

Most people think that cousins are the best spouses, followed by relatives in the tribe. * * * Religion does not encourage close relatives to get married, but it does not prohibit cousins from getting married.

But they think it is good for human and financial resources. If a girl is chosen, the mother will discuss it with her husband, while the father is generally familiar with the male members of the girl's family.

If you are not familiar with it, ask a friend. Parents will only ask their sons for advice if they agree.

As for the girl, if the two families are relatives, the young man knows a little; if not, he knows nothing. Saudi Arabia has a strict campus for boys and girls. When girls go out as adults, they are all covered with black gauze and wrapped in black robes. At the same time, they must be accompanied by a man, who is usually the girl's father or adult brother.

After finishing their studies, most girls don't work. Their contact with society is limited to attending formal friends' parties or other social activities under the leadership of their families.

In these activities, men and women each have a living room. From communication to eating, women will never see a man. When parents meet a girl, they will entrust someone to propose marriage to the woman's house.

Of course, the woman has to go through some investigation, and if she doesn't object, she will set a date for blind date. On that day, the young man and his father came to the woman's house with gifts. The main purpose was to let the woman's family, especially the girl herself, observe the young man at close range.

When you arrive at the woman's house, it is convenient for the man to separate; Men sitting in the hall; That woman is in another hall. Only the girl who wants to take pictures can bring tea or dates to the men's hall, because the young man wants to see her.

If the man is satisfied, he will try his best to contact the woman after leaving, and any wonderful method can be used. If one party thinks it is inappropriate, there will be no follow-up development, just consider it an ordinary visit.

Of course, the woman can also express her willingness or unwillingness. When the blind date is over, the woman's father usually doesn't agree to this marriage right away, but asks for a period of time to think about it and ask her daughter for advice.

If there is no disagreement between the two sides, the next step is formal engagement. The engagement day is usually chosen on Thursday or Friday, because these two days are regarded as auspicious days.

On this day, the young man and his father, accompanied by three or four male relatives and friends, came to the woman's house again with gifts such as raisins and dates. The young man respectfully delivered the marriage proposal ring and the clothes for his fiancee and her mother to the girl's father through her father, and the two sides agreed on the specific date of the wedding.

As for the amount of bride price, according to Saudi custom, both parents sit down face to face to discuss. Parents-in-law must ask for a sum of money as living expenses for their daughter in case of divorce in the future.

There are generally two ways to pay: most parents-in-law require their son-in-law to pay insurance in one lump sum before marriage; On the other hand, some parents-in-law are more sympathetic to their son-in-law's financial situation. If they divorce, they are allowed to pay, but they must have written guarantees and witnesses, and the bride price will go to the woman. Under no circumstances can this person ask. Its amount is considerable, accounting for 70% of the total bank deposits in Saudi Arabia. Leaving property in the same tribe is regarded by the Sha people as a way to preserve wealth.

The engagement day is called "possession day", which means that from this day on, the young man will legally have his sweetheart. After the engagement, men and women can finally "freely" communicate; Telephone exchange, accompanied by parents or brothers, the woman can go out to play and talk with the man, but the girl is still wrapped in a black robe and not exposed at all.

In this mutual understanding, if you are not satisfied, either party can propose to dissolve the marriage relationship. But it is considered shameful for either party to go back on its word.

If the two are the same, it means that the wedding is just around the corner. Girls can talk about marriage at the age of 14.

Weddings usually last for 3 days, from Wednesday to Friday. On Wednesday afternoon, the two sides formally signed an engagement, and on Thursday, the two sides were ready to entertain close relatives; Friday is a national rest day, and the bride and groom are officially married.

Under the auspices of an imam, the fathers of both sides sat face to face. The groom implored his future father-in-law: "In the name of * * * *, will you marry your daughter to me?" The father-in-law replied: "In the name of * * * * * * *.

4. How to hold a Saudi wedding?

The Kingdom of Saudi Arabia is a world-famous country of precepts, and its wedding customs are very unique. -The marriage of young men and women in Saudi Arabia has always followed the traditional practice, that is, if parents make a decision and rely on the media, they must get married in their own families. In Saudi Arabia, aunts and uncles can be seen everywhere. Men and women are old enough to get married. Enthusiastic matchmakers will come to talk about relatives. When the man's family is satisfied with the woman's conditions, the man's mother, aunt, aunt, sister and others come to the woman's house to see the girl's appearance and the situation of the woman's family. When you come back, you will introduce it to the young man in detail, focusing on the girl's style. The young man was satisfied and chose a day to go to the woman's house for a blind date accompanied by a few friends. On this day, the girl's father talked with the guests. The girl came out to deliver drinks, gave each guest a drink and then returned. In the process of delivering drinks, the young man should observe the girl, and the girl also took the opportunity to spy on the young man. Two people can only flirt, can't talk, and can't touch alone. Although it was a short moment, most people fell in love at first sight, and the young man rarely saw the girl again. We can't meet again until the wedding night. This is naturally related to Saudi customs. After blind date, men and women can get engaged. In the traditional concept of Saudi Arabia, the bride legally belongs to the groom from the date of engagement, so they call the engagement day' possession day'. On this day, all members, relatives and friends of the two families get together, singing and dancing, and celebrate together. Male guests and female guests engage in activities separately. After the engagement, both men's and women's families are busy preparing dowry and dowry. Saudi weddings usually last two weeks. During the period, two relatives and friends of men and women got together, singing and dancing, and the atmosphere was lively. On the wedding day and the first day after marriage, activities should be arranged according to traditional customs. On the day before the wedding, the bride should dye her palms and soles with henna. Put on a national costume called ‘Nafnufuli', which is embroidered with gold thread. But now it has gradually become European, and many brides love to wear white wedding dresses. At the wedding, the activity is held at the woman's home. Relatives and friends of the woman's family came to celebrate. The host wants to kill chickens and sheep and entertain guests. On this evening, a ceremony will be held in Nale. The bride sat in a chair decorated with ribbons and silk in the middle of the house. A group of women and young girls surrounded her, waving handkerchiefs, shaking fans and singing folk songs of blessing loudly. Some folk song and dance troupes also came to celebrate and entertain all night. Although the wedding was full of joy and warmth, the bride never smiled. According to local traditional ideas, if the bride smiles at the wedding, it means that she is willing to leave her parents, she will be regarded as an unfilial daughter and will be criticized by public opinion. Not only that, in some parts of Saudi Arabia, young men and women are not allowed to smile when dating. If one party even smiles in front of the other, no matter how happy the marriage is, it will be denied immediately. The next morning, the bride, accompanied by relatives and friends, came to the groom's house. In-laws warmly welcome all the guests. Along the way, the bride cried and her girlfriends sang and danced with her. The bridegroom's house was decorated with lanterns, drums and music, and a sacrifice was held to entertain guests. All the rooms in the groom's house are open, with carpets and a circle of mats along the wall. After the guests arrived, men and women separated and said good luck and peace to each other. The servant brought black tea and juice. Please help yourself to the guests. After drinking the drink, a servant came up to the guests with a bottle of rose perfume and dropped a few drops on everyone's hands in turn. At this moment, another servant came in with a censer in his hand, and the smoke was very clear. The incense burner is burning with Indian incense wood and has a strong smell. When the servant came to the guest, the guest fanned the censer with his hand and sniffed it for good luck. Then the guests sat down and accepted the wedding banquet. There will be a wedding celebration. Guests should give the newlyweds gifts, mostly cloth, jewelry, handicrafts, etc., as well as cash. After the gift, a ceremony of "Sabahi Ye" will be held. The so-called "Sabahi Ye" means that the bride wants to show everyone the dowry and jewelry she brought from her family. Saudis pay attention to face. Parents always try their best to buy more for their married daughters. In this way, when the daughter shows her dowry at the wedding, she can get everyone's applause, and then she will feel that there is light on her face. After the "Sabahi Ye" ceremony, the guests continued to celebrate, and the newlyweds entered the bridal chamber. The bride's chastity occupies an extremely important position in the traditional concept of Saudi Arabia. If the husband finds out that his wife is unfaithful on their wedding night, he will say "I divorced you" three times. Marriage can be abolished immediately. Once a young woman is divorced by her husband on her wedding night, she will lose her reputation and it will be difficult for her to remarry. If a husband divorces his wife and thinks calmly afterwards, feels sorry for his wife, or considers that he cannot afford to marry another woman, he can reunite with his divorced wife without any ceremony. However, he can only marry for the second time, not for the third time. If they get married for the third time, they will be stoned for adultery. Weddings in Saudi Arabia are usually ostentatious, with big banquets and luxurious new houses, and every member of the family will have beautiful new clothes. Some people still think that it is not fashionable to hold a wedding at home, and it will cost more to arrange the wedding in a luxury hotel and invite guests widely. In addition to the rich and dignitaries, many people have to borrow money from banks because of the ostentation and extravagance of marriage and the amazing cost of wedding. After marriage, they lived a tight life and paid off their debts slowly. In order to help young people solve the problem of insufficient funds when preparing for marriage, Saudi Arabia provides them with a loan, which is an interest-free loan with a term of 5 to 10 years. It should be said that the conditions are favorable. There is another amazing phenomenon in Saudi Arabia. Before the wedding, the father-in-law and mother-in-law asked the son-in-law for a dowry, which was called "Yintai Aixi 'er" locally. If the son-in-law can't pay back the money, the happy marriage in front of him will become a bubble. Saudis think they need one before the wedding.