1, the gift is appropriate.
Generally speaking, the gift is too light and meaningless, and it is easy to be misunderstood as looking down on him, especially for people who are not close. And if the gift is too light, it is more difficult to ask others to do something, and the chance of success is almost zero. But if the gift is too expensive, it will make the recipient suspected of accepting bribes, especially for superiors and colleagues. Except for some people who love to take advantage and are courageous, ordinary people are likely to decline politely, or even if they accept it, they will pay it, or they will find ways to repay it later. Isn't this forcing people to spend? If the other party refuses, your money has already been spent, and it's useless to keep it, which will cause a lot of trouble. As most people often say, "spend money to find guilt", why bother? Therefore, the choice of gift weight is based on the premise that the other party can accept it happily, and strive to do more with less money; Spend more money on good deeds.
2. The interval between gifts is appropriate.
The time interval of giving gifts is also very particular, and it should not be too frequent or too long. The giver may be well-off or eager for success, so he often delivers big bags to his door. Some people think that such generosity will definitely win the favor of others, but when you think about it, it is not. Because your frequency of giving gifts is too purposeful. In addition, reciprocity, people must return your favor. Generally speaking, it is appropriate to choose important festivals, celebrations and birthday gifts. The gift is neither abrupt nor empty, and you can feel at ease when you accept it, which is the best of both worlds.
3. Understand customs and taboos
Before giving a gift, you should know the identity, hobbies and national habits of the recipient, so as not to cause trouble when giving a gift. A man went to the hospital to visit a patient and brought a bag of apples to express his condolences. But it caused trouble. It happens that the patient is from Shanghai, and the word "apple" in Shanghai has the same pronunciation as "death". Isn't it a curse to send apples? Because the giver didn't know the situation, he broke up in discord. In view of this, gifts must be considerate and avoid complications. For example, don't send bells, because "bell" and "end" are homophonic, which makes people feel unlucky; It is boring to send a poor painting and calligraphy to intellectuals with high cultural literacy; Giving Muslims an image of a pig as a decorative design may make people jump out.
Gift-giving skills:
1. Borrow flowers to offer Buddha.
If you send local products, it can be said that they are brought by people in your hometown, and some of them are given to each other for tasting. There were not many things and I didn't spend money on them, so I didn't buy them on purpose. Ask him to accept it. Generally speaking, the recipient is afraid that your refusal with too strong a purpose is expected to ease and will accept your gift.
The second step is to sneak into Chencang
If you send something like wine, it is better to say that someone gave you two bottles of wine and asked you to have a drink with each other. This bottle of wine will be given as a gift, and the relationship will be closer, and there will be no trace.
3. Borrow a horse to lead the way
Sometimes you want to give a gift to someone, but the other person has nothing to do with you. You might as well choose the birthday and wedding day of the giver and invite several acquaintances to send gifts to congratulate you, so that the recipient will not refuse. When you know that this idea is your idea afterwards, it will certainly change your opinion and achieve the purpose of giving gifts and friendship with everyone's help. This is the best policy.
Replace trees with flowers.
Mr. Zhang has something to entrust Mr. Liu to do, and wants to send some gifts to settle it, but he is afraid that Mr. Liu will refuse to refute it in person. Mr. Zhang's wife is very familiar with Mr. Liu's girlfriend, so Mr. Zhang used his wife's diplomatic means to invite her to visit with a gift. Success in one fell swoop, ceremony finished, and things finished. It seems that sometimes the direct attack is not as effective as the indirect drill.
5. Let's talk about borrowing first
If you send something, you might as well say that you left it at home and let him use it first and buy it later; If you give money, you can take some flowers first and return them later. As long as you don't urge him to pay back the money, it will always be a gift, and it will also reduce the psychological burden of the recipient, and the purpose of your gift will be achieved.
Seize the opportunity to lay eggs
A subordinate owed his boss and always wanted to repay him, but there was no chance. One day, he came across the calligraphy and painting embedded in the boss's mahogany frame, which felt like rubbings and didn't match the elegant furnishings at home. It happens that his uncle is a famous calligrapher in the country, and he has the calligraphy and painting he sent at hand. He immediately brought the calligraphy and painting and put it in the frame. Not only did his boss not object, but he liked it very much, and the purpose of giving gifts was finally achieved.
7. Bridge by road
When giving a gift, you can tell the recipient that you bought it at ex-factory price, wholesale price and preferential price, and charge the recipient some fees symbolically. The effect received is generally the same as giving a gift. Because the recipient paid the money, he felt at ease when collecting things, and had no worries.