-Ji Xianlin "This Life"
On the question of self-knowledge, Mr. Ji Xianlin once said: Everyone has a self, which is of course the closest to himself and should be the easiest to know. Facts have proved that, on the contrary, the self is the least easily recognized.
From the emperor to the people, the purpose of knowing yourself and knowing yourself is nothing more than knowing yourself and being diligent in correcting.
Yongzheng had a lot to say about how to deal with negligence. He often instructs his officials to "make mistakes if they can" and "make mistakes if they can't". What is commendable is that Yongzheng also has a clear understanding of "my fault". Once he finds that he is wrong, he can openly admit it and correct it immediately.
Yongzheng once appointed a man named Zhou Ying to command the Tibetan army. Later, he found that this man was mediocre and impetuous, so he confessed to the minister that it was a big mistake to use this man in this matter. This is really my fault.
In the third year of Yongzheng (1725), a Taoist named ieee fellow in Zhejiang said that he would donate 42,000 silver to build the West Lake project. When Yongzheng learned about it, he gave a big order: let him donate. If he doesn't donate, I won't let him go easily His reputation as an official in recent years is too bad. Make him pay for it.
Wang Jun wanted to donate silver to repair the project, but he was scolded by the emperor. In order to win the trust of the emperor, Wang Junben said that in addition to 42 thousand silver, he would also donate 62 thousand silver.
This time, Yongzheng carefully read the resume of ieee fellow. After understanding the situation, he gave an instruction that was almost unexpected to ordinary people: "Hang it all, I made a big mistake! I remembered my name by mistake. Ieee fellow has a good reputation as an official. Last time, I took him for Ma Zhonghua. My fault, shameful, shameful. "
Yongzheng also told Fu Min, the governor of Zhejiang Province, to tell ieee fellow the whole story, and advised Taoist priests not to donate the 2,000 silver from the monkey. With mixed feelings, ieee fellow insisted on donating 42,000 pieces of silver to repair the West Lake. On the one hand, this incident reflects that Yongzheng, as an emperor, scolds officials somewhat like a child's play, but on the other hand, it can also reflect his magnanimous mind of publicly admitting his mistakes after he knows them.
Compared with the ancients, people today sometimes overestimate their talents, knowledge, morality and achievements. I seldom reflect on my mistakes and always feel good about myself. This is not good for yourself, but also harmful to society. Many personnel disputes and social contradictions arise from this.
Mr. Ji Xianlin once commented on himself: I am a cautious and introverted person. Sometimes you think about the details. ..... I made many mistakes in the past and hurt some people. But that's not intentional, it's my low level and lack of self-cultivation.
Why don't we learn this spirit modestly?
Lack of friends and diligence in correcting them are compulsory courses in life.
For life, the earlier the class, the better. A bosom friend is knowing yourself. Not the appearance, but the inner world. Not for a while, but for a lifetime.
So how do you know yourself correctly? How should we know ourselves correctly? What are the ways to know yourself correctly?
In fact, people do not need a formula to know themselves. First of all, the understanding of self should conform to one's actual situation. That is, we can understand our own characteristics, advantages and disadvantages objectively, correctly and comprehensively.
Because of the different social environment, people's thoughts are always changing. Everyone needs to constantly update their ideas and improve their understanding of themselves, so as to cultivate their own conduct and develop themselves in a good direction. We should not only know our external beauty, such as appearance, clothes, manners, manners and speech, but also know our internal qualities, such as knowledge, psychology, morality and ability. A person's beauty is often manifested in the unity of inner and outer.
We should also have enough courage to face up to our shortcomings and deficiencies. "No gold is perfect, no one is perfect", each of us has our own shortcomings and our own bright spots. We should learn to pay more attention to our own advantages and strengths, the purpose of which is not to be complacent and happy, but to think about how to carry forward in the future and make up for our own shortcomings.
In the face of the complicated world of life, people should never focus on pain and trouble, so that the light of life will be dim; If you turn your eyes to happiness, you will feel happiness. Don't just see your own shortcomings, it will be pessimistic and disappointed. There are many people in the world who can't see their own shortcomings, "look at their own flowers and look at other people's tofu dregs." Smart people will keep themselves away from this group. Vulgar people like to compare their own advantages with others' shortcomings, which can only lead to complacency, arrogance, stagnation and even retrogression.
Things are always changing, and nothing is static. As the saying goes, "We should look at ourselves, others and the world from a developmental perspective, discover our new strengths and weaknesses in time, and strive to turn our weaknesses into strengths through our own efforts and constantly improve ourselves.
The way to know yourself is to know yourself through self-observation. To be a conscientious person, you should always reflect on your performance in daily life, analyze what kind of person you are, and accurately find out your strengths and weaknesses.
Self-observation is an important way to educate and improve yourself.
And sometimes you have to learn to know yourself through others. The poem says, "I don't know the true face of Lushan Mountain, but toward which corner of the mountain." Sometimes it's really hard to know yourself. As the saying goes, the authorities are fascinated and the bystanders are clear. The attitude and evaluation of people around us can help us to know ourselves again and understand ourselves. We should not only respect the attitude and evaluation of others, but also calmly analyze them. Do not blindly follow or ignore the attitudes and evaluations of others.
As Mr. Ji Xianlin said: "I think I am by no means a genius, a person with strange materials and abilities, but a person who never slips away;" But I can't say I'm a fool. I can't tell you what special talent I have. I like painting as well as music, but I have no talent. When I was studying in middle school, I secretly drew teachers in class. My deskmate draws more like a teacher than I do, and I have to be convinced. I envy many students who can do it all by themselves, but I can't do anything. "
When you know your own shortcomings, it is important not to lie.
Ji Lao, who dared to face his shortcomings, later became a veritable everyone. Generally successful people always compare their own "shortcomings" with others' "strengths", which may be the difference between them and ordinary people.
This tells us from another angle, don't believe too much in the flattery of those mythological masters in society, but believe that you will succeed in your studies or career through hard work and hard work.
It doesn't matter if you make mistakes, it's most important to correct them when you know them.
Tell an example of "the prodigal son never changes his money". There is a child who used to be the standard-bearer of the mountain village primary school. After playing truant, he mixed in the society, fell into the ranks of criminals and spent several years in prison. After his release, he returned to his hometown. When he saw the national flag flying over the school again, he knelt down feebly and burst into tears. Through introspection, reform and self-improvement, he finally turned over a new leaf and was fortunate to be a teacher in this school. He often tells his own stories to students, encouraging them to be diligent in introspection, be brave in correcting them and not to defile the color of the national flag.
Sometimes not only a person needs introspection, but also a nation needs introspection. Once in a museum, two countries held exhibitions at the same time: one showed its past glory and the other its sad history. And "be brave after knowing the shame" and "never forget the past", I think we can remember the national humiliation and dare to learn a profound lesson from the disaster. The latter is more commendable than the former.
For individual life, the process of talking is equal to introspection, and the realm of introspection is change. Regardless of ancient and modern times, people who strive for progress attach importance to introspection.
Zeng Shen, a disciple of Confucius, reflects on himself countless times every day: is it not enough to care about others, is it not honest enough to communicate with friends, and is it not reviewed? Because he can find and correct shortcomings in time, he became a noble, knowledgeable and famous saint.
"If it can be changed, that would be great."
When life is confused, when the soul is distorted, or accidentally falls into the abyss of regret; Or when you are self-righteous and complacent; Introspection, like a pool of clear water, washes away the dirt in our minds, such as confusion, depression, shallowness, impetuousness, complacency and arrogance, so that fresh blood can boil again and dim life can be rejuvenated.
◆ Tuguna New Tuguna New Language "Zhuangzi? Deliberately: spit: exhale; Inhale. At first, it refers to the metabolism of human breath, and later it became a health preserving method of Taoism. Now the metaphor is to abandon the old and the bad and absorb the new and the good.
Mao Zedong has a famous saying: "Proletarian political parties must also be innovative in order to be full of vitality." This is a political party leader's idea of "going to the old and welcoming the new".
What contemporary people need is to spit out those stale ideas and suck in fresh ones. Just like things in our computers, new useful things are kept and old useless things are discarded.