Dude, you can be stupid for a while, but not forever! I used to be introverted, self-abased, silent, dead house, unconfident, like to close myself, like to avoid efforts, like to cheat others, like to have fun outside all night, like to drink and sing alone, like the dark and deep environment, like to brush my mobile phone under the covers in the middle of the night until I fall asleep, like the incisive feeling after indulgence, like the street in the morning 1, and don't like the lights at 5 o'clock in the morning. If the ultimate goal of life is to pursue happiness, then I used to be a complete failure. Later, after several years of study, I summed up some personal experiences and formed a set of codes of conduct. These codes of conduct have benefited me a lot, and I have gradually become a happy person. There are many reasons why a person is unhappy. Don't be afraid. One at a time. Next, I will mention 10 unhappy phenomena, and attach a solution with the meal. I hope you can benefit from this article and become happy. Go to bed too late! No breakfast! What is the simplest, rude and immediate way to improve happiness? Good morning! Point! Sleep! The advantages of going to bed early are: good for your health! Not so cold! You look good! Going to bed early can reduce negative emotions! Improve interpersonal relationships! Improve your attention the next day! There was a time when life was super self-disciplined, sleeping at 10 o'clock at night and starting at 5 o'clock in the morning. My waist doesn't hurt any more, nor does my leg. I can climb to the eighth floor in one breath, and everyone is sunny and refreshed. From 5 am to 7 am, the work efficiency is extremely high. Self-discipline is not painful, and self-disciplined people will realize what true happiness and freedom are. Besides, please give me breakfast! People who eat breakfast seriously are the most beautiful-Archimedes loves breakfast girls, and their luck will not be too bad-Socrates, behind every successful person, there must be a delicate and nutritious breakfast-Obama, I have met great gods from all walks of life, they are all busy flying, but no matter how busy they are, they will not treat breakfast badly. Be sure to drink a glass of lemonade in the morning and eat coarse grains on an empty stomach. There must be some dried cranberries, broccoli and walnuts in your breakfast ... people may not be smarter and more diligent than you, but they may just eat better than you! Get up early, you have time and mood to have a good breakfast. So there is a strong causal relationship between these two points. People who get up late only deserve Shandong pancakes! It's no use asking master to add two eggs! Don't compare yourself with others. Many people like to compare blindly, which will lead to meaningless inferiority and unhappiness. There must be such a scene in your life. I bought a biography, and after reading it, I think others are really awesome. If only I could do the same. On the last portal, you saw that a young man had achieved great success in a certain field, and you thought, Hey, it's much worse than others, and you feel like a bubble. Brush my circle of friends and see A show a photo of driving in America, B show a photo with a celebrity, and C show an inspirational picture of punching cards in scallops 100 days ..... So, my brain is out of control, and I feel that other people's lives are good, and I am most frustrated. Everyone has his own specialties and hobbies, and he is nothing. Stop thinking about it! Think again, your brain needs watts. Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? As a person, we must understand our strengths and talents, and our commonness and incompetence. Yes, they are all showing off. They are showing off their strength and the height they have reached. How did these achievements come from? It is based on their personal efforts and the degree of personal possession of social resources ... the difference between people is too great! There are too many unequal places! Everyone lives in a different family, class, cultural circle and country ... Everyone is born with a different mission. You compare the strengths of others with your ordinary side, and you compare it with wool. Don't take risks and refuse new things. I used to be a constant person. I went to the tea shop to buy milk tea, and I only drank the same two flavors, either lemon black tea or Boba milk tea. You see, once I only choose these two flavors, then there are only two flavors in my life. Moreover, the boundaries I perceive are also blocked, just these two kinds. Being in constant contact with new things has one of the greatest benefits, and life will have a sense of hierarchy and freshness. Rich experience will enhance the width and breadth of life. Rigid life always brings people only dead things. You watch TV every day, at two o'clock every day and play games at home every day. Life is boring, so let alone happiness. Senior one and senior two are addicted to playing Dota. The only pleasure in life is playing Dota, which is just like taking drugs. It's really scary to think about it now. I have been repeating the same thing every day for two years. If I spend two years traveling around the world, it will be enough for me to run 45 laps. As a former game lover, Zipper said that the debater Ellie has a sentence that particularly touched me: If you persist in driving the demand for speed in new york's games at the age of struggle, you will lose the opportunity to accumulate strength and visit new york. Too weak, too soft. If someone infringes on you, you must let him know. I have met many people who were bullied and didn't fight back on the spot, and then forced to go there afterwards &; The more I think about it, the angrier I get, and finally I'm so angry that I can't take care of myself. They will think to themselves: hey! If only I fought back like this! A q index full marks. A person can't make trouble, but don't be afraid when things come. If someone keeps silent when they step on your new shoes, please apologize! Your roommate listens to music without headphones. It's very loud. Tell him straight out! Someone is queuing in front of * * *, please warn him! Big fight! If it's the worst, fight! It is better to sulk than to meet a strong man. Please remember that a person who doesn't know how to protect his rights and interests will not be happy. Don't like sports, don't be surprised, you know? Exercise can resist negative emotions and depression. Walking out of the gym in a sweat, I feel all tense, let alone how happy I am! Haruki Murakami once said: "The body is everyone's temple. ? "Everyone has the responsibility to keep strong and clean. Look, a fallen man, he must not exercise. A person who loves sports will not be in a bad mood. The fall of the mind begins with the fall of the body. Successful people pay great attention to their health. People are born in the flesh and have never taken the elixir. Ensuring the vigor during the day is the fundamental guarantee of success. Health is fundamental, please cherish life. Life is not a struggle. Without life, you can't start over. Have no hobbies. You must have a hobby! Don't tell me your hobby is picking hands on Taobao or shopping! Everyone has a trough, and everyone has a dark period of emotion. How to spend this time until dawn is a science. What concept? To put it to the extreme, when you are desperate for the world, it can pull you out of the quagmire, restore your calm and return to the bright world. This is the meaning of this hobby. Without hobbies, you will fall into negative emotions. Remember, hobbies are the outlet of emotions. Most urban white-collar workers face this problem, so many will sign up for interest classes. For example, practicing calligraphy, dancing, going to the living museum to do yoga, running a marathon ... Many people just started to learn a new thing, not because they like it, but because they need to play during the period of depression. Learn to think: Oh, yes, this thing is quite interesting. Ignoring the happiness of self is very simple, and I don't know how to be blessed when I am blessed. I am numb to all the beautiful things around me and feel that I deserve it, so my happiness naturally declines. Whenever this happens, I will wear shoes and go out for a walk. Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? I will take the bus to the emergency room of the hospital to see the pain of others and then look at myself. In this case, it will be much easier. I will sincerely feel my happiness. In honeypots, it is difficult for people to realize that their environment is sweet. Running away from the honeypot will help you find happiness again. You know, with the passage of time, people's happiness will disappear. So you need to constantly confirm and realize your happiness. When I was in college, I knew a classmate whose family was very poor and both parents worked in Yunnan. Every time I go home, she has to take care of her grandmother who is paralyzed by cerebral hemorrhage, and help her wipe her body, change diapers and feed her ... Every time I see her, I will reflect on myself. After reflection, I can't be melodramatic any more. Everyone who always listens to others and doesn't listen to himself is unique. Everyone has his own life to live. If a person always walks along a road against his will, it is difficult to walk well. You should live your own life and decide your own life. Especially don't listen to your parents and some relatives. Everyone in the world is confined to his own experience world, which is not always beneficial or even harmful to others. People's origins, personalities, destinies and backgrounds are so different. What advice can your parents give you? "Be a civil servant, iron rice bowl! ? ",or? "Learn business, do business to make money! ? "。 What advice can your relatives give you? "Go to state-owned enterprises! Big companies are good! ? ",or? "Find a good man to marry?" . The world does not operate according to a unified rule of thumb, but changes with people. The road is always your own, not pointed out to you by others. You must have read the report that a white-collar worker with an annual salary of 400,000 resigned to become a baker, and a programmer with a monthly salary of five figures resigned to open an inn in go to dali ... I made my own decision and won't regret it. These people who make their own decisions are truly happy people. Being numb to life does not capture happiness. Happiness has nothing to do with money. Happiness comes from personal standards of happiness. Only by lowering the standard of happiness can we improve people's perception of happiness. Junichi Watanabe told you in Happy Talent that normal urination is happiness. Did you get a word from someone else? "Thank you?" Is happiness. When you are hungry like a dog, a bowl of porridge is delicious. When I want to be a dog, a bottle of Nongfu Spring is full of nectar. People sometimes need the ability to capture happiness. Don't define happiness as sleeping with Wu Yifan, marrying Lin Chi-ling, marrying a rich family, or being worth over 100 million yuan. With this? "No time?" Will your wish be happy? Are you kidding International? It is a common phenomenon among teenagers to think too much and do too little. During the day, they all wither like old people, but at night, their brains are extremely active and often worry? "What is the meaning of life?" 、? "What is the purpose of living?" This * * * problem, all think of yourself as Hegel and Nietzsche. This is a sign of lack of mobility. Remember, slow action will hinder the realization of goals and greatly reduce happiness. So, how to solve it? There are generally three reasons why a person falls into fantasy and does not act. 1 the first point is that if there is no goal, don't spread it out. If you have no goal, find one. I have a goal, but I always struggle whether to do it or not. I want to say: people should dare to choose. If you don't make a decision, then your energy will be consumed in entanglement. Where is the energy to do business? My suggestion is to reduce the decision-making time and cut the gordian knot. In other words, don't give yourself too long time to decide. I've met a lot of awesome people who make decisions in less than 60 seconds. So for you, can you control the decision-making time within 5 minutes? The goal is too big to be achieved. I met a Chinese department student and showed me his summer plan. It says: Watch a Dream of Red Mansions in 5 days, and watch war and peace in 10 days ... You see, everyone likes to make this decision? "Is it cool?" This plan, but unrealistic! Show Mo Yan that you may not finish reading it! My suggestion here is: refine the goal, refine it constantly, and the more detailed the better! It's as thin as a toothpick ... to form small goals, so that people will have the internal motivation to act. The more detailed your plan is, the more operable it will be! For example, if you finish A Dream of Red Mansions with two Harle chapters, make sure the number of chapters you read every day. Only such a plan can be realized. Please share it with more people. Let's go! Stop lying in bed! The sun is shining! ,