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I watched TV with the old man at home last weekend. I usually don't watch advertisements, but the elderly like them at home. Yesterday he commented on an advertisement, and I know he also listened selectively.

One of the advertisements he watched was a program about keeping in good health, introducing medication about sleep. To put it bluntly, TV bought medicine. The old man told me seriously that there is no sleep club, it must be fake! I watched the program, and it was said on TV that a medicine recommended in the original health care program was recommended by the China Sleep Society. Moreover, the old people think that there is no sleeping society in China, which is definitely false. This is his analysis.

Because the old man has been suffering from diabetes for many years, when watching the program about treating diabetes, the old man not only wrote down the phone number provided by the program, but also told us many times to buy him the medicine introduced above. We worked for him for a long time and told him that those drugs didn't work. Seeing that we were not interested, he told his wife's brother and sister. He is very persistent in this introduction, and only those related to his diabetes and eyes attach great importance to it. Some time ago, I sent a small advertisement to the young lady's husband in the street, and I had to take it with me.

He shrugged off the handling of some of my problems. I brought some dandelions from my aunt. She told me that dandelions are cold and I can't drink them. Because my stomach is not good, I took some Chinese medicine. He thinks that Chinese medicine has no effect.

I told my wife that grandpa's typical selective acceptance: everything related to him is important, and nothing related to him is worth mentioning. When it has nothing to do with yourself, your mind is clear, but when it is related to yourself, you lose your analytical ability.

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The so-called selective listening means listening to some topics that interest you and filtering out those that you are not interested in.

Almost everyone has the problem of selective listening.

Some time ago, a parent told me that he told his children a lot of truth seriously, and children rarely carried it out. However, he said that he could play for half a day after finishing his homework on weekends and travel on holidays, which the children remembered clearly. Sunday afternoon became his "legal" play time, and he began to learn to play there as soon as he had a holiday. Parents are so angry, why don't they listen and do what they shouldn't? I'm talking about children's selective listening, which is good for him and bad for him.

Almost everyone doesn't want to hear things that are detrimental to their image, and they don't want to hear things that they are not interested in. A person's mentality and attention will often become the reason for selective listening. "Attitude is everything", a person's mentality determines a person's attitude, and attitude determines the way to deal with problems and treat them.

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Psychology divides listening into five stages: ignoring (or listening absently), pretending to listen (or listening passively), selective listening, attentive listening and empathetic communication listening.

Selective listening is just in the middle stage of listening, between listening and not listening.

Neglect (or absent-minded listening): Many poor students have no learning effect in class, which is such an absent-minded learning, at least an absent-minded listening. They are almost absent-minded in class, thinking about things that have nothing to do with their studies. Even listening to a few pieces of information and then moving to other places is an "open" thinking. For example, when a teacher talks about a concept, students will think of something else far away, transfer to the information they are interested in, and selectively receive it, while the keywords explained to the teacher will hardly enter their minds.

Pretend to listen (or be beautiful), just like we adults attend some meetings, and be beautiful about what the speaker says. Formally, we also attend meetings, but psychologically, we reject such meetings. On the surface, it is also to show that you are listening by nodding your head, which often makes the speaker mistakenly think that he has fully understood what he said. This is the teacher's feeling. Students understand it in class, but not in the exam, so they will reveal clues.

Active listening is the normal learning state of most students. The student can actively listen to everything the teacher says.

The highest stage of listening is empathy and communication. Learners and writers love each other and see the world with each other's eyes, hearts, brains and souls. This is the highest learning style we talk about. China students fall in love with the author, British students participate in the practice in English environment, and science students enter the state of scientific inquiry. Active learning with understanding and respect is deep learning.

Then in the middle stage of selective listening, the listener only pays attention to the parts he is interested in and filters out all the contents that are not to his taste or against his meaning. In the learning stage, this kind of listening is terrible. Only the subjects and teachers who are interested in them are studying hard, and they have no initiative to learn.

As far as we educators are concerned, parents should pay attention to stimulating students' interest in learning, so that students like schools and teachers, rather than criticizing teachers at home. Long-term degradation of schools and teachers will make students feel disgusted with schools and distrust teachers.

For teachers, it is necessary to improve their professional ethics and professional level, take classes that students like and become teachers that students trust.