There are three divorced women around me, all of whom are beautiful and have excellent temperament. Without exception, they are all strong women. They divorced not because they were strong women, but because they divorced and became strong women.
1 First of all, talk about my best friend Xin.
In fact, we have only known each other for more than three years, but we hit it off and get along more closely than friends of 30 years. She is one of my masters. She bought a second-hand house in the community I managed on October 20 15, and the first time she met was when she came to go through the formalities.
Height1.66m, slim and graceful. There is a shadow of Yang li Ping, with a good temperament and a little cold. I know the house that three sisters bought for their parents. She runs a beauty salon and her business is booming.
We met for the second time. She saw me sitting there thoughtfully and asked me what was bothering me. I said that my son didn't like studying, although I deeply understood it, but it was very nerve-racking. I also said my difficulties.
She told me her story without hesitation. Most people don't tell anyone about their first divorce. On the contrary, she proudly said that she is a divorced mother with two daughters. Can it be as difficult as her?
She divorced in 2009. She and her husband fell in love freely, and her husband fell in love with her at first sight. At that time, they were in full swing. Her husband's family was very rich, and her marriage was an envied happy ending.
But then she was unhappy. Her husband abused her for 15 years, and the root cause was her husband's male chauvinism. She was only 19 years old when she got married and knew nothing. She thinks that love is everything, but in fact love is the most difficult thing to wear away. My mother-in-law suspected that she had given birth to two daughters. At that time, she had no job and had a low status at home.
At that time, her husband was only a temporary worker in the credit union, and she supported her husband to go out for further study and get a diploma. She is very diligent. She runs a restaurant and a barber shop, and the business is very good. In this way, I raised my husband for two years and helped him become a frequent visitor. Later, my husband became the director of the unit.
However, her husband has a problem. He abused her after drinking, just as Anjiahe was not talking to strangers. He fought without mercy and cried and apologized after the fight.
She put up with it for 15 years, learned from the bitter experience and resolutely filed for divorce. At that time, many people thought she was crazy. Her husband and she are also well matched in appearance and rich in economy. They have a palace-like house with everything. Even if my husband hits a few times, can't he bear it in the house, car and ticket? Who can be quiet?
She said she didn't want to go so far, so she put up with it for 15 years, but later she wanted to live for herself, no matter what the cost. At the time of divorce, her husband gave her a loan of 100,000 yuan for a house and 65,438+100,000 yuan for a car. She took two daughters with her. She said that her mother could not be separated from her children.
She was afraid of the shadow in her children's hearts, and sold the house her husband gave her after the divorce. Sending the eldest daughter to a boarding high school in Tianjin and the second daughter to a private school in Taiyuan costs 65,438+100000 a year. She kept the divorce secret from her two children until the second daughter went to the second grade and the eldest daughter went to high school.
She runs a beauty salon and lives in the store without a house. Her hard work made her business prosperous. She paid off the foreign debt of 654.38+10,000 yuan, replaced her car with an Audi Q5 and bought a house of 130 square meters.
She is in high spirits now, and I am embarrassed to say that she handled her two daughters' rebellious period wisely. She said don't say you are difficult. No matter how hard it is, you have to face it yourself. I have to face everything by myself. No one in the world is difficult. The point is that complaining is useless. I have to find a way to face it. I have to fight with my children. I can't stand still.
She is the only person besides me who supports me to let my son go to Taiyuan New Oriental to make up lessons. Several times, because my son couldn't change to an Internet cafe, when I was distressed to spend money and wanted to give up, she said to me, "If the money is gone, I can make it again. How much can I buy if time is running out? "
She changed my mind a lot, just like a wise man in life, how difficult things are here are small things. When I praised her maturity and wisdom, she said, "Don't envy me. What I mean by maturity is the most difficult experience, or you are so simple and happy, so cherish what you have. "
She is living a rich life now. Both her daughters are excellent. The eldest daughter has been admitted to a good university, and the second daughter is about to take the college entrance examination. All sunshine is positive. Even with a new family, her husband still gets along well with her.
2. Ying Hehui who runs a clothing store.
Let's talk about two other divorced women, He Hui. They are also very beautiful women with good temperament. They joined the clothing store together, which is the best clothing business in our county.
Britain and He Hui also have a good husband's family, but it seems that most boys from rich families are playboys. Ying's husband had an affair and ruthlessly asked for a divorce. Ying is a princess with her hands out of the water, but she is brave and insists on taking her son and doing it herself. Relying on her previous sensitivity to clothes, she opened a franchise store, which is well managed by her good contacts.
Hui, too, because her husband has money at home, fights all day, commits suicide when he is drunk, and is sentenced to life imprisonment. Hui also divorced her husband, and she and Ying hit it off at once. * * * Run a clothing beauty and health club together and live a more colorful life than a married woman.
Xin Yinghui is a beautiful woman at first sight, and her temperament is super good. I sometimes wonder why good women like them are lonely. With money and looks, you should want a man.
Looking at other divorced women around them, they look average, and those who have nothing to do will remarry soon, but those who remarry are not much better, but they just wronged themselves to live with others.
I don't have the ability and I don't have a good reflection. I can only wronged myself again. If you are lucky, your husband can treat you; If it doesn't taste good, just make do with it. You must put up with it for the sake of the children.
But the three of them had a good time. They have been divorced for 10 years and have no plans to remarry. Asked why the conditions were so good that they didn't remarry, they said:
On the one hand, I feel that a person is also very good, free and economically independent, and there is no need to look at people and be bound; On the one hand, in fact, they did not deliberately want to remarry, mainly because they could not meet the right one.
Ordinary men don't dare to have wild thoughts about them at all, and some even despise them. There are men with good conditions in all aspects, and others have families. You can't break them up, can you?
So, a person is not bad. You basically have everything a man can give. Fate also depends on chance. If you can't force it, it's better to be short than to be extravagant.
Yes, it's not that no one wants it, but that there are too few men worthy. If you get married for the sake of getting married, it's just another tragedy.
Women, as long as they are independent in economy, personality and spirit, whether they have men or not, will have a wonderful life. Whether you like it or not, the choice is in your own hands.