When a friend is seriously ill, what we can do is to listen to and accept his feelings first, instead of arguing with him with common sense or medical knowledge in an attempt to persuade him not to worry. Most people who are sick are shocked and scared, or maybe angry, and feel why it is him, or have accepted it frankly. But in any case, we must first accept his complex emotions and let him speak out safely and fearlessly.

Next, express your love or unwillingness to him. It's like "I'm sorry to know that you are ill." If you have undergone major surgery or chemotherapy, you might as well tell him, "You are so brave. I heard that this kind of surgery or chemotherapy is very hard, and it's really not easy for you. 」

If his illness becomes more and more serious, even on his deathbed, we should listen carefully to what he wants to say. Because he may want to explain the aftermath, or he may want to thank or remind his friends, don't refuse or suppress him, and don't prevaricate him with such words as "Don't think too much, everything will be fine". Instead, ask him "What else do you want to do?" , "what's your wish? We can help. 」