Optimism is a state of mind. On weekdays, I laugh and laugh all day and live a happy life. Maybe friends will ask: don't you have a little trouble? I replied: no, just a good attitude. Indeed, I think optimism is a state of mind. In the process of growing up, a person will undoubtedly experience countless things, such as prosperity and adversity, happiness and sadness, ideal and reality, and so on. Everything will be expressed in his mood. Happiness is natural when he deserves it, but it may be much more difficult when he is unhappy. If people want to be happier, the key is their mentality and how to face everything that happens every day. "There are unexpected events in the sky, and people are doomed." In life, contradictions such as unsatisfactory career, love variation and interpersonal tension will inevitably find us in trouble. In the face of these changes, can we face changes, chaos and acceptance calmly? Optimism is crucial. Because people's happiness or not, the role of temperament is no less than fate. Optimism is not only a state of mind, but also a kind of self-restraint, a perspective and understanding of life. /kloc-Montaigne, a French enlightenment thinker in the 6th century, said, "The great art of life is to have happy thoughts as much as possible." British philosopher Bacon said, "There is no spiritual vacancy that can't be filled by corresponding knowledge." This tells us: first, because of optimistic attitude towards life, excellent life wisdom is stimulated; Second, excellent life wisdom will strengthen people's optimism about life. If we want optimism to accompany us through life, we need to pay attention to the following points: adjust our emotions in time and keep an optimistic attitude. Don't care too much about the ups and downs in life, don't be too demanding, and don't complain. Because there are so few things that people pay attention to in this world. No comparison, no jealousy. As long as we do our best, shine brightly and have a clear conscience, although our situation still has a lot of room for improvement, we are confident to improve, but we are also happy. Learn to be humorous and laugh at yourself. When people encounter some difficulties or misfortunes, do they beat their chests, cry loudly, feel miserable and depressed, or use humor or self-mockery to drive away the pain. And maintain a free and easy optimism? On one occasion, the writer Feng Jicai's house was stolen, but valuables such as calligraphy and painting were safe and sound. He laughed and called the thief "not an expert". Someone asked him if he had suffered any big losses. He said, "I am the most important productive force in my family. If I hadn't lost it, there wouldn't have been a big loss. " In adversity, it is really open-minded and natural to maintain a good attitude, courage and conscience with humor, laughter and scolding. This kind of high-level humor spirit is just possible for those who can face difficulties with a relaxed attitude. Pay attention to dealing with interpersonal relationships. Interpersonal relationship is one of the objective conditions for maintaining optimism. There are many links to pay attention to when dealing with interpersonal relationships. The most important thing is to overcome all self-centered consciousness, not to ask others to accept themselves first, but to accept others first. "Put yourself in the other person's shoes" and analyze his rationality from the other person's point of view. Wise people always try their best to find similarities with others, seek common ground while reserving differences, and maintain appropriate relationships at different levels according to everyone's situation. Especially when there are some troubles in interpersonal relationships, we should be more understanding and less picky. Because, being picky hurts yourself first. Wei Zhi, a famous figure in the Tang Dynasty, said, "Mountains can grow high without likes and dislikes. Jianghai doesn't choose Xiaozhu, so it can be full. " This should be our motto in dealing with interpersonal problems. Don't care too much about other people's comments and your position in other people's minds. The philosopher Schopenhauer pointed out: "Almost half of the troubles and troubles in life are caused by anxiety about what others will say." In fact, this is in vain. "I am who I am", and my image can only be established by my words and deeds. I can only take the road I have chosen after careful consideration and try my best to walk well. As for what people say, there is no such thing as "awesome words". Besides, people's views are not immutable. The fact of success will make people change their minds. Even if you fall, don't expect others' pity, but should accumulate strength, re-plan and launch a "charge" again. Not burdened by utilitarianism. The ancients said: "A villain can't, don't worry; I got it, but I'm afraid of losing it. Therefore, there is a lifelong worry, and there is no day of joy. " (Xunzi Zidao) People are utilitarian. First of all, this is caused by human physiological instinct and acquired. All kinds of "branding" of society are related to edification. The world is bustling and it is not easy to be tempted by utilitarianism. How difficult it is to truly appreciate its emptiness! People with a little experience will understand that it is not just a yearning heart to let go of the secular heart and treat yourself and your body with simple and safe feelings. No one is born to see through the world of mortals. Life is actually a process of knowing yourself, choosing yourself, denying yourself and creating yourself in maturity. People can only live, experience and pursue in good faith and be shattered; Really loved and hated; Only with great wisdom can we truly see through what emptiness and waste are, instead of blindly chasing fashion and being dominated by utilitarian and practical purposes, can we steadily move towards ourselves and expand in the position that suits us best.