What is a midlife crisis and how to deal with it? I believe everyone has heard of the word "midlife crisis" and has a certain understanding of it. This is a problem that each of us needs to face, so we should master the correct methods to deal with it. Let's take a look at what a midlife crisis is and how to deal with it.
What is a midlife crisis and how to deal with it?
The term "midlife crisis" is widely used. For example, a man who has worked hard all day at work, or a new mother who can't sleep well at night, may mention this word in their conversation.
Although there may be a midlife crisis in both cases, it is not as common as people think. Some people even think that there is no such thing as a midlife crisis!
Now, it's up to you whether you agree with this view or not, but the fact is that most people in their forties and fifties have repeated crisis trends.
What caused the midlife crisis?
Generally speaking, our life has a fixed rule, which revolves around the office, family and friends. After a busy week, it is often a weekend of intensive relaxation, and this cycle will continue. But as long as this cycle is disrupted a little, we will feel inconvenient. If this kind of trouble happens in middle age when you have completely lost the tendency to adapt to change, it is obviously more difficult.
Besides, people are losing their sense of satisfaction at this stage. No matter how high your quality of life is, the happiness curve will begin to decline until you are in your 50 s.
Therefore, you will feel that even the slightest inconvenience will put your life in danger. In fact, at this time, many changes have taken place. Such as economic loss, health problems, career change, lover's death, emotional loss, divorce and so on.
In the tired happiness chart, such a major change as mentioned above will completely shock a person. In other words, their views on life will become very negative. Everything seems to be falling apart. It is these little things that pile up during this period and make people's lives difficult.
Three signs that you are experiencing a midlife crisis:
1, physical signal
We can easily find physical signs. Usually, people don't realize that there is something wrong with their bodies until they notice the changes in their bodies.
The physiological symptoms of midlife crisis are very similar to depression. The most common effect is your weight. Either you gain a lot of weight or you will lose a lot of weight. In any case, there is usually no clear explanation for this change unless your life feels different.
You may also experience unexpected pain and suffering. For example, you will suddenly feel a sharp pain in your waist for no reason. One day, your arm hurts. The next day, you suddenly had a headache again.
A midlife crisis will increase your sense of insecurity. You may be addicted to your appearance, especially your smile, eyes and figure.
On the other hand, some people will completely lose interest in their appearance and stop trying to dress themselves up. Their hair is messy and they don't want to dress up.
2. Emotional signals
For men, the emotional signals of midlife crisis may be a bit worrying. Generally speaking, things like mood swings are largely related to women, but this stereotype is broken when men feel restless for no reason in the middle-aged crisis. Of course, for women, mood swings will be more serious.
In addition to uncontrollable emotions, your brain will be controlled by jealousy. People and things around you will make you feel inferior and make you want what they have. Instead of being happy about the success of the person you love, you become jealous.
When you deal with the midlife crisis, your emotions will become omnipresent. You have lost interest in what you used to like to do. Your love is no longer attractive when it sounds beautiful; Everything is boring for you. To make matters worse, your brain can't foresee the future. You seem to have lost your perspective and put your life on hold completely.
In addition, you tend to deal with dissatisfaction with the relationship. For example, your marriage may have been happy for decades, but now you want to end it. You may even consider separation or divorce.
3. Irrational behavior
Your emotional and physical changes will naturally lead to irrational behavior. You will begin to question everything you do in life; You will never feel that you are on the right path again.
You either overslept or couldn't sleep at all. Everything is meaningless and lazy. Although you know what happened, you don't have enough motivation to solve it
How to deal with the middle-aged crisis;
1, looking for new meaning in life
Survival crisis is not an inconvenience, but a hidden opportunity, which can help you actively change your point of view. In order to find this hidden opportunity, you need to find the meaning of a new life.
Clear your mind, and then you can divide your life into six aspects and deal with them in chronological order.
Health: Eat well, maintain physical strength, and be prepared to meet the challenges of life. Interpersonal: stay with people who encourage you, not with malicious people. Career: focus on stable work with long-term goals and avoid aimless loitering. Wealth: not blinded by money, a stable source of income and a comfortable life. Mental health: let yourself calm down and get inner peace. Spiritual strength: Try to overcome your weaknesses to strengthen your will and deal with emotional challenges.
As mentioned earlier, men and women experience midlife crisis in different ways.
However, regardless of your gender, if you adopt these six methods, you will eventually put yourself in a brighter and more positive space.
This technique will give you a new paradigm, so that you can take your eyes off the changes that lead to the midlife crisis and focus on the new meaning of life.
2. Break your limits
With your new perspective on life, you can start to see every unfortunate thing as a hidden opportunity. For example, financial losses will give you an opportunity to find a new source of income, which may be more sustainable than the last one. It's time for you to break all the restrictions and go beyond your imagination.
Try to make a long-term strategy to make this positive attitude last for the rest of your life. In this way, similar crises will not happen again.
What is a midlife crisis and how to deal with it? The first point: learn to manage money, read books or take online courses.
I want to say that the first aspect of learning financial management is to learn to buy commercial insurance to avoid all kinds of risks in life, so that life will not fluctuate greatly because of any unexpected situation. Because I am not an insurer myself, I have only done insurance, so I just want to share with you a few points that should be paid attention to when buying insurance: adults must come before children, which is the pillar of the priority family.
The types of insurance are mainly accident insurance and critical illness insurance, which can be matched with medical insurance, life insurance or education funds when conditions permit;
If you don't plan to learn other financial management methods such as funds and stocks, you can choose some financial insurance to add value.
There are many paid financial courses on the Internet now, so I suggest you study them and choose other financial management methods that suit you. Please remember: don't touch things you don't understand, otherwise it's not investment, it's speculation!
The second point: Try to establish sideline income.
Don't let your financial structure only be salary income. When you are old and middle-aged, don't just concentrate on your work. You should know how to keep up with the national trend and the development trend of the market. For example, we learn to write in the group of teacher Li Ming, turn writing into productivity and earn extra income. This is a sideline and a trend. Why?
Because personal influence is the most valuable now, writing can quickly establish personal influence. Are there any other sideline businesses that conform to the general trend?
You can think more. I can think of another one, called social e-commerce, which is also known as WeChat business. Evergrande Real Estate has been doing WeChat business for several years. It was reported in the news a while ago that Gree Air Conditioning should also implement the policy of WeChat business for all employees.
Also, in June 5438+10, the e-commerce law came into effect. I believe you can also find from your circle of friends that there are more and more people doing WeChat business. Is it like the rapid development of Taobao in those days? So I suggest you try more, because the cost of trial and error is not high, but the cost of missing is high. You should let yourself have income from other channels besides salary as soon as possible.
The third point: pay attention to health, but also carry out health management.
It is the most undesirable way to exchange your life for money. Staying up late, working overtime, staying up late, and constantly putting pressure on yourself will accelerate the process of middle-aged crisis. A rational person should learn to manage his health. Many people are bad because they worked hard and made a lot of money when they were young. As a result, their bodies age faster. People in their thirties, like people in their fifties, have to use the money they earn to treat diseases. Health is given to you by God, just like money in a bank. Don't use it hard when you are young.
The body should exercise, run, play ball, go to the gym, and rest time should not be arbitrary. Go to bed early if you can. You must eat on time if you can eat on time. You can learn more about health care, especially Chinese medicine. If you can eat less western medicine, you should recuperate early and do a good job of health management for yourself and your family. Don't be afraid of trouble. Only when health management is done well can we move forward with heavy burdens.
Fourth: Don't be stubborn, accept the reality and spend the midlife crisis with your family.
It is a fact, a law and an irreversible decline in competitiveness when people reach middle age. You should learn to accept him and communicate with your family. As the saying goes, many hands make light work, let alone the closest family. In addition, 90% of jobs have no future when they are old. No future is the fate of most ordinary people, and promising people don't have to wait until they are old.
The midlife crisis may be a lot of people's self-affectation. If you ask people who are struggling at the bottom of society, such as security guards, cleaners, takeout workers, etc. If they have a midlife crisis, they will laugh at you. Because life is never easy for them, every day is a "crisis" and they don't have to wait until middle age.