Just like a saying in financial management, "You will never earn more money than you know", I realize more and more that everyone lives in the limitations of their own cognition and in the world they want to believe.

At noon last Friday, I just came home from work and had a bite of rice. My mother called. She says she's feeling terrible now. As soon as I heard this, my heart sank and I asked her what was wrong. She said: I'm bored all over, my legs are weak, I'm dizzy, and I have a little chest tightness and shortness of breath. I said, what should I do? She said my brother is not at home, so you should call 120 first. I hung up and dialed 120. I gave a general description of my mother's situation, and the operator said to send a car right away. As soon as I asked the hospitals in the county, I negotiated with them: the hospital in the county will take about 50 minutes, and the nearest hospital in Luoyang will take about 30 minutes. It's best to go to the nearest hospital in Luoyang, and then the operator gave me an emergency number of the hospital. I dialed again and told me the situation. The hospital immediately arranged to send a car.

After the phone call, I started to rush home. 10 minutes later, as soon as I entered the room, my brother had already arrived home. My mother just called my brother, and he's almost home! My brother gave him quick-acting drugs, his blood pressure was a little high, and he took antihypertensive drugs. The overall state is a little better than when you called me just now.

My mother had this condition twice a year since the year before last, and her blood pressure was a little high. She has been taking medicine for physical examination and myocardial ischemia in recent years. I go to the hospital for a few days every year when I feel uncomfortable. I felt no symptoms and was discharged in a week or so. Cholecystectomy was performed three years ago because of gallstones, which would affect the digestion of the spleen and stomach.

My brother is analyzing the possible reasons for her discomfort this time, and then calling her elder sister who works in the hospital to tell her the situation. Hearing this, the elder sister said that it was nothing serious, her blood pressure was stable and she stayed at home for two days.

Me: The ambulance is coming. What should I do?

My brother: That's no big deal. Call someone home!

Me: Mom, what do you say? Whether to rest at home or go to the hospital first.

My mother: This time it's even worse than before. I think it's better to go to the hospital.

My brother: I asked. Nothing serious. Don't scare yourself. Your blood pressure is too high. You didn't measure it at first. Now I have taken antihypertensive drugs, and they are all down! When my dad comes back in a couple of days, I'll take you both to the physical examination.

Me: The bus will arrive soon. You can get the fee whether you go or not.

My mother: I don't want to stay at home. I might as well go to the hospital if I don't feel well.

As soon as I saw this situation, I said I would go to the hospital. Just then, the ambulance arrived at the door, packed a little luggage, and I went to the hospital with my mother.

Along the way, I saw that she was breathing well and her blood pressure was dropping. After arriving at the emergency room, I did some simple examinations and made hospitalization arrangements. When I went to the inpatient department, the doctor asked about the situation again. It was not urgent or serious.

I arranged everything for her. It's almost 3 pm. My brother arranged for my little niece to have lunch and go to school at noon. He also went to the hospital. I went to buy a bowl of wonton for my mother and started to rush to work.

In the afternoon, my brother called and said, Nothing serious, but my mother was so nervous that she scared herself.

My father also arrived at the hospital after 5 o'clock. Take my little niece to my house after school in the afternoon, and my brother goes out to deliver food at 5 o'clock every morning.

On Saturday morning, my brother called and said that the hospital would arrange CTA or angiography next Monday. I'm not sure about these two tests either. He called his sister again to discuss it. What she said was that there was no big problem and there was no need to do those tests. My brother basically confirmed this statement, and my mother basically had no uncomfortable symptoms from Friday afternoon to Saturday morning.

I went to the hospital in the afternoon, and my mother's mental state was really much better. I can hear that she is still worried and anxious and wants to do further tests. My younger brother thinks it is enough to take medicine on time and keep stable, so there is no need to make a fuss. My mother is afraid. No matter what medicine she takes, she will be afraid if my brother is not around. I saw a doctor again and said that there may be two situations: one is that a certain blood vessel is narrow, which leads to chest tightness and shortness of breath, and the other is that the heart function weakens with age. The doctor suggested CTA first. If the blood vessel congestion is above 75% and moderate, it is necessary to do angiography and make a more detailed examination.

My brother asked me to persuade my mother that it's no big deal. Don't always be scared. As soon as I saw the old lady's state, I changed my mind: Mom, if you are worried, let's do it. If you trust hospitals and doctors, we will follow the doctor's advice. I respect and support your idea. It doesn't matter how much it costs, as long as you relax and treat here.

I also exchanged my thoughts with my parents: in the last seven or eight years, I have been very interested in Chinese medicine. I read many articles and reported on the internet that there are Chinese medicine courses to follow. I usually pay more attention to diet and health. If my child and I have a cold, fever and gastrointestinal discomfort, we basically seek Chinese medicine, moxibustion, acupuncture, scraping and Chinese medicine, and basically take Chinese patent medicines. I hardly go to the hospital.

Three years ago, my mother was not feeling well, so I suggested that she go to Chinese medicine for treatment. She felt that the effect was slow and didn't want to try. She thought it would be convenient to take a few tablets every day, but persuasion was ineffective, and I didn't say much. In the past three years, every time she felt unwell, I tried to get her to try traditional Chinese medicine to fundamentally recuperate her body. She thinks that Chinese medicine does not treat diseases, and Chinese medicine therapy is very troublesome. I know that she sincerely disagrees or doesn't believe in Chinese medicine. This time, it once again confirmed her point of view: most of the people who come to the hospital are given injections for surgery, and I think Chinese medicine can't see the curative effect for a while.

I told her clearly: I am in the minority. In recent years, I have studied Chinese medicine and tried to use various Chinese medicine therapies to maintain health and regulate my body. I think it is very effective!

If I strongly advise my mother to treat the disease with Chinese medicine, she will definitely not want to. From her own point of view, she is naturally resistant. Even if she is willing to try, all the treatments she has done, including the drugs she has taken, may not have a positive and good effect on her, and the final treatment effect is not good, which also confirms her sentence: Chinese medicine can't cure her illness.

Instead of trying to convince her to make us both feel bad, we should follow her advice and treat what she believes, so that the treatment she believes will work for her.

Reflection: everyone just wants to believe what they believe, and it is too difficult to change others, that is, to change their cognition! Even if this person is a parent, it is futile; For children, the best we can say is influence, giving children the right to choose, and finally choosing what is their own business!