I have a friend who likes spicy food naturally, but the husband he is looking for has a light taste, and his husband's family is also a health family, so he can't pay attention to taste. So every time she eats, she brings her own Chili sauce, and only when she goes back to her family can she enjoy herself. Whenever she talks about this matter, she will say that if she had known that their tastes were so different from hers, she would never have married her current husband, and now even eating has become a humbling thing.
China people have always believed that "food is the most important thing for the people", and eating has always been the first priority. So if the eating habits of two people are very different, then the derived living habits will definitely be different. People who like to eat and drink generally love life and are willing to spend time on research and money on food and clothing. And people who think that eating is just to fill their stomachs will definitely be more pragmatic in life, and money will be used on the cutting edge and will not be greedy for pleasure.
People in China pay attention to the right marriage. Appropriate collocation is not only the collocation of money and living habits, but also the choice of diet taste, which should be correct. If two people with completely different tastes are forced to live together, there will certainly be many contradictions. Even if it takes a long time to accommodate each other because of feelings, "stomach" will honestly tell you that you are not suitable.
It is said that "Yuanyang Pot is the last bottom line for Chongqing people", but about bean curd, zongzi and glutinous rice balls, the difference between sweet and sour has been quarreling on the Internet. The quarrel that seems to occur because of different tastes is, in the final analysis, because of the gap between the two factions' living habits and ways of thinking, and they are unwilling to accommodate each other and compromise with life.
Recently, a girl told me that she wanted to eat 80 yuan a catty of shrimp when she was pregnant, and her husband's reaction made her end her two-year marriage. Xiao Ai is a girl with rich nutrition. She is always very picky about food and drink. She was born in Jiangnan, and she loves seafood very much. Every year when fish and shrimp are on the market, mom and dad always spend a lot of money to replenish their table in time.
Because he has never felt the hardships of life since he was a child, Xiao Ai has long been used to eating and drinking these things. Even if the delicious food was placed in front of her, she felt unusual. But it is such a girl who is held in the palm of her hand, but she secretly loves Xiaodong, which is very different from her family. Xiaodong's family is average. After graduating from college, he is going to go back to his hometown to develop. He feels that the pressure of life in big cities is too great for him to afford high housing prices.
Seemingly out of place, Xiao Ai just fell in love with Xiaodong, thinking that he was honest and reliable, lived frugally and had no bad habits. Despite the opposition of his family, Xiao Ai insisted on marrying Xiaodong and going back to his hometown naked with Xiaodong.
Xiao Ai's parents are not people who love the poor and the rich. They just know that their daughter has lived in a honey pot since childhood and doesn't understand the joys and sorrows of life. Xiao Ai's parents even threatened to break off the relationship for fear that her daughter could not adapt to her husband's family life after marriage, but Xiao Ai, who was in love, could not understand the importance of what her parents said and insisted on marrying Xiaodong.
However, Xiao Ai's parents were so angry that they had to stay away from their daughter. When they left, they just said: I hope she won't regret her decision. Xiao Ai took Xiaodong's hand and swore to her parents that she would be happy.
Before getting married, Xiao Ai always felt that his parents were too feudal and regarded "a match made in heaven" as so important. But after she really got married, Xiao Ai realized that cohabitation was completely different from love. The salary of both newcomers is not high. Apart from daily expenses, they have little disposable income every month, and their daily consumption should be carefully calculated, so everything needs to be carefully calculated.
When I was in love before, Xiao Ai felt that she was full of love and water, but she really got married. Life gave her a heavy blow, awakened her love brain and saw the true face of life. Sometimes she wants to eat a better meal to improve her food. Xiaodong always said that it's all the same after eating and digesting. After two years of marriage, Xiao Ai gradually began to get used to this frugal life. The husband you choose and the marriage you choose, no matter how difficult it is, you must stick to it, not to mention that you have been arrogant in front of your parents.
Originally, Xiao Ai could bear it, but when a woman is pregnant, she will be particularly sensitive to smell because of hormone secretion, and she will become very picky when eating. After Xiao Ai became pregnant, she found that she couldn't eat any food she used to eat at ordinary times, and even she felt queasy when she saw it. It's the season when river shrimps are on the market again. At this time before, Xiao Ai's parents would carefully prepare the dish of "stir-fried river shrimps" for her. But after two years of marriage, because of saving money, she hardly ate ordinary shrimps, and the meat dishes were basically pork. You know, in order to lose weight, Xiao Ai basically doesn't eat pork.
One morning, she couldn't eat pickles and porridge, and her mind was full of the sweetness of river shrimp. She told Xiaodong that she had no appetite and wanted to eat river shrimp. But Xiaodong said that he had never seen it when he bought food in the market. "You go to the new fresh supermarket to buy it. There must be one in that place. " Xiaodong is still hesitant. "Is that expensive? We don't have much money this month, and we have to save money to have children. " "No, it's not expensive. Besides, it is the baby who wants to eat, not me. " Xiao Ai coquetry while pushing Xiaodong out of the door. "Well, just this once, I'll solve your problem."
After Xiaodong went out, Xiao Ai began to prepare onions, ginger and garlic, waiting for the shrimp to come back and cook. But after a long time, Xiaodong brought back a bag of pork belly instead of river shrimp. "Didn't you buy shrimp? How did you become a meat buyer? " When Xiaodong saw Xiao Ai asking seriously, he casually found a reason. "The boss said the shrimp was sold out. I think the pork belly is good today, and I want to come back and make you a braised pork. " "Who are you kidding? It's only half past nine, and the morning market has just begun. How can it be sold out! " Xiao Ai recognized Xiaodong's deliberate deception. "I went to the supermarket you said, and the river shrimp was 80 yuan a catty. It was so small, and there was not much catty. Buying a catty of shrimp could buy two catties of pork, which was enough for the whole family. Only fools buy shrimp. "
Perhaps because of pregnancy, Xiao Ai burst into tears. "What I want to eat is a catty of shrimp in 80 yuan, which can't be replaced by meat. I just want to eat shrimp. " The more I cry, the more I feel wronged. I think about the days when I have been frugal for two years, and now I even have to eat a shrimp. "Pork smells delicious, doesn't it? I bought two Jin for 80 yuan, and just sent some back to my mother on my way back. You said that if you buy shrimp for a few bites, it will be gone, and fools will buy shrimp! "
"Don't I deserve shrimp in your mind?" Little moxa unconsciously thought of what her mother said that she and Xiaodong would not last long, and there would be many problems if the door was not right. Now it seems that my mother has no foresight, but this kind of married life is too realistic.
"It's not a question of worthy, you must eat that thing! Do you know how many places we have to spend money now? Seeing that the baby is going to be born, the places to spend money will only increase. Can't you save a little! " Xiaodong saw Xiao Ai crying and wanted to say something to calm her down.
"I've been married to you for two years, and I haven't had a good day. Now I'm pregnant. I just want to eat a shrimp meal, which is not a good food. Is it so difficult to have a meal once in a while? Don't tell me so much, I don't know how much money we have! Explain that I am the kind of person who craves enjoyment in your eyes! " All grievances and dissatisfaction poured out. "Let's divorce! I can't stand it! " Little moxa shouted this sentence almost at the end of the break. "Just for a catty of shrimp, and you!" "As for the children, I don't want to. I don't want him to know what shrimp is after he is born. " After all, Xiao Ai cares about Xiaodong's attitude towards herself, and her husband's reaction at this time made her decide to end her two-year marriage.
After deciding to divorce, Xiao Ai finally made a phone call to her mother. "Mom, I want to eat shrimp ..." There was no answer on the other end of the phone, but there was a choked voice. Without imaginary blame, Xiao Ai's mother just said, "Go home and eat as much as you want."
At the beginning, I vowed that I could stick to my marriage, but it ended in a hurry after only two years. Xiao Ai is not a vain man. If so, she wouldn't choose to marry Xiaodong or break up with her parents for love. She is not a willful person, otherwise, she will not endure the hardships of two years. Probably because pregnancy magnifies people's emotions, she has never experienced life and doesn't know that marriage needs to face many practical problems. Love is ideal and marriage is realistic.
Little moxa's mother has long seen the gap between them. There is always a gap between two people with different tastes. Xiaodong is not wrong, but he thinks that the pork with high cost performance and incomparable income can't compare with the river shrimp that Xiao Ai really wanted to eat at that moment.
I don't think Xiao Ai really wants to eat river shrimp because of her greedy mouth. What she wants is to be valued and taken care of after pregnancy. Shrimp represents her parents' love and her yearning for them. Just because a girl gives up everything and is willing to suffer with you doesn't mean that she only deserves to suffer with you. What she expects is your future, an unknown future that can be changed because of your efforts.
Xiao Ai and Xiao Dong didn't break this rule after all. The pragmatic Xiao Dong may never realize the exquisiteness of Xiao Ai's previous life, let alone how delicious shrimp can be. In his opinion, eating shrimp can be replaced by meat. Even if a pregnant wife wants to eat shrimp, it is a luxury. Life is life, daily necessities, trivial, his eyes only see the pressure of life but not the happiness of life. However, Xiao Ai is different. She has eaten well since she was a child. These seemingly extravagant behaviors in Xiaodong's eyes have long been commonplace.
Two people seem to have different tastes. In fact, the root of the contradiction still comes from different families. Xiaodong's living environment taught him to work hard, make progress and save money. You can't say it's wrong. On the contrary, this is the status quo of most people under social pressure. He didn't go to the end with Xiao Ai, because the gap between them is like a gap, thinking that love can be used as a bridge, but this bridge has no foundation and is very fragile, and it is easy to collapse in the face of life's crit.
Most parents want their children to find a "suitable" partner. I think the reason is that parents, as experienced people, know the hardships and trivialities of life. If they don't have the same values and hobbies, they can't eat in the same pot after all.