I once saw a particularly sad news. A post-90s mother with two children jumped into the river. When the family found it, all three people had left. What makes this mother so desperate? She left a thousand-word suicide note, which said that her in-laws forced herself and her husband ignored herself. She has suffered a lot since she got married for seven years.

She wrote: "(In-laws) always oppress others as elders. They have never given me a good look since I married this family for seven years. Every time they quarrel, the two in-laws get together and fight each other. I just want to live quietly with my children in another world and get rid of the shadow of my in-laws. " "I love you, your parents can lie, if you are really good for me, you should protect me. After I leave, I hope you can protect my reputation, even if it is not for me but for your son. Stop conniving at your parents and ruining me. Sorry, I took your favorite son. "

I can't imagine how much this woman has suffered in this marriage. But it can be seen that what really drove her to the wall was the tit-for-tat of her in-laws and her husband's weakness. For a married woman, these two together will ruin her life. To sum up, it is nothing more than these two points that drive married women to a dead end.

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The first point: In-laws are arrogant and unreasonable.

When a woman marries a man, she marries his family. If the family is harmonious, it will add points to the marriage. If this family is difficult to get along with, you will always be in trouble. My reader A Bing is like this. She and her husband are very loving, but her mother-in-law is not an easy person to get along with. Her mother-in-law has been unhappy since her first child gave birth to a daughter. She didn't even take care of it for the next month and felt that she had given birth to a product that lost money.

A Bing can only call his mother, but she also needs to take care of her grandson. She will go back after taking care of her for a month. In the second month, A Bing had to take care of the children. He always couldn't sleep well. I didn't do it well in the second month. Shortly after giving birth to the child, her mother-in-law forced her to have a second child, saying that if she could not have a son, she would divorce. Ah Bing naturally doesn't want to, but her mother-in-law tells her every three days that only her son can inherit the incense.

However, A Bing's body has been difficult to conceive, and now the child is still young, so it is difficult to have a second child. Such a mother-in-law is the most terrible. She regards her daughter-in-law as a fertility machine, not a family. Women get married not to have children, but to create a better life with you. Mother-in-law is also a woman, why should women embarrass women?

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The second point: the husband's indifference.

In front of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the real key person is often the husband. If your husband is a responsible man, he will never let you be wronged. The above A Bing, the insolence of her mother-in-law is not the most terrible, but her husband's indifference. Every time I see my mother-in-law accusing A Bing, my husband is becoming silent.

A Bing was very angry and asked her again and again, "Why can't you speak for me?" He said weakly, "My mother is old, don't worry about her." But should Bing argue with her mother-in-law? If the mother-in-law can be more considerate and tolerant, instead of treating her as a fertility machine, she is not willing to do so. But the husband thinks that her mother-in-law is doing this for their own good, and A Bing should listen. Many times, my mother-in-law spoke ill of A Bing outside. A Bing couldn't bear it, but her husband said, "You must have done so badly that mom would say that."

In the face of her mother-in-law, A Bing has felt ten thousand kinds of grievances, but she still can't get the support of the closest people, which is undoubtedly a huge blow to her. After only a few years of marriage, A Bing changed from that innocent and lively girl to a woman full of resentment. A bad marriage is undoubtedly a woman's nightmare. I walked in with expectation, but it was empty in the end.

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Mother-in-law's insolence and husband's indifference will drive every married woman to the wall. I have met many women and put up with them repeatedly in marriage. In the end, I only got bullied by my husband's family. Everyone's endurance is limited, and under the long-term suppression, the spirit will inevitably collapse. Home is a harbor and the warmest place. Not getting the slightest warmth here will only make women chilling.

In fact, women don't ask much for marriage. You may not have a big house or a luxury car, but at least you can give her the simplest warmth. Don't treat her like a fertility machine, let alone a doormat. A woman gives up everything to marry you. What she wants is to be happy with you forever. When all hopes were dashed and only despair was left, she had no expectation of living.

In marriage, a woman often has more sacrifices and pay, but it doesn't mean that she is worthy of sacrifice and pay. All concessions are made because she loves you. If you use these as a bargaining chip to hurt her, how can you keep your promise? It's not easy for two people to walk together. If you love, please love deeply. If you don't love, please don't hurt.