Nevertheless, most people will walk on the journey of life at the same pace of aging, so we can infer a person's approximate age from his appearance. Aging comes quietly, and when we find it, we are already covered in vicissitudes. For men, in which year did aging happen rapidly, and in which year did it bring about earth-shaking changes?
What is aging?
Aging is what we often call "aging", which is a gradual, complex and systemic irreversible degradation of structural and physiological functions.
Aging, just wrinkles? No, it includes many aspects. In addition to the external manifestations such as withered hair, wrinkled skin, loose teeth and obesity, the decline of strength and endurance, poor coordination and sensitivity will make people feel tired and slow to move. In addition, various organs of the body are also experiencing the process of "aging", such as the decrease of myocardial cells, the thickening of myocardial membrane, the increase of vascular wall hardness, the thinning and elasticity of alveolar wall, and the decrease of the number of nerve cells and brain cells.
When did the aging of men begin?
In the "ancient innocence" in Huangdi Neijing, it is said like this:
As can be seen from this description, Neijing thinks that men are around 32 years old (48 years old), with the strongest bones and muscles and the best body, reaching the peak. From the age of forty (May 8), because the kidney qi began to decline, hair loss and loose teeth all began, which is the beginning of men's aging.
Observing all kinds of men in real life is roughly the same as that described in Neijing. As long as life is not very indulgent, you can still be 20 years younger at the age of 30, but at the age of 40, most men will be classified as middle-aged uncles anyway.
There are also some aging tables of human organs circulating on the Internet, some of which are extracted by Yu Hangjun as follows:
Based on the above, we can see that the age node of male aging is about 40 years old, which is equivalent to the dividing line between youth and aging. However, this is only a summary of common phenomena, which does not mean that every man will have obvious physical changes when he is "40 years old". Because everyone's lifestyle and genetic factors will seriously affect the aging process. Because of this, the Yellow Emperor and Qi Bo will continue to have such a question and answer in On Ancient Innocence:
It means that as long as you are good at keeping in good health, you can stay healthy, delay aging and have good fertility even when you are old.
The aging road of modern white-collar men's appearance
"Fat middle-aged" is a popular hot word on the Internet in recent years, which roughly means that middle-aged men are fat and sophisticated. In fact, the obese body of middle-aged men is the most important basis of the word "greasy middle age". Among the expressions of "greasy middle-aged" listed on the Internet, expressions about body shape occupy a considerable part, including fat head, big belly, baldness, oily face and so on.
However, from young white-collar workers to greasy middle-aged, it is not a one-off event. Let's see how this evolved:
Graduated from college at the age of 22 and entered social work. This is the first time node, and men have changed from a lot of exercise to little exercise at school. Nevertheless, by the age of 25, most young male white-collar workers can still maintain their youthful appearance and slim figure. Until the age of 30, although the appearance will change, on the whole, it still belongs to a young state. However, a considerable number of men began to gain weight because of overeating and lack of exercise. By the age of 27 or 8, the belly is small and the body fat rate is high.
Most men get married around the age of 30. Because the aging process of the body will accelerate after the age of 30, many organs begin to join the ranks of aging. However, lack of exercise, overeating, excessive calorie intake and lifestyle disorder have become the norm for most middle-aged men, and getting fat is inevitable. At this time, the glory of youth began to fade from the faces of many men, and the image of "greasy middle age" began to appear. By the time they are less than 35 years old, many middle-aged men are really little or big fat.
At the age of 40, if you go to a class reunion. Men who keep their exercise habits and strict lifestyles still look young. This is in sharp contrast with the looks of most fat "middle-aged uncles" and will produce the feeling of "poor generation". However, men who can still maintain their youthful vitality and appearance at the age of 40 will always be a minority.
This is the general path of the aging development of most men from their twenties to their forties. It can also be said that from the age of 25 to 40, it is a gradual process in which the young appearance is exhausted, and it will not suddenly make people old. Of course, the circumstances of life will also affect people's appearance. Some men will encounter great changes in their lives, such as major setbacks in their careers, family changes, serious diseases and so on. And it may make people age faster.
How do men delay aging?
For us mortals, the best way to keep healthy and delay aging is to keep good eating and living habits and take an active part in physical exercise.
If men can stick to long-term regular fitness from their twenties, they will look much younger than their peers in middle age. The older you get, the more obvious this difference in appearance becomes. In fact, long-term strength training can keep men's muscle strength and endurance well, even in their forties and fifties, there is not much difference between them and their twenties. The anti-aging effect of aerobic exercise can not only maintain cardiopulmonary function, but also reduce free radicals in the body, enhance immunity, improve lipid metabolism and reduce blood lipids.
A lot of practice and research have also confirmed that exercise and fitness not only has a positive effect on improving physiological function, but also can adjust psychological activities and release pressure, thus making people more confident, cheerful and positive.
We pay attention to the practitioners of Buddhism and Taoism (practitioners of Buddhism and Taoism are not necessarily monks or Taoists), and we can also find that many people who remain young look younger than their peers. If readers have access to some practitioners, you can find this phenomenon.
Taoist ancient books, such as Sou Shen Ji and Shen Xian Zhuan, recorded a large number of practitioners who lived long and kept their faces forever. It describes a lot of their diet and practice methods. Like the famous Peng Zu, it is recorded that he lived over 800 years. He said that his life has rejected debauchery, and he only takes health care and self-cultivation as his responsibility, but his appearance has always remained very young. Of course, my son didn't talk about Machamp's confusion. Let's listen to these legends as information. However, Taoism and Buddhism require spiritual and psychological cultivation, take care of the body and mind, and pay more attention to internal rather than external material needs, which has indeed kept many practitioners healthy and young.
The so-called "phase is born from the heart", the secular life of cultivating the heart, being kind and moderate will undoubtedly be revealed in our appearance.
Modern health experts, fitness coaches and doctors always ask people to maintain a healthy lifestyle when they appeal to people to stay healthy and delay aging. And this also corresponds to the record in Neijing:
In fact, there is no secret to delaying aging and staying young forever. Just keep a healthy lifestyle. Although aging is inevitable, the young appearance of men can still be maintained for a long time, so don't worry about premature aging!
My father was a handsome man when he was young. Later, I went out to do business all the year round, but every time I saw my father, I always lamented the kindness of the years to him: my father was never old, but he was still a smiling bodhisattva.
I will never forget the spring of 20 16.
My mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer, just one afternoon in three months.
I saw my father decline immediately.
It seems that my hair was black just now, and it turned white inch by inch in the blink of an eye.
The back also slowly hunched down.
This often gives me the illusion that this man is not a father, but a strange old man who is afraid of losing his mother and is sad.
At that time, there was often a sad atmosphere at home.
But my father had to bear this sadness, work hard and serve my mother.
He didn't trust us to serve, and stayed up with his mother to fight cancer pain.
However, mother went anyway.
That day, my mother took my father's hand, and her eyes were full of concern and disappointment for my father.
Mother left, and she also took away all the attachment of her father to life.
Father refused to live with us.
He lives alone in the old house in his hometown, almost staying at home, slovenly, getting old day by day.
I often grieve for my father's stubbornness to die alone in the room, but there is nothing I can do. We are with our father every day, but his heart is still lonely. His heart belongs only to his mother and has never been open to anyone since.
This problem cannot be simply discussed from which year. But from some things in life, what to lose and what to hit.
When my father was young, although he was not very handsome, he liked martial arts, with a very good figure, vigorous pace and decisive and capable work.
Before his grandfather died in 2003, his 43-year-old father always looked radiant and energetic. Although he sleeps for 4 5 hours every day because of fatigue and busyness, his father keeps clean and upright.
At home, I always have a happy face because my grandfather is there. At that time, my grandfather was 86 years old (my grandfather got married late in the old Red Army, and my grandmother was younger than my grandfather 13 years old). The first thing my father does when he gets up every morning is to visit his grandfather's room, and then go to wash. Peel 6 boiled eggs every morning, give grandpa and mom a cup of milk powder or soybean milk, clear soup noodles or porridge steamed bread, and have dinner with mom and grandpa. Every time before going out, my father would light a cigarette on grandpa's pipe and tell grandpa that he was going out. Grandpa will touch dad's head. I go to grandpa's room as soon as I get home, and usually bring him delicious food every time. Even grandpa's dry cigarettes were planted by his father, dried and crushed by himself.
That winter, on the morning of February, 65438+2003 18, my mother got up and packed herself, brought a pot of hot water to grandpa's room, and called grandpa to get up and wash. My mother shouted twice in a row, but my grandfather didn't answer. My mother quickly called me dad. As soon as my father got up from the kang, he ran to grandpa's room, wearing long autumn clothes and trousers and no shoes. Father picked up a military coat and put it on when he saw something was wrong. With tears in his eyes, he rode a motorcycle in slippers to ask the village doctor. Mother quickly called two uncles, three aunts and an uncle who lived in the front row.
The doctor came, looked at his pulse and said, my old brother, today is his day (the doctor is my grandfather). ) My father cried directly at my grandfather. My uncle and aunt wrapped the quilt around my father, and my uncle cried with my father. My brother-in-law who teaches takes me home. It was the first time I saw my father's nose and tears everywhere.
Uncle, father and brother-in-law, wash grandpa's body, and then put on his shroud and shoes with his third aunt. My father's face is calm and terrible. He sat on the kang with glassy eyes, holding grandpa's hand, waiting for his uncle to come home. On the third morning, my uncle and aunt came back and cried when they entered the door, and my father cried again. Then I fainted, because my father had not eaten well for nearly three days, and he was so sad.
On the afternoon of the third day, grandpa left.
2 1 in the afternoon, my father fainted again in the procession to pay homage to other deceased relatives, and his head fell heavily on the back of the uncle in front. At the funeral on the morning of the 22nd, Grandpa's coffin was carried into the grave. When the grave is to be sealed, my father can't come out and lie on grandpa's coffin and let him seal it inside. Or uncles, uncles, aunts and uncles.
After taking care of grandpa's funeral, the 43-year-old father looks like he is in his 50 s, with a trance and a lot of white hair. My father sleeps in grandpa's room with his photos and clothes every night. When he fell asleep, his father cried. Sometimes I get up in the middle of the night to go to the cemetery and sit in front of my grandparents' graves and talk to myself. Mom will accompany dad with a flashlight. This situation continued until grandpa burned the paper for a hundred days, and his father was out of pain.
Grandma died early, and my father always blamed himself for not making more money to treat her, which made her leave in pain. Actually, it's not like this. My uncle, aunt and uncle invited many doctors to grandma, but the medical care was underdeveloped at that time. The father, on the other hand, took all the reasons for his grandmother's death on himself and carried it for a lifetime.
When grandpa was alive, my father had a habit. When he has troubles or things he doesn't understand, he will sit next to his grandfather and talk to him. It doesn't matter whether grandpa knows or not. Dad is willing to talk to grandpa, and grandpa will listen quietly. After grandpa left, my father would sit on the ground and look at the photos of his grandparents and think quietly, which is still the case. As long as dad is at home, he will clean the photos of his grandparents every morning. If you come back from outside, the first thing to do is to clean up the photos of your grandparents. Although mom wiped it this morning.
Most notably, my father, uncle and two uncles, including my second uncle who smokes, never smoke in front of grandpa and elders, so smokers of our generation will not smoke in front of their parents.
My father's sudden aging is due to the death of his grandfather. It was not until grandpa's third anniversary that his father seemed to come out completely and restore his old appearance.
Father told mother, you can't walk in front of me, because then he would be unbearable. My mother called my father a selfish ghost, but she had a happy smile on her face, and of course she felt uncomfortable.