Why do girls have to be rich? Let's take a look at the examples and lessons of a few friends around us.
The lack of external material will make girls feel inferior.
Sun Fang, a high school classmate, comes from the countryside. His family is average, and his parents prefer boys to girls. He was very hard on Sun Fang in material matters since he was a child. For example, I haven't bought her new shoes all year round. I always give her old shoes worn by others, mend them when they are broken, and then continue to wear them. So when Sun Fang was in high school, many people around her pointed at her dress. Every time in class, she couldn't wait to put her feet in her pants, and she didn't dare to go out to play after class, for fear that everyone would find her wearing a whore.
Many years later, Sun Fang developed well in her career. Although she made a lot of money, she always felt inferior in her heart. She even felt that she couldn't afford to wear new shoes and dreamed that she was teased by her classmates.
In fact, girls are born with delicate and sensitive emotions. If the material growth environment of their childhood is too poor, their personality will become introverted and inferior, and this experience will become their psychological shadow for life.
Inner desolation will make girls feel unhappy in their later lives.
Sun Fang has a neighbor named Liu Aihong, whose family is similar to hers, but Liu Aihong's parents pay more attention to her daughter's spiritual world and buy many books for Liu Aihong, which makes Sun Fang very envious. Sun Fang's parents never bought her extracurricular books. Every time she wants to read it, her parents will coldly say, "The book is not good. What extracurricular books are you reading? "
Therefore, Sun Fang didn't read extracurricular books since he was a child. Compared with Liu Aihong, her spiritual world is barren. Later, although she got married and had her own job and family, she was always unhappy because she had no hobbies. She doesn't know what she can pursue besides rice, oil and salt, and what is the meaning of life.
Educators have long pointed out that education is time-sensitive. If girls don't get enough spiritual nutrients when they are young, their thoughts will not thrive. When they grow up, even if they are materially rich, their spiritual poverty will make them lose happiness.
Excessive poverty will affect girls' values.
A reader in Zhihu shared his story. A has a girlfriend C in college, who is very beautiful and has good grades. But after getting along for a while, A found that C was particularly sensitive to money. Every time A and C have quarrels. Finally, C always talks about the family circumstances of both parties and says to A, "I know your family is rich, and you look down on me." Although A has explained it many times, C still thinks so. And c has a habit: every time he has money, he will spend it desperately to buy all kinds of new clothes and cosmetics.
Later, A learned that the C family was poor. So she has always envied her peers to buy dolls, buy new clothes and so on. In this environment, her personality is becoming more and more extreme, too sensitive to money, and she loves to get into a dead end.
Psychological research points out that if a girl's family environment is too bad as a child, it may lead to psychological distortion. For example, excessive inferiority, such as questioning why others have money, such as spending money crazily and so on. It can be said that this is a distorted view of money in the growing environment, which has caused their conceptual problems.