"I often hear or see various reports from news channels that break my parents' hearts and make my parents suffer:
These parents may not know that their children's behavior is closely related to their educational methods.
Just like a doctor watching a patient suffer, many patients can only sigh their own misfortune. In fact, most diseases are closely related to patients' own lifestyles. Although there are genetic and environmental problems, intellectual lifestyle is the most important factor, as are children's psychological problems.
Generally speaking, children's behavioral problems or psychological problems, such as truancy, lying, internet addiction, contradiction with parents, running away from home, easy to commit suicide, fighting injuries, participating in robbery, etc. , mostly in adolescence-12 years old to 18 years old.
However, a large number of cases and psychological research results show that the behavioral problems and related psychological problems of this age group originated before 12 years old. It also comes from the way parents raise their children.
As a parent or before becoming a parent, have you ever thought about the following questions:
1. Do you have enough time to accompany your children to grow up? If you are in urgent need of money, if your career is too important, if you have no time to support yourself, then you must not be suitable for having children for the time being, otherwise it is very likely that children will become strangers when your career grows bigger. ...
2. Do you have enough patience to accompany your children? If you are a person who only needs others to care about you and is unwilling to care about others; If you are impatient and unwilling to do such a thing, then you should consider whether you are ready to be a father or a mother in the short term.
Do you know the basic stages of a child's psychological development and what you need to do at each stage to complete his "psychological support"? What comes first, what comes later? What is basic psychological education and what is lifelong psychological education? What if you think the child will grow up naturally and be sensible after birth? Then you must be disappointed.
Because, in modern society, if you don't educate him or her, TV and Internet will educate him or her. Nowadays, children have many opportunities to contact the outside world. When you find all kinds of "problems" in your child, it is too late to act again-psychological development has a critical period.
Especially in the one-child era, parents did not have an experimental period. When you finally understand the truth of parenting, you may have missed the best education period because the children have grown up.
Therefore, it is very important for parents to accompany their children, and they are the most important people in their childhood life. Only when children become attached to their parents can parents gain psychological capital to raise their children and parents have control over their children. Otherwise, the discipline of children will be weak and ineffective. Therefore, parents should not leave their children to the care of the elderly, and try to spend their spare time with their children with high quality.