When we are addicted to the beauty of life, occasionally there will be troubles and pains eroding our bodies, because we are not independent individuals living in the surrounding environment, sometimes because other people's bad emotions are transmitted to us, and other people's complaints are vented to us. In the face of such harm, we can only ignore or ignore, or take the initiative to defend our personality and dignity.
When doing good deeds, we are all too simple, don't care too much about gains and losses, and don't know how to weigh the right and wrong of people. However, when we are placed in front and behind the scenes of life, kindness is destroyed by traps designed by others, and we realize that there are such evil people in this world. They don't do anything. They spy on you behind your back and plot against you. When we do things well, they will appear to look for the attack point and put arrows in the back, which will make us hard to prevent. What did they do? They always talk more than they do, and never pay for their actions. Look behind things coldly, pick and choose, and dictate.
Someone once said; "Life sometimes doesn't need to be exposed, because we care about you, but life sometimes has to be exposed, because caring about you hurts ourselves. And when we decided to expose it, we were ready to lose this relationship. Therefore, no one should think that he is smart in deception, because love and patience are limited. "
Fat sister is the owner of a foot massage shop. More than ten years of industry experience, I will ask her to do a health massage every week. Because of familiarity, almost every time she told me to raise her mother and her sisters at home.
She is the sixth child in the family, with three brothers and two sisters. My father died early, and my mother lived with my second brother in her early years. However, with the growth of age, it is inconvenient for the elderly to walk and speak slowly, and Ersao is somewhat disgusted. In this way, out of filial piety to her mother, she and her lover discussed taking the initiative to take care of the elderly.
Fat sister's lover is an easy-going, caring and filial person who takes good care of her mother-in-law. Fat sister cooks good food for her mother every day. Considering the old man's bad mouth, every meal should have soft and warm food. In her spare time, she will accompany the elderly to bask in the sun in the community, take a walk and visit the vegetable market. It's been a year.
The next year, my mother was admitted to the hospital because of senile diseases. Fat sister called her brother and sister to tell them about the situation, but almost everyone had something to deal with and no one took out the money. In this way, the fat sister and lover bear the rotating escort and related expenses of the mother's hospitalization. 15 days later, my mother was discharged from the hospital. Medical insurance has written off some medical expenses. The day after my mother was discharged from the hospital, all the other sisters came to her house to discuss how to share their interests.
Fat sister was surprised. Mom is in the hospital. You are not in front, you don't pay, you don't contribute. Do you need money at this time? Conscience has been eaten by dogs. Why should the old man's heart be hurt like this? Besides, this is an old man who is still recovering from illness.
Finally, under the excuse of fat sister, this matter finally subsided. Maybe it's because my mother is always unreasonable and has soft ears. The old man finally moved out of the fat sister's house and listened to everyone's opinions. Each child's house took turns to live.
But after living in turn for several months, the old man couldn't adapt to their dislike and neglect, so he discussed with his fat sister and went to her house.
The fat sister's elder sister secretly conceived a second child one year. At that time, the second child policy had not been liberalized. The municipal family planning department will find the elder sister and impose a fine. My sister begged her for help to find someone to tell her that the fat sister entrusted a friend to help out of the affection between sisters, but she was only fined 2000 yuan symbolically.
After a few days, the elder sister came to make trouble with her, and the couple stood at the gate of the community and scolded all day. Said that fat sister swallowed her money and put 2000 yuan in her pocket. After the fat sister found a friend, she had to tell the truth directly. My friend kindly returned 2000 yuan. Finally, this matter is over. And friends won't mind too much, because they believe in fat sister.
Just when Fat Sister told Second Sister the news of buying a new house, Second Sister only took a look at the decoration and left in a hurry. When Fat Sister told Second Sister that she was moving to a new home, Second Sister promised to come and help, but there was no second sister's figure or phone number until dark that day.
When the child was young, he listened to his uncle and menstruation and said mom, so he asked his fat sister. "Mom, why do uncles and aunts say you are stupid?" Fat sister looks startled, how to explain it to young children? Fat sister smiled with tears and said to the child, "Son, being stupid is also a blessing, and losing is also a blessing."
As the saying goes, even if you take advantage of the world, glory may not last long, but those who are willing to suffer often get rich returns in life.
For the sake of these trivial matters at home, the fat sister suffered deeply physically and mentally, and there was an inextricable knot in her heart, so her friend helped her find the abbot of the temple and poured out her heart for many years. The abbot only said a word; "Always hold a thought, suffer from a thought. Losing is getting, and letting go is getting. "
If our filial piety is for our parents, we should be filial even if our hearts are scarred. Sometimes we have seen the results, but we are still willing to mend our inner wounds and crawl forward instead of stumbling forward. Because such stupidity is only aimed at our parents, physical and physical parents, no matter what kind of parents, we have no choice but to bear it silently. If such stupidity is used by our sisters, then we should defend our rights and dignity in due course.
Jimmy said: "one day you will understand that people can't be too kind, because people can only pick soft persimmons." If everything is too generous and tolerant, others will not appreciate you. Sometimes you have to have a little temper, and you can't be too gentle and patient with some people. Because being too kind will make us lose our value and dignity, and being too kind is also stupid. "
This sentence was put a year ago, and the fat sister may not understand it. Through her personal experience in recent years, she realized that the most terrible thing in this world is the indifference of her family. Treason, obscenity, such calculations are too tired. In order to save, for the benefit, a family relationship ended up so miserable.
People who bow their heads and do things in this world rarely have time to care about gains and losses, and rarely consider how much to pay and how much to pay. If everyone has the principle of interest exchange in everything, then always think about whether it is worth doing. So, at some point, will you be timid? If it's urgent, and we are so haggling over every ounce and trying to save something, I'm afraid things have run counter to each other. Good balance, moral imbalance, is the world desecrated or our conscience defiled. Right or wrong, only God knows.
Doing good lies in persistence. Those who do things with great fanfare will certainly give themselves a good start, but they will not have a good ending. Because the process is more difficult than they expected, they are always complaining, criticizing others, asking others and forgiving themselves when doing things. Sometimes you want to give up when you are doing it, and you need to find an outlet to vent if you are afraid of difficulties. And our kindness just gave them such an opportunity, and evil thoughts came unexpectedly. She thinks that people who do good deeds are fools and can't see through her words and deeds. If good deeds can be defiled and trampled on in this way, then the beauty of the world will be vulnerable.
No one is a fool in this world. Don't squander the forbearance and goodwill of others, whether it is friendship or affection. If you don't cherish others, you will never see them again.
We still have to firmly believe that the beauty of this world, the beauty that has been defiled and used, will not exist in our lives. Abandoning the thoughts of dross and tricks and giving all good thoughts are the most important ideas we should pursue in our life.
When we were young, we felt the beauty of this world; When we are old, we are grateful that there is still beauty in this world. As long as we always have a kind heart, we will find the beauty in the world.
Aurelius: "When you are alive, you have the ability to do good. Do good. "