Being alive is just a feeling. In childhood, what we feel most is novelty and happiness. It is the infinite curiosity about the world and the desire for happiness that inspires and guides our growth. In my youth, what I feel most is passion, infinite reverie about the future and romantic longing for love.
What is the most representative feeling when people reach middle age?
It is difficult to make it clear simply that some people live a dream life, some people are still struggling for daily necessities, some people have found a life partner, and some people are still struggling in the quagmire of family conflicts. ...
Whether you are optimistic or disheartened, different life situations bring different moods.
This stage of middle age is the most complicated and difficult time for a person to feel. People often say that the middle-aged crisis is because at this stage of middle age, positive attitudes often no longer prevail. On the contrary, some negative feelings are getting deeper and deeper.
Among them, four kinds of feelings are the most typical and embarrassing.
First, the pressure is great.
Middle-aged people are the most stressful stage. When people reach middle age, they generally feel stressed.
When I was young, I only knew how to struggle. By middle age, everyone has his own career. Middle-aged people are the backbone of the company, with experience and ability, but they are also under great pressure.
Peer competition, young people's vision, and the continuous decline of their own energy, has the career reached the ceiling? It is the biggest source of stress for middle-aged people.
The health of middle-aged people is also the main source of stress.
With the growth of age, physical function began to decline, and things that had never happened in youth began to appear. Every physical examination can see the abnormal display of various indicators, and the physical examination report has become an annual horror blockbuster.
When you are young, no matter what storms you encounter, your body can recover quickly. When people reach middle age, they keep a thermos cup and watch a lot of health videos, and there are more and more physical problems. For the first time, the natural law of birth, illness, death and illness has become a shadow in the hearts of middle-aged people, and the health status has made middle-aged people more and more stressed.
The family life of middle-aged people is also the most stressful period. Parents are old and need to take care of themselves. The children are not yet adults. What are their academic achievements? Can rebellious adolescence pass smoothly?
There are many anxious things in life. The greater the responsibility, the greater the pressure.
Second, confusion.
Confucius said: stand at 30, be puzzled at 40, and know your destiny at 50.
When people reach middle age, they begin to be confused.
Everyone has a world of expectation and imagination in his heart when he was a child. When he experienced it personally, the huge gap between ideal and reality was enough to make people collapse and despair.
When people reach middle age, they have experienced the ups and downs of life and seen the prosperity and loneliness of the world. The pure and beautiful imagination of youth has long been ruthlessly shattered, and their life values have long been riddled with holes. Are you still holding on to your dream? Is the love story still going on?
For the first time, middle-aged people began to re-examine their lives and reshape their values for the first time. All this began with confusion.
What is the point of living? Do you have a destiny takes a hand's mission in this life? What do you have to do your best to stick to?
Only by answering these questions can we get out of confusion and get a new life.
Third, loneliness.
Middle-aged people are the busiest and most lonely.
Middle-aged people are busy with work, entertainment, parents, children and lovers, but they lack time to face themselves.
It is hard to imagine that middle-aged people who are busy with their careers and families every day will feel lonely.
Some people are busy because they are afraid of being idle, so that frequent social activities and trivial daily life fill their time and they have no time to face their hearts alone.
When people reach middle age, their childhood playmates, former classmates and former friendships have already drifted away. They all have their own lives, colleagues at work and business partners. They all have interests and friendship, but it is difficult to talk to each other.
You have to bear the pain inside, but the feeling of loneliness is getting stronger and stronger. When people reach middle age, it is a great blessing to have someone who understands you.
Fourth, disheartened
Middle-aged people are most afraid of being disheartened.
When people reach middle age, the flower season of life has long passed, and the once beautiful love has long been a memory. Children grow up gradually, and the happiness of being parents is gradually indifferent. The best days of my life are over. Looking ahead, only aging and withering are left, as if everyone can see their inevitable ending. Memories of the past and disappointment with the present situation are the fundamental reasons for middle-aged people's despair.
People are not afraid of tossing. Life is a process of entropy reduction. Being able to toss represents vitality. As long as the spirit in your heart is still there, you can overcome any difficulties.
The value of life lies in constant experience and transcendence. I'm afraid that even the desire to toss about will be gone, and I will lose my passion for life, feel that nothing is interesting, lose my desire and lose my motivation to move forward.
Despair is the biggest crisis for middle-aged people.