Ability is not to do one thing well, nor is it, of course, whether you have found a better job. Ability is more of a state of mind, a kind of calmness, and a positive self-intention to overcome, surpass and realize oneself with every minute and second in the battlefield of life. I think temperament refers to the external expression of a person's inner cultivation or accomplishment, and temperament is the internal unconscious exposure, not just superficial kung fu. If you have no ink on your chest, if you use it on gorgeous clothes, this person has no temperament at all, but gives others a superficial feeling. Hehe, based on my understanding of "ability" and "image", I think that in order to improve my self-cultivation and quality, besides dressing appropriately and speaking appropriately, the most important thing is to constantly improve my knowledge and moral cultivation, enrich myself to overcome, surpass and realize my positive self-intention. Self-image is an idea we often hold about ourselves, that is, "what kind of person I belong to", such as "I am a successful person"; "I am a loser" and so on. Our psychological system has such a characteristic: what kind of person we imagine ourselves to be, the psychological system will do things impartially according to the kind of person we imagine. For example, we think of ourselves as "failure people". Although we have good wishes, the mental system will keep looking for various reasons to prove that we will fail. When our self-confidence is destroyed by the psychological system, we really fail. For another example, if we imagine ourselves as a "successful person", our mental system will use various methods to find our successful experience and reasons. At this time, coupled with the visualization and concretization of our aspirations and dreams, and our firm belief that we can succeed, we really succeeded. It can be seen that the real key to determine our character and behavior is self-image, which is based on our thoughts and beliefs. So we say that one's thoughts can determine one's own destiny and the outcome of things. First of all, be confident and "beautify" yourself on the basis of accepting yourself. In other words, you must be satisfied with yourself, appreciate yourself, care for yourself with love, love every part of your body and love your style. When you accept and love yourself, your body will blossom a kind of heartfelt beauty, which will make you calm, generous and confident, accepted and liked by others, and invisibly increase your temperament charm! Secondly, we should read more books and improve our inner cultivation. Some people put forward three realms of life: "reading thousands of books" means reading books with words, and the first realm is also-reading philosophical books can cultivate the atmosphere; Reading professional books can cultivate talents; Reading casual books can cultivate aura. "Taking Wan Li Road" means reading a wordless gobbledygook, and the second realm is also the road to travel, which can broaden your horizons; The road to exploration can expand the world; Helping others can expand your chest. "Listening to people's words" means reading people's books, and so does the third realm-listening to the words of suffering can sharpen the will; Listening to humorous words can sharpen feelings; Listening to good and bad words can sharpen your mind. Apply these three realms to daily life and social interaction, and your temperament and self-cultivation will naturally emerge. For example, get close to some people with good temperament and make friends with them; Participate in group entertainment and physical exercise activities; Consciously create some environments for yourself and cultivate their elegance, lightness and pleasure. These all belong to the category of reading. Third, accept your appearance and love and care for others. Everyone has a unique temperament and advantages in personality or appearance, and it is also attractive to others, so we should know the advantages of our personality and appearance, and make use of them to show your unique charm; A person's inner beauty comes from the love in his heart-love everything around him, love everyone around him, and we will get the same return. Caring and caring for others is one of the most attractive qualities. If you care about other people's behavior, others will be impressed by this temperament. You can go to my blog to see the law of love-love begins with people's thoughts, the law of love-begins with self-respect, the law of love-if you want to get love, you must first give love, the law of love-if you want to find true love, you must create true friendship, the law of love-abandon prejudice, give freedom, the law of love-and communicate sincerely. Fourth, express your true feelings and keep a sense of humor. A person's true self-expression is easy for others to accept and accept, so no matter what kind of emotions, feelings and tenderness, they should be expressed in time and properly. A woman who often suppresses and hides her emotions will be regarded as indifferent by others. Imagine that no one wants to associate with icebergs? Ha ha! At the same time, we should also learn to be humorous and cheerful, and know how to smile or laugh at appropriate occasions and at appropriate times, which will certainly be welcomed by others. Fifth, be open-minded and ask friends for help in time. In social interaction, don't show impatience or look down on others because they have different tempers and identities, and don't lose your temper and haggle over every ounce on many occasions, even embarrassing everyone. This will be very annoying. You should be open-minded, generous, generous and neither supercilious nor supercilious. When you are in trouble, you should ask your friends for help. Friends will feel their importance because you ask them for help. They will not despise you, but will become bosom friends and love you more. Sixth, don't show off your cleverness Everyone has his own self-esteem and something to be proud of. Showing off is a sign of lack of education. Of course, women are generally more thoughtful and meticulous than men. If you show your thoughtfulness and carefulness in front of that careless man, he will attach great importance to you. Don't think it's smart, it's a sign of thinking in place and a woman's delicate mind. Through the above cultivation, I believe you will show elegant temperament and charming personality! I wish you success.