Good evening, friends. We just mentioned the father-son relationship. Filial piety is the most important thing in father-son relationship. The word "filial piety" is a knowing word, an "old" and a "child". Together, it becomes a word of filial piety. Always refers to the previous generation, and the son refers to the next generation. The integration of the previous generation and the next generation is called filial piety, so the previous generation cannot live without the next generation. We regard this word as a son carrying an old man on his back, so the older generation is obsessed with how to train the next generation in order to explain to their parents and ancestors, and even to teach the society a good child. Children carry their fathers behind their backs, that is to say, they bear the responsibility of supporting their parents on their shoulders, thinking about their parents all the time, and how to make them happier and live more completely. Therefore, filial sons in ancient times can really think of their parents all the time. In ancient times, there was a famous dutiful son, Ceng Zi (Zeng Shen). Once he went up the mountain to cut wood, and it happened that his friend came to see him. Ancient friends may have gone for two or three days to find him. His mother is very loyal, thinking that her friends have come so far, so if she hasn't seen Zeng Shen again, she is very embarrassed to her friends. Immediately, she stuck a needle in her hand. When the needle went down, Zeng Shen immediately felt heartbroken. He immediately felt that something must have happened to his mother and hurried home. When I got home, I saw that his mother hadn't spoken yet, so I immediately knelt down and said, Mom, what's the matter? Why does my heart hurt? As a result, my mother explained to him that I wanted to call you back as soon as possible because a friend came over, so I did it. So people who were children in ancient times really missed their parents. Then let's think about it now. Do we have this attitude towards our parents? Why not? Let's think back. Did anyone teach us to be filial when we were young? No one taught. What do you think about every day? I'm probably thinking about myself. We often say to children, son, what does your mother like to eat? They all said they didn't know. As a result, I asked the child, and I said, does mom know what you like to eat? They said of course they knew, and told several stories about what they had and what they had. I said you see your mother misses you, and everyone knows what you want to eat. Your mother takes good care of you. How do you repay your mother? You don't even know what her mother wants to eat. "What parents like, we can do", we should try our best to give parents support. So we told our children what to buy first when shopping in the future. Buy what mom likes first. Through this contrast, they can feel that our mother loves us so much, but we don't even know the basics of such a life. Therefore, the filial piety of ancient people also depends on parents to set an example. In addition, filial piety is the foundation of education, and it has been taught since childhood. Even the neighborhood township party will admire and respect the filial son, and even imitate him, so the social atmosphere at that time was also very good. Is it really hard to hear filial piety in society now? It is not easy! So since it has been broken for two or three generations, it is necessary to start from scratch. How to guide children to be filial, in our teaching, is often the whole process from mother's pregnancy to childbirth, and then to raising, so that he can understand his mother's kindness, the so-called kindness, kindness. So we will tell our children from the beginning that the Buddha once passed a place and saw a pile of white bones on the ground. The Buddha bowed first and bowed with these bones. After the ceremony, the students asked: Buddha, why did you bow to this pile of bones? Buddha said; These bones may all be our ancestors in the past, and we should respect them. After worshipping this pile of bones, the Buddha asked the students to divide the two piles of bones into a pile of darker bones and a pile of whiter bones. The student asked: Why are these two piles of bones black and white? The Buddha went on to say: this pile of black bones is the mother's bones, because the nutrition of the whole fetus must be extracted from the mother's body during pregnancy, so a lot of calcium is lost. Then because the whole parenting process is very hard, my mother's body will become more and more haggard. The whole pregnancy process is ten months, and ten months of pregnancy is dozens of pounds, which is very hard. We did an activity, that is, give an egg to a child, and let them protect it on that day. Dear friends, what's the result? As a result, the eggs were almost destroyed. They protected the egg for almost three minutes and then forgot it. Gradually, it will jump, so the egg will break immediately after such a jump. Through this experience, we tell students that you can't protect a small egg for a day, but how long will your mother protect your big child? Ten months, so it's hard. In the late pregnancy, lying down is uncomfortable and can't sleep well. It will be hard and painful to have a baby in ten months. The pain of childbirth is more painful than cancer. There are some delivery beds in the delivery room with two thick steel columns on them. Dear friends, why are there those two steel columns? You can pull and hug when it hurts, and transfer this pain to the pulling force, so it's very hard. We told the children that two steel columns had been bent. What kind of force makes steel columns bend? It is the power of mother's childbirth pain that even the steel columns are bent, so these two steel columns have witnessed the hard work and hardship of mother's childbirth. We will continue to tell the children, whether the mother said that it hurts me to death after giving birth, or when her children grow up, she will tell them that I hurt to death when I gave birth to you. Is this happening? None of them. Even after such pain, what's your first thought after giving birth? The idea is to think about whether the child is healthy and how the child is now. Therefore, the mother's care for her children, even if it is so painful, she can let go. This is the kindness that the mother produces. It will be even harder when the baby is born. So one of our parents said, she said that before she got pregnant, she thought she wanted to give birth to the baby as soon as possible; After giving birth, if you feel that you really want to send the child back, don't give birth. Why? Because it is harder after giving birth, I can't even sleep well. I remember my little nephew, who stayed in our house for a long time before he was one year old. Sometimes he stays up at night and quarrels there. The family took turns to fight, one hitting the other, because his hand was almost broken. I became one of them, but my hand was almost broken for almost half an hour. So it's really difficult for mothers to raise children. When the child is born, the mother must breastfeed and eat a lot of nutritious things for the child. During pregnancy, many mothers often vomit because of physical discomfort. But these mothers still force themselves to swallow food. Why? Because I think these nutrients must be eaten to make the fetus healthier, and the whole post-natal parenting work also makes my mother very tired. I heard from my grandfather that my mother gave birth to three of us, so all three of us have to nurse, and my mother has to go to work in the morning, so she has to go home to feed our three children after class in the morning, and then run back to school to teach immediately after dinner. My mother said that when she was raising us, she was often too tired after class, and she fell down in ten minutes and fell asleep at the lecture table. She said that she didn't know how many classes were awakened by students, and the teacher was in class. It is really hard to work, be a mother and take care of everything at home. Therefore, in the process of guidance, children should understand that their whole growth is very hard for their mothers, so that they can realize that their mothers are good to them. Many children will be very moved, and even some children will cry. Then we will further guide the children. Since you know your mother's kindness, you should know how to repay and be a dutiful son. How can I be a dutiful son? Do you earn a lot of money for your mother when you grow up? Buy a big house for mom? It's too far. Therefore, we guide our children to implement them in their lives from now on. Guiding children to take slippers is also a favor for their mothers, even helping their mothers mop the floor and help their mothers solve problems. This is all a filial piety. The best teaching material to teach how to carry out filial piety is our Disciples Rules, so tell children that as long as you do one of the Disciples Rules, you will be filial. Where does it start and end? The first sentence of our Disciple Rules says: "Don't be slow when parents call; Parents, don't be lazy. " Start with a respectful attitude towards your parents. For example, there is a saying in Disciples Rules that it is warm in winter and cool in summer. The allusion of "warm in winter and cool in summer" is that there was a scholar named Huang Xiang in the Eastern Han Dynasty whose mother died young, so he lived alone with his father. Because his father is in poor health, he sympathizes with his father's situation. In winter, because of the cold weather, he first hid in the quilt to warm the quilt. It was very hot in summer, so he used a fan to cool the bed first, and then invited his father to sleep and observe where his parents' needs were. We will further guide the children. Huang Xiang saw that his parents would be hot and cold, so he knew how to do the work. Dear children, what needs do our parents have in life? We should do our best. We will further guide them and they will think. Sometimes in the process of teaching children, I often know how to use some questions to make him feel. Some children will say that when mother may be hungry or thirsty, we immediately know how to pour a glass of water and give her something to eat. Even my parents feel very tired when they come back from work. At this time, we can learn how to massage and serve our parents. I believe that even if your skills are not very good, your mother will feel very comfortable and comforted if you have this filial piety. Therefore, guide children from the needs of life. Disciples' Rules also said, "When you are away from home, you must report it, but you must face it. "As children, we can't let our parents worry about everything. We must tell our parents where to go. What you have done can reassure your parents. This is filial piety. " Disciples' Rules also said, "Although things are small, don't be good at it.". We often ask children what they can't do without authorization, which will embarrass or worry their parents. In fact, the child responded very well. They often mention that some impolite things can't be done, and some things that will make them dangerous can't be done. Therefore, through our guidance, the child's filial piety will fall in his family and in his life, which is to implement virtue. Therefore, it is definitely not a day or two to teach children filial piety. You must be guided and reminded bit by bit in your life. Therefore, many of our teachers insist on teaching disciples rules and filial piety for more than half a year, so that the whole behavior of children can be put on the right track and this filial piety can be completely internalized into his mind. In filial piety, we just mentioned that it is very important for parents to set an example. On filial piety, we can think and work hard from several angles. From what angles? From the parents' body, foster parents' heart, foster parents' ambition and foster parents' wisdom. We say that adoptive parents represent the health of parents, and we should always know how to care for them. It is recorded in ancient books that we should take care of the elderly over 60 as children. Older people are more likely to feel lonely and lonely in their later years, and their bodies are weaker. Therefore, we should always be considerate of our parents' physical condition, and then be filial and set a good example for our children. For example, in spring and autumn, the temperature changes greatly. At this time, if we can't go home, we should call our parents and ask them if they have these warm clothes and quilts. As soon as this phone call is made, your child can feel that you care about his parents' health everywhere, and he can feel filial piety as a parent. Secondly, parents' health can be noticed at any time. Caring for parents' health requires correct knowledge and correct knowledge. Let's think about it. What should I do if my parents are sick? Seeing a doctor, the intuitive response is to see a doctor. See what doctor? As a matter of fact, China people pay the most attention to treating diseases before they get sick, rather than treating diseases before they get sick. Therefore, China people pay special attention to the way of keeping in good health. Never wait until you get sick to prevent it. It will be very hard. Let's think about it. Has anyone been sent to the hospital because of high blood pressure and then recovered? Did anyone with diabetes see a western doctor and see that his diabetes finally got better? Did any cancer patients go to western medicine and say that the cancer was cured? What western medicine sees is to relieve your symptoms. For example, high blood pressure, high blood pressure is very uncomfortable because blood vessels are blocked, so how about your blood vessels when you take that medicine? Dilated, the blood will flow slightly. So it looks like you're not going to die. It seems that if a blood vessel is blocked, it will expand. So we often see what heart patients are like. Go and get the medicine. If you take the medicine, the symptoms will be alleviated, but his blood vessels will relax day by day and eventually rupture, so it will only alleviate the symptoms. Finally, let's take a look. If you are forty or fifty years old, you will follow people who eat western medicine. How long will it take? Eat for life. Then let's take a look at what many old people put in their bags when they travel. One bag in the east and one bag in the west are all western medicines. When our parents are living with these drugs in their later years, is life still easy? It's very difficult, so it's the right direction to study more correct health preserving methods so that parents' bodies really don't need to rely on these western medicines. Remind parents not to eat too salty and oily at ordinary times, and remind him in this regard. Then let him know that he should eat more vegetables and fruits in his diet, because a healthy body is in a weak alkaline state and meat food is acidic, so his constitution will be acidified over time. There is a saying that acidic constitution is the source of all diseases. Therefore, it is necessary to guide parents to maintain health, so that the body will gradually become weak and alkaline, and the physical condition will be good. Otherwise, let's think about it. What would happen if all your internal organs were soaked in acid? These internal organs will soon degenerate. We can't hear the cries of internal organs, and we can't hear them say that I can hardly breathe and soak me in such sour body fluids. Therefore, parents' correct health care concept should be guided and accumulated by us bit by bit, so that they can understand health care. Personally, I prefer to see Chinese medicine. Traditional Chinese medicine treats diseases, not just symptoms. Therefore, in this era, people listen to deception and don't listen to persuasion, and they are not serious about identifying fakes. In medicine, go to see Chinese medicine. After taking your pulse, he said that Rome wasn't built in a day, and told you that it would take six months to recuperate. How many people have listened for six months? Scared to death, I don't have much time to recuperate. As a result, western medicine told him that an injection would make him feel comfortable immediately. He was very happy and photographed it at once. But then he had to live on injections and drugs, and the side effects were particularly great. Therefore, we really need to have the right knowledge to make ourselves healthy and our parents healthy. Then, the heart of adoptive parents is that you can always pay attention to your parents' mood. For example, your mother called you and talked about it. As a result, you also heard that your mother missed us. At this time, you should take the initiative to go home and have a look, don't wait for your mother to talk. Some old people miss not only their children, but also their little grandchildren. At this time, we can sympathize with our parents and go home quickly. During the Lantern Festival this year, we had a teacher to attend a course on China culture. She was very happy after listening to it. Every time I see her in class, she is very attentive. All she has to do is tell some stories about sages and write them down at once. As a result, three months later, one day she stood up. After listening to the class for three months, she never talked to me again It was three months before she stepped onto the platform and asked me a question. Then I'll ask her first. I said, you have been in class for three months. Why have you never talked to me? She said: Miss Cai, I think you are too busy and too hard. I don't want to disturb you. We are very touched, and her heart can always sympathize with others.