How to cultivate one's mind and nature

1. Live in the present, don't always think about tomorrow, and don't always regret what happened yesterday, but concentrate on doing what happened today. Because regret, self-blame, guilt and sadness can't change the past, it will only make it difficult to carry on the present work. Second, living here, there is nothing we can do about what happens in the distance, and it is useless to think about it; Worry is futile; Being nervous doesn't help. Remember that you live here, not far. Third, stop speculating and face the reality. Many psychological disputes and obstacles are often caused by "taking it for granted" that they have no actual basis. If you greet leaders or colleagues and they don't respond, you may suspect that they have problems. In fact, it may be that they were preoccupied and upset and didn't notice you. Therefore, there is no need to make meaningless guesses. Fourth, stop thinking and feel more. Many people think about how to do a good job, how to get good grades, how to improve the relationship with leading colleagues and so on. Therefore, it is often easy to ignore or have no mind to see the beautiful scenery and listen to good music. Gestalt therapy emphasizes that "feeling" is the basis of thinking and is more important than thinking itself. You can't think without feeling. Feeling can adjust and enrich your thinking. Fifth, we should also accept that unpleasant emotions are relative and can be transformed into each other. Therefore, people should be prepared to accept unpleasant emotions. If a person is always "happy" and "excited" for many years, it is an abnormal phenomenon. 6. Don't make a judgment first, give a reference opinion first. When others make a small mistake or fail, people tend to jump to conclusions immediately. Gestalt therapy believes that the correct way to treat others and interpersonal relationships should be: don't judge first, talk about your own thoughts first. In this way, you can prevent and avoid unnecessary friction and conflict with others, and you can also avoid unnecessary trouble and depression. 7. Don't blindly worship idols and authority. There are many disguised authorities and idols in modern society, which will imprison your heart and bind your hands and feet, such as education, money and so on. Gestalt therapy holds a negative attitude towards all these. Don't blindly echo public opinion, thus losing the habit of independent thinking; Don't succumb to others unprincipled, thus being deprived of the ability to act independently. Eight, I am me, I am responsible for myself. Don't say anything If I were someone, I would succeed. We should start from our own starting point and give full play to our potential. Don't blame others; Starting from me, from now on, I will try to give full play to my talents and do what I can. People tend to pass the buck easily. For example, if you don't do well in the exam, you will blame your family and school for the failure; If the work is not good, people will say that the leadership is poor and the conditions are too bad. Blame one's faults and failures on objective reasons. One of the important principles of Gestalt Therapy is to ask yourself to be responsible for what you have done. Nine, correct self-estimation, put your position right. Everyone occupies a specific position in society, so you should fulfill your rights and obligations according to the requirements of this specific position. If you don't follow this norm that is unanimously recognized by the society and observed by everyone, then you will be condemned and opposed by the society and others. Be content, cherish life, cherish life, arrange your life with friends, family and yourself reasonably, don't get angry, drink more tea, often go out to exercise and play chess, as long as you do more things that are good for your health! Enjoy life, to put it bluntly, is the freedom of life. You have the right to live the life you want, and you also have the right to go where you want in summer. Don't expect too much from the future. If you expect too much, you will feel even more depressed. It will make you feel comfortable to see what you are doing now. Don't deliberately live to show others, you will find that living freely means enjoying life. As long as we reach the following level in life, our mind will certainly improve. Don't covet fame and fortune, know when to be content; Always sum up and reflect on yourself, don't talk about or criticize others, let alone blame others; Respect the virtuous gentlemen in society and try to make friends with them, but keep a respectful distance from the villains in society; Don't be afraid of the hardships in life, don't haggle over every ounce, and dare to suffer losses when appropriate; Think twice before you act, let go if you can, and insist on not giving up easily; Learn to "tolerate", but also learn to "let", leaving enough room for yourself when dealing with people; Learn to keep in good health and prevent laziness; Don't indulge in bad habits ... to forgive others is to be kind to yourself. Speak well, think well, and do well. If you do your duty, you will get many skills. Without money, you will be happy. If you have a clear conscience, you will be the safest. Make a good wish and talk well. Say good things like lotus flowers, say bad things like poisonous snakes. The house is not as wide as the heart. Appreciate others, and you will be solemn. If you expand your mind, you will be blessed. To be kind to people, you must first be a good person. Being able to get rid of troubles is wisdom, and being able to give love is happiness. It is better to be happy than to be willing to do it. It's better to talk less than to say more, and it's better to say more than to say less. Anger is to punish yourself with other people's mistakes. Success is the exertion of advantages, while failure is the accumulation of disadvantages. Always kind, always a beautiful day. The way to cultivate self-cultivation is that everything in the world is good. In life, you should be able to eat, sleep and do things. To do anything, you must be a man first and do your duty. People should not be arrogant, but not arrogant. Benevolent people love mountains, while wise people enjoy water. First of all, be kind to others, be honest and open-minded, work hard and be honest with others. The spirit should be cultivated, and the normal heart should be peaceful. "forbearance": forbearance is not blindly forbearance, but kind forbearance, forbearance when it should be tolerated and forbearance when it should not be tolerated.