I have a beloved person, a stable job, a harmonious family, leisure to raise one or two kittens and puppies, three meals and four seasons, plain and ordinary enough to spend the rest of my life.

However, if things go against our wishes, life will always be full of all kinds of hardships. In reality, there are too many sudden misfortunes, which may ruin everything at once.

It is said that, oh, let a spirited person take risks in his favorite place, but there are few proud moments, but difficult moments are pouring in.

Things are unpredictable. There are too many joys and sorrows in this world. Living is a very simple thing, but it is difficult to survive.

The recent situation is somewhat unsatisfactory, and two or three things are surging.

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Years ago, I fell out with a colleague because of some work differences, which eventually led to my being almost isolated in the whole department.

The reason for the job transfer is that I transferred from another department to my present department, and the work content is similar. Because the big office was full and there was no room, I was assigned to an independent office.

There is little communication with colleagues at ordinary times, and only when holding departmental meetings or discussing laws, regulations and policy documents will I sit down and express my opinions.

In the new environment and new departments, many working methods and ideas are different, so every time I have better opinions or suggestions on my work on the basis of previous departments, they are basically not adopted.

"Our department has the rules and working methods of our department. Please come with us!" "This internship belongs to your last department. Don't always tell me what happened there. You are from here now! " "Don't have so many ideas, just say what to do." …….

Sticking to the rules, standing still and being arrogant and rude are my comments on this colleague.

Facts have proved that in some cases, she was later slapped in the face, and some changes in her original work confirmed that my opinions and suggestions were correct.

But even so, as a senior employee, and in a big office, interpersonal relationships are as solid as an iron wall, and even if you make a mistake, you just laugh it off in a few words.

However, my mistakes are always mentioned by her, criticized as cases and negative examples, and laughed at by other colleagues.

I know very well that few people in the workplace will look at you and put themselves in each other's shoes. Everyone is busy. If you expect others to help you, you will be out sooner or later. You are lucky that you didn't take advantage of someone's crisis to attack them.

I became a loner in their eyes. Apart from departmental meetings, I no longer set foot in big offices and rarely communicate with them.

Lambs flock together, and wolves are always alone.

In that case, do my job quietly. I don't need meaningless social intercourse, and I don't care about people with different views.

Of course, as far as the whole unit is concerned, there are still many interesting good people. Generally speaking, I'm not angry.

In fact, many people know that there are always groups of people in the workplace, and it is difficult for you to blend in, because you can't make everyone recognize and like you, but not everyone will hate and reject you unless you really have a personality problem.

I remember a close colleague once told me that "people are mutual", which is quite right. There are many things to worry about. There is no need to be angry about such people and these little things.

Because anger is the easiest way to expose a person's nature, and it is also the best way to see a person's upbringing.

02

At the end of May, suddenly a bank called me every day to collect debts. After careful inquiry, I learned that it was my brother who borrowed money from the bank and my mother and I were the guarantors.

The bank called him many times, but he never answered, so my mother and I became the targets of debt collection.

Last year, my brother told me passionately that he wanted to do business with others and open a tea restaurant, but he didn't have that much money and could only be a minority shareholder.

I thought he had worked for many years, and the partnership funds were his own savings, but I didn't expect him to borrow money secretly. I don't know how much he borrowed

The competition in the catering industry is already great, and the speed of upgrading is too fast. Near the street where I live, I have witnessed the opening and closing of countless shops in recent years, and I was worried at first.

However, I understand why he took the risk, just to make his life better and his family feel more secure.

I called him and asked him how much he owed. Why don't I tell him at home? No one answered.

The bank phone still calls me regularly every day. I chose to ignore it and called my mother. When she learned that my brother wanted a loan, she called him immediately, but there was still no response.

My mother called me, sobbing with worry, and said that I must try to contact him. She is afraid that my brother owes a loan shark instead of a bank. At that time, interest alone would drag him down, and he would even come to collect debts and be threatened. In the end, his family was threatened. This kind of thing has been common on TV and news.

I called his former colleague and asked him to find a way to contact me, saying that our whole family was looking for him.

Maybe his colleague helped, or maybe my mother and I called him on WeChat every day, and he finally replied.

He said he just wanted to be alone, that we don't have to worry, that he can find a way to solve it, and that we don't have to intervene. ...

I was a little angry and asked him if he had considered our feelings. I know him. He really doesn't want us to worry about him. He has endured many things silently and has been working hard for his family.

I secretly bought insurance for my mother, paid a fee every year, and bought skin care products and nutrients for her to send back from time to time; Occasionally, I will buy some health products, medicinal oil and medicinal liquor from Hong Kong to send to my grandparents.

Everyone in the family knows that he is sensible, but rarely knows that he often works overtime, let alone that he has worked two jobs in the past two years. Since he became ill, he always went to the hospital alone for examination, and he always refused to tell us how hard and difficult he was.

Under my constant persuasion, he finally confessed The restaurant really closed down. At first, business was good, but then it slowly went downhill. Coupled with the impact of the epidemic, he and other partners have been unable to make up for the loss. Finally, I had to give up, so I was in debt.

My mother didn't blame him when she learned the situation, because we knew that blame couldn't solve the problem. She just asked him how much money he owed, and his family helped him pay it back, and then she worked hard.

I told my mother not to worry. After appeasing her, I turned around and silently transferred most of my savings over the past few years to my brother.

Family ties are more valuable than money. Compared with my brother's efforts, my money is negligible.

Brothers should help each other.

03

Recently, my roommate, who shared a room with me, was lovelorn and listless every day, or drowned her sorrows by drinking, and was depressed again and again.

I have known him since I was a freshman, for more than seven years. We shared a dormitory at school and lived together when we worked in Shenzhen after graduation. I have never seen him so decadent.

However, it can be seen from this that how much he cares about this feeling is unforgettable.

Because, this is his first love, but also from the freshman year, they have gone through this long seven years together, ups and downs are each other.

I thought I could watch them step into the marriage hall, get married and have children, but I didn't expect it to end in discord.

Seven years can change many people and things. They have been together for so long, growing up with each other and moving from campus to society. How many memories, how many stumbling, unspeakable.

In order to comfort him, I ate and drank with him at weekends and listened to many stories about them.

And I also told him a lot of truth, but everyone understands the truth. Understanding is one thing, and letting go is another.

In the past few years after graduation, he tried his best to make money and finally saved enough down payment, but he still failed to get the approval of his parents.

Feelings are not given unilaterally. I only saw him treat her without reservation, but I didn't see her resisting and insisting for him. However, it can't be said that she didn't pay a little. She gave him her best age and the most precious youth, but none of us expected that they still lost to reality and to themselves.

He said that after this hurdle, he would never be so sincere to a person, never be so serious and spare no effort.

I can only sigh secretly and raise my glass to drink with him.

Perhaps time is the best medicine to heal the wounds of love.

I wonder, is it really that important to be appropriate? Everyone has different opinions, but it is undeniable that feelings without material foundation are really like scattered sand, which easily disappears when the wind blows. This is a naked reality and one of the keys that prevent many couples from achieving positive results.

Some people disdain, some people scoff, some people smile indifferently, and some people are worried. No matter what kind of mentality, it actually shows a truth that money can make people practical.

Money is not everything, but it is indispensable. In today's society, it is difficult to move without money, and even health and happiness can be bought with money.

Aside from the portal and material outlook, two people must have the courage and belief to go on firmly together. Even if you have nothing, you can support each other and fight for it.

This process may be difficult from scratch, but it is particularly important for us to cherish hard-won things and never abandon the person who is with us.

I hope all the feelings can start and end, and every couple can tie the knot and stay with them until they are old.

In real life, there are not so many poems and distant places, only ordinary fireworks. It is the normal state of the world that we work hard and busy every day for life.

I dare not have too many illusions about work, family and love, because I have been working hard for the future and my future life.

Some people live a poetic life, while others spend their lives hanging out at the bottom of society. No one will live an easy life. On weekdays, urban men and women in suits or glamorous clothes have a lot of unknown sadness and suffering behind them.

If you want to live a contented and ordinary life, you must overcome many difficulties and go forward bravely!

Life is nothing but life and death. The rest of the sadness and joy is only a moment, and the bad and good are the past, which will add icing on the cake to our lives.