As the saying goes, "once born, twice cooked." For strangers, if you greet them first, it means that you put them in a higher position. Treating each other with humility and enthusiasm will definitely open the door to communication. If you can look into each other's eyes with confident and honest eyes, you will leave a deep impression on them.

Second, explain a little when you give your name.

In mnemonics, there is a method called "memory combination", which is a memory method that connects one thing with other things. People who meet for the first time can deepen others' impression of you in this way. For example, if your surname is Zhang, you can say, "My surname is Zhang, and Zhang Fei's Zhang is not a chapter in the article." Explain this way, the other party will recognize your humor and remember you more easily.

Third, pay attention to your expression.

People's innermost thoughts will be exposed, and they will be exposed on their expressions. When people arrive at the meeting place, they often only pay attention to dress issues such as "straight tie" and "messy hair", while ignoring the importance of "expression". If you want to make a good impression on people you meet for the first time, look in the mirror and carefully check whether your facial expression is different from usual. If you are too nervous, you'd better giggle at yourself in the mirror first.

Fourth, find out each other's "common ground"

Everyone has the psychology of "seeking common ground", and often unconsciously they are closely linked because of the consciousness of the same family or peers, so organizations such as hometown associations and alumni associations came into being. If we can find some "common ground" between us, even if we meet for the first time, we will feel close to each other invisibly. Once the psychological distance is close, it is easy for both sides to talk to each other.

Five, understand each other's hobbies

If people who meet for the first time can understand and make use of each other's hobbies, they can shorten the distance and deepen their goodwill. For example, talk to middle-aged and elderly people about health and longevity, talk to young women about children losing weight, and talk to children about Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck. Even people who don't know themselves well can make others like you in a short time by talking about news, books and other topics.

Six, guide each other to talk about things they are proud of.

Everyone has something he is proud of, but he can't take the initiative to mention what he is proud of unless others ask him to. At this time, if you can bring it up as a topic in time and properly, the other party will be extremely happy, open up and speak freely. Give people opportunities appropriately, and your relationship will be more harmonious.

Seven, timely point out the subtle changes of the other party.

Everyone is eager to have the care of others, and it is easy to have a good impression on people who care about themselves. So we should actively express our concern for others. As long as you find that the other person's clothes or common items have changed, even if it is extremely small, you should tell the other person immediately, and absolutely no one will feel unhappy about it. The more subtle changes are pointed out, the more they can make each other happy. Let the other person feel your concern and care, and your relationship will become closer than before.

Eight, sitting properly

People who hunch over are mostly shy and self-defensive. People who find it difficult to get along with each other have a straight back, which will make people feel energetic and full of vitality. Therefore, in social occasions such as conversations and interviews, you must pay attention to stand up straight and make people feel that you are "smart and capable".

Nine, appropriately "echo" each other

"Echo" is the simplest signal to listen to each other, which reflects the emotional communication between the two sides. When you really listen to others, you will always find something you don't understand, interesting or amazing in the conversation. If you can actively express your feelings when listening, echo the voice and add "Is this true?" It is as you say ...? ""why? " In that case, it will definitely make the other person's conversation more interesting and happy to talk to you.

Ten, don't ignore the way to break up.

According to psychology, people's memory or impression has "sequential position effect of memory", that is to say, people's memory or impression will be different with the position in their discourse. Generally speaking, the most effective are the initial and final positions. Therefore, if you leave a bad impression or some minor problems in the process of things, if you can plant a good impression in the other person's heart at the last minute, you can recover the original loss.

Heads of government and parliamentarians in some western countries often use this method when they lose public complaints: when accepting complaints, they don't send the other party to the door; When the veto is rejected, it must be respectfully sent to the gate, shaking hands and saying goodbye, letting those who have not achieved their goals go back and thanking each other for their efforts. Pay attention to the language and actions when breaking up in daily communication. After warmly entertaining friends, people slam the door as soon as they go out, and the previous hospitality is in vain. At the end of the meeting, if you can express your gratitude in a few words, it will definitely leave an unforgettable impression on the other party.