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How to cultivate temper?
Temper is one of the common psychological phenomena in daily life. Many young people are impatient and impulsive, especially when they are unhappy or don't like themselves. Sometimes they quarrel with others and say embarrassing things, or affect the unity between comrades or family harmony. People have good temper and bad temper. A good-natured person will be welcomed wherever he goes, and others like to cooperate with him and do things. People with bad temper often bring distress to themselves and others and make others find it difficult to get along with them. Some people have made a survey and found that most young men and women take asking each other to be good-tempered as one of the conditions when choosing a spouse. According to experience, we also know that if one or two people in a family or a small unit have a bad temper, it will often make the family or the collective disunited. Therefore, getting rid of bad temper is not only to eliminate personal distress, but also to promote family harmony and collective unity. A person's good temper has a lot to do with the environment in which he lives and works. Good temper, such as meekness, peace and patience, is often closely related to a harmonious and warm family environment and good upbringing; Bad temper, such as grumpy, stubborn, eccentric, willful, etc., is often related to being spoiled, spoiled or unable to get the warmth of the family, and parents are too strict. The smooth or bumpy road of personal life will also have a great influence on people's temper and personality. "A leopard cannot change his spots" means that people's temper and personality are stable, but it doesn't mean they are fixed. As we all know, some people have a bad temper when they are young and are as stubborn as an unruly cow; But after the tempering of life, especially the loss of bad temper, his temper gradually calmed down and he was less stubborn about things. So bad temper can be changed. Of course, some will not change, because he didn't ask to change his bad temper himself, or he didn't ask to change it seriously. So, how can we get rid of bad temper? First of all, the most important thing is to have a good understanding of the harm of bad temper. In social life, we always contact and associate with others, hoping to get their goodwill, friendship, appreciation and cooperation (of course, it is impossible for everyone to do so), otherwise, we will feel lonely, lifeless and unable to move. Human behavior is regulated and controlled by consciousness. Knowing the harm of bad temper, you can get rid of it from your heart. Secondly, we should strengthen ideological cultivation. Only by always thinking of others and respecting their interests and needs can we be full of warmth, consideration and love for others. Only by putting the collective interests first at all times can we not be impulsive and opinionated, and we can be calm and think twice before acting. Finally, we should have determination and perseverance to get rid of bad temper. If you can't remember it today, be careful. Two days later, we are still the same. With determination and perseverance, bad temper is bound to get rid of.