Not long ago, Chen himself found out the merits of breaking up with his ex-girlfriend Mao two years ago, and then the tragedy was finalized. This incident came to an end with Mao's public recording after the two broke up.
Netizens did watch a good play and thought Chen Zhen was so interesting that they broke up for so many years.
However, a woman pointed out a different point of view. She said that other aspects of Chen were hard to say, but she could clearly put forward the breakup and wanted to call Mao after the breakup to restore the situation at that time, which was much better than many men.
What? Has the demand for men fallen to that low? As long as you clearly say "break up" when you want to break up, you can already be said to be a good man.
So based on this question, I chatted with 20 other women, mainly including classmates about my age, colleagues around me, and some good friends born after 90. What do smart women do when their boyfriends break up?
I'm shocked to say it. I found that ten women couldn't get down. On the road of feelings, I have encountered such a situation: men don't want to fall in love anymore, and then women ignore it and even lose contact.
Men seem to sympathize with this shady breakup. They also put it into practice, but they didn't know that they also broke many girls' hearts.
There was a woman who used to be considerate to her boyfriend when she was with people, although her boyfriend was just so-so.
One day, my boyfriend suddenly disappeared, the phone was not answered, and the information content was not returned. A good friend is anxious and worried about her boyfriend's accident, so she looks everywhere and sends a circle of friends for help. In the end, he was scolded and reprimanded by men.
Originally, men had an idea for a long time, but they just didn't want to say it right away and chose the method of "cold violence".
The way men think is simple. It is clearly agreed that if the girl can't figure it out after breaking up, shouldn't he bear it? Cold violence, girls will gradually figure it out by themselves, and everyone understands it. But he didn't expect that the girl was worried that he would find someone to enlighten him and be seen by his new feelings, so she scolded her ex-girlfriend in front of her new girlfriend.
Therefore, when men gradually give you the cold shoulder and ignore you, as women, they need to be like Mao-rational, clear-cut, and concerned about their work.
Today, when a woman encounters this kind of problem, what three things should she do well?
The first thing: greet with polite information. If you don't get a response for ten days, just give each other a hand.
The feelings of boys and girls are like a game in the whole process of love, of course, one side is strong and the other is weak. Sometimes when two people get angry or have a little disagreement, it is natural for one of them to bow their heads and endure first.
But all differences or small frictions are unlikely to last long. If it is not for special reasons, it will take two or three days to solve it rationally.
If you meet a man, you are always cold and violent, ignoring you and not answering the phone, waiting for you to mediate and tolerate. I can only say, girl, this man is so petty.
If a man has such a mentality, the interviewee is acceptable, but once he enters the marriage life, he is very sad.
Married life is a down-to-earth life, waiting for women to coax men all day, and really thinking that he is the royal Jia Baoyu.
Therefore, there is no need for girls to be impatient when their boyfriends suddenly break up. At first, they politely greeted with information content and asked if there was anything unique. If you still don't receive a response after ten days, then take out your mobile phone and permanently hack this person.
The second thing: don't deceive yourself, worry about each other's security risks, and just live your own life.
Some girls are very kind, and feel that their boyfriends don't respond to themselves because they are too busy at work, or depressed, or have something unique.
In the past, a good friend fell in love, but her boyfriend didn't respond to her. She was worried about whether her boyfriend had encountered potential safety hazards, so she specially asked other good friends to accompany her to her boyfriend's house. _ Only then did I find that my boyfriend is not only excellent, but also ready to date other women.
From this moment on, this good friend can no longer believe in plain love.
But two years later, she got married, and the object of marriage was met by netizens.
Before getting married, my friend said two or three words, "I always thought that men would cherish women as long as they were kind to men." I'm sorry! True love must be the interaction between two people. I am worried that something will happen to him, and he is also worried that I will be anxious if I can't contact him. "
When a girl loses contact with her boyfriend, it's ok for a few hours a day, and it's very likely that her mobile phone is dead. But if she can't get in touch for two days, three days or even a week, don't deceive yourself and worry about the other person's security risks. Who is better than you?
He also has parents. Are you the only one worried? Live a good life, focus on promotion and salary increase, and focus on beauty and health. What you get is much more cost-effective than worrying about one person.
The third thing: sum up the last relationship and make some preparations for the next one.
Although men lose contact and then break up with women, in some cases it is because of men's problems. But objectively speaking, why do men suddenly want to break up?
Maybe there is something really wrong with the relationship between two people, and men can always solve it regardless of the willy-nilly, instead of knowing what the problem is like a woman and lingering over it.
Therefore, as far as "breaking up" is concerned, two people are doomed to be unable to get together, which is also a certain emotional result.
People ridicule men's unwillingness to take responsibility and clearly point out that "breaking up" is just a way for men to deal with it.
So we need to make it clear that no matter how men handle it, whether they point it out clearly or lose contact without saying a word, the feelings of two people really can't get along.
As a perfect lady, when encountering this kind of problem, although it is uncomfortable, it also needs rational objectivity. Summarize the last relationship immediately, see which level has gone wrong, and make a summary and lesson for the next relationship.
For example, what kind of personality boys are not suitable for you, and what kind of prerequisites boys are not very suitable for you? For another example, what was your influence in the last relationship and what was your situation? These.
To sum up, before the next relationship gradually, you will also have a maintenance for yourself. There are some pits, and the road of life can only be taken once.
Many girls say they don't want to fall in love, but their marriage life is hopeless because their partners are too tired. That's because you have always liked a man, and naturally you will always step on thunder.
Nowadays, men and women are looking for emotional sustenance and then preparing for marriage in advance. But many people have always been biased against women, saying that women pay attention to chemistry and money, and many men hate bride price, money and houses.
But think objectively, if a woman is willing to share the difficulties of daily life with you and the hardships of life together, will she be valued and cherished by men in the end?
Some men don't want to take responsibility when they break up, and they don't want to leave a way out for themselves, so it's like going to the opera to see boys crying and anxious for themselves.
On the one hand, men feel very satisfied: you see, women's mentality has changed because of me. On the other hand, I feel very annoyed: what should I do? I'm going to fall in love again This dead woman is still looking for something for me. Does that mean she doesn't know that I'm breaking up with her by ignoring her?
How many women in life have spent their best years with their favorite men, and finally they have been dumped by men mercilessly, so women have become smart. No way, you can't survive without intelligence, which is also the inevitable trend of social evolution.
So at present, many young girls don't want to get married or fall in love, just want to work to make money.
If you are forced to get married or want to get married because of non-emotional problems, you can also give bride price money and real estate license, who will take care of the children in the future and how to deal with them between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
If you meet someone you love, before planning the wedding, you will also distinguish the mentality of the other party and the other relatives according to the bride price, and you will also make clear whether you live with your in-laws, between your mother-in-law and your daughter-in-law, and when you will get married after giving birth.
So men are getting bored, thinking that women are too haggle over every ounce and love is not simple.
In this way, women will feel that they have not met a man who really cares about themselves and loves each other, or that they have a good job.
I still remember that when the bankruptcy law explicitly proposed to abolish bride price money, many men applauded, but contemporary female writer Ai Mingya said an intriguing sentence: "Women don't want to get married, so do men still worry about whether they want bride price money?"
Women are becoming more and more practical and rational emotionally, mostly because of men's actions.
If you are a woman and meet a man who has lost contact and won't break up, then unplug it resolutely and don't be reluctant to part.
What do smart women do when their boyfriends break up? If you are a man, when you want to break up with your girlfriend, please tell her "break up" and give her a little dignity and dignity.