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Love is a matter for two people, but when it comes to marriage, it is a matter for two families.

If a relationship wants to succeed, it must not only cross the barrier between two hearts, but also pass the parents.

Many relationships begin with love and end with parents' opposition.

Some parents dislike that you have no house or car, some parents dislike that you are too far away, and some parents have found better candidates. ...

No matter what the reason, parents can use the banner of "for your own good" to block it in every way.

If you are not independent enough, or can't bear to disappoint your parents, no matter how deep your love is, you should part.

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There are not a few such examples, and Ying Jie is one of them.

Sister Ying should be 32 years old this year. She has been single since her marriage with her boyfriend was split up by her parents six years ago.

Time goes back to ten years ago. Yingjie was 22 years old and her boyfriend was 24 years old. They met at a friend's party, and since then they have forged a fate.

When we were together, Yingjie was a junior, and her boyfriend just graduated and worked as a programmer in a software company.

The salary is not high, but every time I get paid, I will take out a part to supplement Yingjie's living expenses. Yingjie will also go to her boyfriend's rental house to wash and cook for him on weekends.

Life is awkward, but sweeter.

In a blink of an eye, two years passed, Yingjie graduated, and her boyfriend's salary tripled. The two rented a one-bedroom apartment and lived a nine-to-five life.

The house is not big, but it is beautifully dressed, from spoons to wardrobes, which are carefully selected by the two.

They worked hard and secretly vowed to buy a nest for two people in this city.

Two years later, Yingjie was 26 years old and her boyfriend was 30 years old, and the family began to urge marriage.

After four years of ups and downs together, both of them decided that the other was their life partner.

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Sister Ying brought her boyfriend home, and her parents questioned each other in detail.

Yingjie's parents strongly objected when they learned that the other party was a single-parent family with poor family conditions and a younger brother from other provinces.

Sister Ying is the only child in the family, and her parents are teachers. The family is not rich, but it is also well-off. They think that if their daughter gets married, she will suffer.

Sister Ying has been a good girl in the eyes of her parents since she was a child. She has never resisted any decision of her parents, but this time, she has to make her own decision.

She argued with her parents that her boyfriend had good qualities. Although the family conditions are not good, she is not afraid to accompany him to suffer.

Parents looked at their daughter so firmly that they were not soft-hearted at all. They even put her under house arrest and prevented her from seeing her boyfriend.

For boyfriends, parents are also all kinds of blows, saying that he is not worthy of his daughter, so don't pester him.

In this way, my parents and I struggled for half a year, but it was still fruitless.

At the worst time, Ying Jie was very painful when his parents threatened to die. In that rectified period, Ying Jie lost more than ten kilograms, suffered from insomnia all night, and even had a tendency to be depressed.

Because parents look down on boyfriends, boyfriends are also depressed.

The two often quarrel about this matter, and both sides are in great pain.

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Four years of love, that is love dissolved in flesh and blood, it is hard to say goodbye.

Later, her parents introduced her to Yingjie, and they tried their best to force her to break up. That Christmas, Yingjie compromised.

After breaking up, her parents introduced Yingjie to many blind dates. Yingjie went to see her parents, but never got to know them well.

One of them is a blind date, who likes Yingjie very much and pursues her enthusiastically, but is indifferent.

She said that her heart was dead and she would never love anyone else again.

Less than a year after breaking up, Yingjie's boyfriend married someone else. Sister Ying couldn't help crying when she heard the news.

Later Yingjie never fell in love again. Her parents have been urging her to get married and stay for years. Seeing Yingjie's indifference, she began to regret breaking up.

But what's the use? Some people turn around for life.

Now Yingjie's predecessor's children can already make soy sauce, and Yingjie lives a life that is neither salty nor light.

Maybe one day she will meet someone and make her believe in love again, or maybe not.

Those lovers who are separated by their parents are like a pair of love birds who are not blessed.

Some people say that love that will be torn apart is not true love, but sometimes it is difficult for you to choose between family and lover.

Whichever you choose, you will be ashamed of the other.

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I have communicated this problem with my parents. If I want to find someone in the future, are you dissatisfied with breaking up?

I am satisfied with my parents' answers.

They said, "As a parent, I will give you advice, but I won't hinder it forcibly, as long as you feel good."

In fact, for more than 20 years, my parents have been very supportive of any decision I make.

Speaking of my parents, I have to tell their stories. Twenty years ago, they freely fell in love and got married.

When they dated, my mother's whole family objected because my father's family was too poor.

But my mother married my father without hesitation. On the wedding day, no one from my mother's family came because they said they would never contact my father's house again.

Later, with my younger brother and me, the grievances of that year faded, and my mother's family gradually accepted my father.

Although my parents quarreled when I was a child.

But my father really takes care of my mother, and he also wants to leave some for her, even if it is a mouthful of soup and a bowl of porridge.

My mother casually mentioned that she wanted to buy clothes and a bag, so my father silently bought it for her, or asked me to buy it with her.

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Now that I have grown up, I can see that my parents have supported each other for so many years.

Once, my father was ill and I accompanied him to the hospital. On my way home, I saw my mother waiting for us at the intersection.

Standing in the summer approaching 30 degrees, I don't know how long she has been waiting there alone.

When we met, my father and mother didn't say a word. My mother pulled my father. They walked side by side in front of me and looked at their backs. I was suddenly particularly moved.

The silence between them is worth a thousand words. Maybe this is called holding your hand and growing old with your son.

My mother always said, don't come here, husband and wife come here. They have walked hand in hand for more than 20 years and experienced countless storms. They know how to cherish each other better.

My mother has many brothers and sisters, all of whom are middle-aged now, but few of them are happy.

No matter whether the family has money or not, either the children are not filial, or the husband and wife are not harmonious, and some are still divorcing at the age of 50.

My family is neither rich nor expensive, and my parents will quarrel occasionally, but we have a lot of warmth and a little happiness, which we all cherish.

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Telling my parents' story is to give some encouragement to those couples who are blocked by their parents. If you identify the other person, don't let go easily.

Parents' opposition is only temporary. If you lengthen the timeline, as long as you love each other and live happily, you will surely prove that your choice is correct and get the blessing of your parents.

The important thing is that you stand together and no one will give up easily.

The important thing is that you hold each other's hands and live a happy life.

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