So, how do women who have been derailed for many years hide their desires and greed? Three people who have been there tell you the answer.
Ms. Huang: 47 years old, derailed for 7 years. At that time, my husband and I were also model couples. Before marriage, it was because of two of a kind that I had a certain emotional foundation. Now that I think about it, is our love deteriorated or is the reality too cruel?
My husband is busy at work and needs to travel frequently to pick up customers. I trust him. I won't ask about all his trips. If I want to tell him, I will. If I don't want to, I will tell him to pay attention to safety and go home early.
But he cheated on me when I was seven months pregnant and had a lover.
I should get a divorce and live alone with my children, who are beautiful, but I can't bear to grow up in a single-parent family at such a young age. Now the social environment is still unfriendly to single-parent children, so I still look at them with colored glasses. Instead of this, I might as well pretend to create a warm and harmonious family.
When my baby was 2 years old, another man appeared in my life, which made me full of hope for life again.
I am a housewife. Besides taking care of the children, I have plenty of time to arrange freely. When my family asks, I can go shopping or go shopping for dinner with my friends. Moreover, every time we date, we are in a remote area, so we are less likely to meet acquaintances.
Not bad for me, though. My husband already knows about me. We have been playing our own games for years. As long as it doesn't affect the interests of husband and wife, he can do whatever he likes. I won't ask anything, and he won't interfere in my affairs.
My lover and I will naturally not divorce and will not be together. We know exactly what the purpose of this affair is. He didn't love me enough to give up everything for me.
Ms. Lu: I am 36 years old. I've been having an affair with my cousin for five years. The two families live near each other, and the battery car 10 minutes. Plus we usually have a good relationship. Occasionally, two families eat together and go out to play or something.
However, in their view, my cousin and I are difficult to get along with, because I don't like him, and he occasionally says something about me, so no one would have thought that two people who are so incompatible would cheat each other for so many years.
My cousin is still a good man. If he had money, he would buy it for me. If he had no money, he wouldn't come to me. Our family is not short of money. I usually have the habit of being extravagant, so my husband has no doubt at all.
Actually, we seldom meet each other. Everyone is very busy at work at ordinary times. Just have a meeting once or twice a month. Dating is also about finding places you haven't been to, and then calling my little sister, and the three of them act together. If others see it, at least my sister will make amends for me.
I don't know how long this relationship will last, but as long as he doesn't give up, I won't bring it up.
Ms. Qiu: 46 years old, derailed 12. My husband is an ordinary office worker with a low income and a family to support. Life is a little hard.
At that time, my friend wanted to open a beauty shop and let me invest, so I borrowed some money from my parents and relatives and they operated together. Business is very good now, which is more than my husband's monthly salary.
I have been taking care of my children at home before, and I have no income. My husband's family has been watching me, and it will take a long time to buy clothes. Now that I have the financial ability, they won't say no to anything I want to do.
Later, another partner took a fancy to our store and said that it would be an expansion to jointly open a health beauty salon. In the future, he would only make money without losing money.
So, the three of us joined hands to start a business and made several times more money than before.
That partner became my secret love.
After cheating for so many years, my husband must have found my abnormality, but he never broke enough paper. In my opinion, he still needs my money and quality of life now. Otherwise, this family will simply lose its shape.
Conclusion Sometimes, women think they are smart enough to hide the truth, but in fact, it's just that men don't expose it. For various reasons, they choose to turn a blind eye.
However, if you often walk by the river, you won't get your shoes wet. If the affair lasts longer, the truth will come out one day. At this time, what will be waiting for the derailed person is self-evident.