However, it is impossible to break the bottom line and forbear blindly for the sake of marriage stability. This can only be done by wronging yourself and helping others, and the final marriage will not be as perfect as expected.
At the age of twenty-five, the dog met her favorite man. Despite the opposition of her family, she insisted on marrying Gangzi, who had accomplished nothing.
The dog's family said that if she goes back on her word in the future, don't blame her family for not persuading her. Dogs never seem to regret it, and the family can do nothing but shake their heads.
In this way, the dog sold himself at a discount and married Gangzi who had no house, no savings or even no job.
On the wedding day, Gangzi rented two cars, one for him and his dog and the other for his parents. So I went to the hotel at the entrance to the village. Dogs, newly married, can't feel so shabby. She can also smile into a flower in a rented wedding dress. In the eyes of dogs, love is enough.
After getting married, the dog and Gangzi rented a house in the city that looked ok. Gangzi managed to find a job. Although the salary is not high, DOG is very satisfied. At least her husband can make money. If they work hard, their life will be better.
After all, life is still difficult, so they often quarrel over trivial matters such as daily necessities.
Gangzi is the kind of person who stays in a warm area and has no idea. He likes leisure and hates hard work. He thinks he can earn three or four thousand yuan a month, eat and drink. As for trying to start a business like others, he won't do it. He basically doesn't care.
However, people around DOG are not like this. Her self-made husband has opened several small supermarkets. One of her friends goes to work during the day and drives fast at night. In order to support their families, these people all light a lamp when they have a fever. But look at Gangzi. Every day after work, he waits for DOG to cook for him, and then continues to play his games when he is full. He never takes the initiative to help the dog do something.
Gangzi's leisure makes the dog a little anxious, and the dog's attempt to change him fails again and again. Gangzi is like a person who can't get into necessities. He hardly listens to what the dog says. Although doing what you like, the dog's feelings have never been thought about.
Several times, the dog was so angry that he ran out of the house alone, but Gangzi basically didn't come in to find her. It was cold and there was no money, so the dog had to go back by himself again. The puppy finally remembered what her mother had said. She doesn't know if I will regret it.
In the second year after marriage, the dog got pregnant, but they didn't even have a house. Dogs are afraid to have this baby.
She said that the pressure of raising children is too great, and at least a stable nest should be prepared for the children first. However, the DOG, who just had a different idea, insisted on keeping the children, saying that their parents were crazy about their grandchildren.
The dog said the child could be kept, but Gangzi wanted to change jobs. The pressure of raising children is too great, and Gangzi's current income basically lacks the ability to support his family.
In order to save the child, Gangzi nodded and agreed to the dog's request. It seems that he is willing to endure hardships and his salary is higher than before. The dog thinks that with children, Gangzi will feel more obligated and he will gradually mature.
But to the dog's surprise, her life became a mess after the baby was born.
They had to change a two-bedroom house and invite their mother-in-law to help with the children. Mother-in-law and dogs have different ideas about taking care of children, so they often have some unpleasant things. In order to save money, dogs go to the market to buy low-priced vegetables after work. Because the children's expenses are too big, the dog has to work hard for every extra penny, so she has to try her best to save money.
The dog thinks she is getting more and more unhappy. After giving birth to the baby, she changed, her figure was out of shape and her mood became worse. She was even angrier when she saw Gangzi who ignored housework.
Every time the dog gets angry and asks Gangzi to help with the children, the mother-in-law will intervene to speak for Gangzi. She said it was busy enough to go to work alone during the day.
Let him have a good rest after work. Just a child supported by her mother-in-law is even more unscrupulous. Seeing that the dog was so busy that his forehead was sweating, he just bowed his head and played mobile games, as if he didn't see it.
The dog endured again and again, holding its breath. Before getting married, she thought she was married to happiness. Unexpectedly, love is as short as epiphyllum, and marriage has changed its flavor in the soaking of daily necessities. She was sad, tired and regretful.
In the tenth year of marriage, the dog looked at himself in the mirror. She thinks she looks much older than her peers. Think about how confident I was at the beginning, but now I dare not go out. The word youth has disappeared from her face. She was called aunt a long time ago.
The dog is very unhappy. She knows there is nothing wrong with Gangzi, but she often has the idea of divorce.
At first, her insistence on marriage began to waver. She hates that she always compromises in front of her husband and mother-in-law. It was my bottomless pit that exhausted her in this marriage.
Marriage is the cooperation of two people, not one person can fix everything. A man who has no material pursuit, at least for his family, such a marriage is bound to embarrass women.
And those women who only compromise blindly in marriage and wronged themselves to help others have been resisting the pressure, but she doesn't know that doing so will only make men feel at ease.
Men's failure and women's overwork will eventually make women overwhelmed and make this marriage go to ruin.