Then every once in a while, when you feel confused, stop, find the corresponding speech and listen to what you have heard before.
As it turns out, every time I get something different.
Last night, I revisited Bai's previous speech at Xiamen University. To tell the truth, every time I listen to his speech, I always feel completely different.
After listening to his speech this time, I understand an important truth in life, that is, stop and talk to myself.
Once upon a time, the fast-paced modern life put us under too much pressure and load. How long has it been since you talked to yourself?
It is inevitable that we pursue happiness and self-realization, but at the same time, our hearts also need to be freed and released, so calm down and talk to yourself!
I have a friend who hasn't worked for six years.
Not because she has physical defects or mental health problems, but because she is a housewife.
I believe that most women don't want to live this life, and I don't know if she really wants to. But she's really living this life.
In recent years, she has become neither active nor sociable. She stays at home almost all the time except taking care of the children, and feels like a person who has lost her vitality.
I thought she was caught in the "trap" of marriage, and she lost her expectation of life. If she didn't advance, she would retreat, fearing that she would eventually be forgotten by this society.
But she once said to me, "When the child enters kindergarten, she will go back to work, because she doesn't want to stay at home every day and face daily necessities."
But years later, she still stayed at home. I saw her applying for a job in the first half of the year, and then posted in a circle of friends that there was no job suitable for her.
She also mentioned that she missed the interview with her favorite company and had to wait for half a year.
In real life, people like her abound, and I call her an "excuse girl".
I'm not telling you that she is not good, but taking her as a mirror to show how we deceive ourselves and hinder our progress.
Texans have a proverb, "Everyone wants to go to heaven, but no one wants to die." The philosophy is very similar to the well-known "nothing ventured, nothing gained".
This also reminds me of a story.
There was once a man who often said in front of people that he wanted to learn to swim, but someone asked him why he didn't go to the swimming pool. He said that there were too many people there and it would be embarrassing to wear a swimsuit alone.
For him, in the face of interests and dreams, "not doing it" is more comfortable than making himself uncomfortable.
Obviously, my friend and this person who wants to learn swimming have one thing in common: self-deception.
When they want to do something, all excuses are reasons to deceive themselves.
So now every time I do something, I will talk to myself, and it turns out that those excuses are often lies that I deceive myself.
This is not my problem. I have no confidence. I feel that I am not competent enough. So, the problem is someone else's problem?
This dialogue with myself not only helps me refuse to make excuses, but also makes me clear what I need to do. Because in the process of dialogue, I am giving myself advice, and the solution to the problem lies with me.
For example, I always feel that I am a procrastinator, and then when I do something, I will talk to myself, sort out the causes of my procrastination, and try to improve my efficiency.
Of course, everything I do is responsible for myself. However, it cannot be ignored that we are human beings, and even human beings have the nature of laziness, jealousy and fear.
Facing these, it is a good way to talk to yourself, as Bai said in his speech, "These seemingly useless things have gradually become a kind of enjoyment."
Talking to yourself can help you find your inner answer, instead of just making excuses for yourself when you encounter problems.
The truth is, you either have an excuse or have a result. You can't have it both ways. So the next time you make an excuse, say to yourself.
You will soon find that your excuse is actually an obstacle of your own making, an obstacle that hinders your progress.
As Malabo Leigh, the great orator in the world, said:
Sometimes, when we pursue happiness and self-realization, the biggest problem is that we exaggerate them and neglect to listen to our inner voices.
Therefore, we need to stop, give ourselves some time to be alone and meditate, talk to our hearts, and let those external things slowly precipitate.
As IsWarren said in his book Conquering the Mind: "In deep meditation, our mind is static, quiet and serene. This is the childish state of our childhood, let us know who we are and what is the purpose of life. "