1, parasitic relationship

One party is completely attached to the other. For the parasite, the host is the whole of Ta, while for the host, the parasite is only a small part of Ta.

Marriage in feudal society, traditional women of the older generation and arranged marriage all belong to parasitic relationship.

Even in modern society, parasitic relationship is not uncommon, but with the development of the times, it has evolved from material and survival parasitism to emotional and spiritual parasitism.

If the individual's psychology and personality are not perfect, it is particularly easy to have abnormal parasitic relations.

Some emotional violence and bloody incidents are caused by parasites' excessive attachment to feelings. Once the parasitic relationship is broken, they can't bear such losses and completely lose their minds.

2, * * relationship

I always feel that I want to accompany each other or the other side wants to accompany myself. I look harmonious and beautiful, and I will always be together and never part.

The * * * relationship is based on the promotion of parasitic relationship, and many sexual relationships or marriages are in such a * * * relationship.

Two people with different life experiences and values, with countless different characteristics and experiences, how can they be completely integrated into a * * * body?

This * * * relationship is actually a morbid one, but it is also the mainstream relationship that most people have been pursuing and trying to manage.

* * The biggest hidden danger of life relationship is that when one of them feels suffocated and wants to pursue freedom, the relationship will soon fall into crisis.

3. Independence and self-reliance

This is the mainstream relationship between men and women in the west, not just love. In western culture, children and parents will forcibly sever the parasitic relationship before their children become adults and let them be completely independent.

Human beings are highly developed animals and social animals. People have not only independent needs, but also intimate needs.

Some people would rather give up their relationship for fear of losing their independence, which is also an extreme mentality.

The emergence of this situation may be due to the traumatic experience of manipulation and forced intervention by caregivers in the process of individual growth, which has caused adverse consequences.

The relationship between men and women is independent, completely free and unconstrained, which is also unhealthy.

Step 4 be interdependent

A healthy love relationship between two individuals should have both intimate communication and independence.

Have the same life focus, but also have their own social circles.

Two people who grew up in different environments have different life experiences. In the process of interaction, there will be many noises and many differences. Even lovers can't feel each other's thoughts.

On the basis of intimacy, I am also willing to respect, understand and accept the parts that we have nothing in common.