Why is this happening? I think it comes down to one word, tacky!
The older you get, the more tacky you get!
If you go to a jewelry store to pay attention, the counter selling gold ornaments is often the largest in the whole jewelry store.
Once I passed a shop and saw a girl in her twenties about to enter the marriage hall. Her future husband was choosing a wedding ring in the shop. Wedding rings In this era, there is no doubt that platinum and diamonds are standard.
But later, at the request of his mother, the boy wanted to buy a piece of jewelry for the girl as a gift from his future mother-in-law to his daughter-in-law.
The girl kept choosing the platinum bracelet without thinking, but the boy always said it was not good. He tried several bracelets, but the boy couldn't say what was wrong.
The experienced seller immediately said to the girl, why don't you look at the gold ornaments? Gold is auspicious. The boy listened and said, yes, yes, my mother also said that gold is beautiful.
Now I am just like that mother-in-law. Although I don't wear jewelry, I still think gold jewelry is the most beautiful and comfortable.
I don't think it is dazzling, and there are really not many treasures in the world that can compete with it. It turns out that gold is not tacky, and liking is the beginning of your real life.
I remember when I was a child, one summer night, my mother and I were lying on the mat, looking at the stars outside the window and asking my mother on a whim, what would happen if someone died?
Mom said that when people die, they will be gone, and they will go far away and never come back.
This sentence once made me feel scared, especially afraid of facing death, full of inexplicable fear of hospitals and crematoria.
But now, after the departure of family members and the serious illness of relatives, friends and colleagues, we gradually understand that it is really a very common thing to die of illness.
A colleague once went on a business trip abroad to graft new wire equipment for a newly-built factory.
Experienced, this job was almost naive for him, but he forgot to ask the local people to turn off the switch and was electrocuted on the spot.
Ren's family cried bitterly, and his colleagues tried their best to comfort him, but failed to save his life. At that moment, let me understand that many things are beyond our expectation and control.
Life is a parting, and someone has to leave first. That's it, we will cherish our time together more and cherish this short life more. Maybe this is the real custom.
When we hated someone before, we really hated it. We didn't like it, so we turned around and left or had to go back to the scene.
Now, we don't like anyone, and we will be full of understanding of TA. Everyone has his own story. If you see through it but don't expose it, it's always right to continue to be ordinary friends.
At the class reunion, a female classmate who is a full-time housewife at home shows off with everyone from time to time. She often travels all over the country, and her husband is obedient to her and her son has excellent grades.
If you just graduated from college, people who are outspoken will jump out and call a spade a spade. You can really pretend. Who doesn't know your husband's level? Isn't he just an ordinary part-time job? Can he make your life so leisurely?
But at this age, everyone knows that no one wants to tear it on the spot. If she wants to "pretend" in front of everyone, she must have her difficulties. Smile at her. Who knows how long it will be before the next meeting, and no one wants to spoil the atmosphere.
People who don't have to live together every day don't have to be too serious, and they and others are tired. Men, it is better to be vulgar, follow the crowd and endure.
I used to laugh at my elders for keeping in good health, dancing in square dance and keeping warm. As for it, in a blink of an eye, I myself embarked on this road.
Apps such as step counting, sleep, heart rate and drinking water reminder in mobile phones are all put on the agenda. The official account of WeChat, a health expert, will pay attention to it from time to time and share valuable information with elders.
Once I was chatting with a friend, she signed up for an international standard dance training class to exercise and keep fit. In private, she told me never to tap dance, which is very harmful to my knees and will be very troublesome when I get old.
Even if it is a simple dance, you should start to weigh it. I have to say it is getting more and more tacky.
More often, when we start to seek stability in our work and life, we will think more about family and children and become cautious and live, but we hate such parents most.
Aren't these changes just a process in which an egg becomes a butterfly?
From leaving the university gate to having a small family of my own, I experienced storms all the way, constantly solved problems, grew up, and finally found the so-called balance and sense of belonging.
People who have not cried alone in the middle of the night are not qualified to say that they know real life. The ups and downs of life, only oneself know best.
But we all know that life with all kinds of personalities is only a short-lived pleasure. What is really grounded is that everyone's preferences have become almost the same. This is the long-standing "custom", which is intriguing and worthy of scrutiny.
Are you tacky? If it is not "vulgar" enough, it only means that you are still young.
Why are you so vulgar? This is not to belittle you, in fact, it is a compliment from your peers.
I am a layman. It's good to be a "laity"!