In the book Psychological Cultivation, she mentioned: "Only when adults study hard can children make progress every day." She also said: "people's appetite is fed, their temper is brought out, their thoughts are nagged, cruelty is created by loneliness and helplessness, and shamelessness is created by indulgence and connivance."
? Loving a child is not blindly obeying him. When you are a little sensible, you should teach him to be a good person and understand the boundaries between what can and cannot be done.
People always think that "nurturing" is only a matter of reasoning with their mouths, but they ignore that it can also be carried out through actions and various contacts, that is, the process of "nurturing" itself is nurturing.
Being friendly with different people really requires learning, but only if parents deliberately cultivate this kind of behavior and let him establish a correct way to get along with others. "
This book conveys to parents the idea that psychological support is more important than material support in the process of raising children. The author thinks that psychological education mainly includes four aspects: emotion, personality, concept and ability. Parents must participate in the whole process of psychological education, gain their children's attachment through companionship and care, and then gain the capital to discipline their children to "set rules." Parents teach their children to behave and do things by participating in their children's growth, which is more important than meeting their material needs.
She said: "It is more valuable for parents to accompany their children to grow up in person than to earn money for them." We can't miss the best and most critical period to shape their future lives.
In the book "Fuzzy Humanity", she said: "All social problems are human problems in the eyes of a scholar who is engaged in psychology like me. My first sentence is that people's problems are social problems. In the second sentence, people's problems are problems in their early years. Why are there so many perverts now? Why do so many crimes make us feel incredible? One of the important problems is that many people's growing environment has been destroyed. ..... When this growth environment is destroyed, human nature will be chaotic, and it is useless for you to go to education again. "
A healthy life requires both health preservation and heart cultivation.
The book "Vague Humanity" is based on an interview with Li Meijin in a TV talk show. In her book, she introduces the theory of criminal psychological portrait in popular language, analyzes the psychological causes of criminals through sensational cases of vicious crimes at home and abroad in recent years, expounds the importance of criminal psychology in preventing and punishing crimes, and appeals to the whole society to care for teenagers, especially left-behind children, pay attention to their growth environment and strengthen their psychological education.
Every time you read a person's book, it's like sitting down and listening to this person quietly, and gradually you will understand his thoughts, ideas and directions.