Feeling and experience: This is an essay by Mr. Zhou. I bought this book because I was attracted after reading a few pages in a book "Not in the Bookstore". The content of this article is very real and enlightening.
1, this essay is the author's sudden feelings and wandering thoughts. He wrote it on a piece of paper, and then he wrote it on a special document on the computer. Accumulate a certain amount and publish them into a collection. Settle Your Heart Well is his fourth collection of random thoughts. The first three related books are Man and Eternity, confetti in the wind and Inner Peace.
2. Zhou said: "However, what is even more unexpected is that my ordinary works will be warmly welcomed by readers and have been reprinted for more than 20 years. Among them, Watching Distance, Our respective Pilgrimages have been published in 8 editions, and Eternity of Man has been published in 10 edition. Readers in those years have entered the prime of life and even old age with me, but the younger generation still likes them today. Nothing is more satisfying for a writer. Of course, I know how good it is not my work. The only reason I can find is that the life problems and spiritual life problems I am thinking about are actually problems that everyone faces. Times have changed, and these problems still exist in a sense. More urgent. " ? From this speech, we can see that what his book tries to express is not a specific theory or method, but a simpler life and spiritual problem, which is more practical for our readers.
I often say that many people still can't live a good life after reading a lot of books. In my opinion, this is not the case. Especially the book "Settle Your Heart". For me, it is a book that can give me a lot of insights every time I encounter special circumstances. Many problems, only want to solve, no longer escape, have a positive attitude, in order to better stabilize their hearts.
4. There are about 40 articles in this book, including "the author's words" and "preface", with a total of 224 pages, covering a wide range of contents: values, life, love, parent-child relationship, education, reading and writing. The content written is very close to our real life, and the language is sharp and simple.
5. The following excerpts are taken from the book:
(1) Excellence and happiness are the most worth pursuing in life, both of which are inseparable from wisdom. The so-called wisdom is to understand the fundamental truth of life. Only in this way can we know how to be a man and become a truly outstanding person in the sense of human nature. Only in this way can we distinguish the priorities of various values in life, know what we want, and truly get happiness. -Values
(2) In the vast sea of people, you meet these people instead of others, which determines your fate in this world. Your love and hate, joy and sadness, success and frustration, all because of meeting.
However, please remember that in the encounter, you are passive, and you can always have an attitude. Meeting constitutes your external experience, and your attitude towards meeting constitutes your internal experience.
Please also remember that in addition to the real encounter, there is also an encounter beyond time and space, that is, the encounter with a great soul in reading and thinking. This kind of meeting enables you to get rid of the bondage of earthly fate and live in a broader and higher world. -Inner life
(3) How to determine whether a career is suitable for you? I think we should meet three conditions: first, we have a strong interest, even to the point where we must do it without money; Second, have a clear sense of meaning and be sure that your life value has been realized; Third, you can support yourself by it. -The most suitable location
(4) Material happiness is limited after all, and only spiritual happiness can be infinite.
Unfortunately, people nowadays desperately pursue limited happiness and are willing to give up infinite happiness, resulting in general unhappiness.
(5) From the way one educates children, one can best see one's attitude towards life.
Family education is the starting point and foundation of a person's lifelong education, and it has irreplaceable importance of school education. In this sense, I also think that good parents are better than good teachers.
Let children really like intellectual life, enjoy it, stop and be interested in learning, which is the greatest success of intellectual education. In this regard, parents' role models can play an important role.
I firmly believe that edification is not teaching, but the most effective and labor-saving education, and good quality is edified.
Therefore, being a parent means that life has put forward a requirement for you: you must improve your own quality.
Nowadays, parents are faced with a difficult problem, that is, how to minimize its disadvantages and protect their children's healthy growth within the framework of the current education system. Some parents are determined to leave their children at home and teach them by themselves. I think this way does more harm than good, and makes children lose the opportunity to communicate with their peers and receive systematic basic education. These two points are very important for their mental growth. However, you should not let yourself and your children be completely led by this system. It may be the best choice in desperation to conform to the examination-oriented system in a limited way, adhere to the direction of quality education to the maximum extent, and try to jump with shackles. -Children's education
(6) A sound interpersonal relationship and social order depend on respect, not love. The reason is simple: you can love only a few people, but you must respect everyone.
Love your enemies-too melodramatic. Respect your enemies-it can be done. Confucius understood this truth very well. He opposed good for evil and advocated straight for evil.
There are two realms of doing things. First, the utilitarian realm, things and related interests are the only purpose, so doing things will be full of anxiety and calculation. The other is the field of morality. No matter what you do, you pay more attention to spiritual gain. Doing things is only a means of perfecting practice, and the real purpose is to be a man. Because of this, there is a calm attitude and a broad atmosphere when doing things. -The root of morality
(7) The most important difference between people is not occupation, but spiritual quality.
I don't think numbness, rigidity and sophistication are maturity. True maturity should be the ability to grow, which always contains childlike innocence in essence. A person is mentally mature enough to face up to and bear the hardships of life, but his heart is still simple and he still has a childlike innocence to the world. He is a clever man. -Spiritual talent
(8) The knowledge of what we usually do and live is part of it. Philosophy wants us to jump out of this part and look at the overall situation of the world and life, so as to obtain a broad coordinate to measure what we do and live, guide the part with the overall situation, and make it clear how to do things and live.
Philosophy is an enlightening subject. In a person's life, whether it is influenced by philosophy or whether it opens up wisdom, the result is very different. The role of philosophy in life seems to be invisible, but it is actually extremely huge. A wise man's heart is clear, happy and peaceful; Without a wise man, his mind is confused, troubled and uneasy.
All outstanding figures in human history, regardless of their fields, must have their own broad thinking and unique understanding of the world and life. There has never been an example of a person who has achieved great things with little cleverness and no great wisdom. -The application of philosophy
(9) Reading is a dialogue with the great souls in history, thus "possessing" the spiritual wealth created by human beings. Writing is a dialogue with one's own soul, thus transforming the external life experience into the internal spiritual wealth.
Reading is a personal spiritual life. A person who really has reading habits will definitely choose his own spiritual food and will not follow the media.
Humanistic classics are a temple, which is around us and gathers thinkers of all ages. As long as you walk in, you can hear their good words and meaningful words.
Every classic work is rooted in the deepest soil of human spiritual life, and it is precisely because of this that it can sprout new buds in the hearts of individuals who love different times.
Reading classics is to be a sober guest today, that is, in today's sober guests and history.
A piece of advice for young people today: read more books and surf the Internet less. You can be a netizen, but you must be a reader first. If you don't study and just surf the Internet, you will really become a "net worm". It is a veritable "net worm". Hanging on the internet all day, watching gossip, chatting and playing games, my mental nutrition is extremely poor, and I have grown into a "bug".
I measure the value of a book to me, whether I can't help but want to write something after reading it, even if what I want to write seems to have nothing to do with it. It gave me an atmosphere, a state of mind, and made me feel that I was in a suitable climate, so the seeds hidden in my heart sprouted and broke ground.
For me, one of the greatest pleasures of reading is self-discovery and knowing that I still have such good things. Reading is a kind of spiritual life.
(10) Literature is the way of spiritual life. A person listens carefully to the voice in his soul and finds language expression for it. This is literature. Literature in the true sense is unprofessional and belongs to everyone who loves life.
Writing doesn't just happen with writing, but accumulation at ordinary times is the most important thing. The mind is always in a lively state, like a splashing stream, and the so-called good article is just one of the waves caught. -Non-professional writing
(1 1) Whether a person does something out of interest or compulsion is very different. Doing things out of interest, being in a happy mood and being in a proactive state often get twice the result with half the effort. Forced to do things, depressed, negative mentality, often get twice the result with half the effort. Doing ordinary things is still the same, especially studying. Because learning is purely intellectual activity, if students can't feel the happiness of intellectual activity itself in learning, learning will be 100% painful. Unfortunately, this is the situation of most students today.
A good student in my mind has two abilities. First, the ability to learn happily, which can get great happiness from learning itself; The second is the ability to learn independently and be good at arranging your own study. -Education is growth.
(12) People with dignity must respect others. Similarly, people who don't treat others as human beings reveal that they don't treat themselves as human beings first. -all sentient beings in the world
(13) I once chatted with a five-year-old child and told him that I could do magic and turn a person into a fly. He was curious and asked me if I could turn him into a fly. I said yes. He was lost in thought, and then asked me if I could change back into a fly. I said no, and he decided not to let me change it. Me too. I want to be anyone, even a fly, but only if I can be myself again. So, in the final analysis, I prefer to be myself.
People need both movement and quietness, and form an appropriate balance between the activity of life and the peace of mind. About myself
(14) When I was waiting on the shore, the sails in the distance were the most beautiful. When I am floating on the sea, the lights in the harbor are the most beautiful.
The ship hides the sorrow of going offshore and the pain of going ashore in its heart.
A person who insists on a habit, such as dieting, running and living on time, can almost be regarded as having faith. -Feelings and fantasies
(15) I always believe that the human body is dominated by the mind, and a good attitude is the best health care. How to achieve a good attitude and a happy job is a good medicine for health? Of course, you might as well do some physical exercise, but you should relax.
Action: Do some small things that make you happy physically and mentally every day, and read more books that interest you. When you have time, write some feelings and opinions about your present life and start recording important events every day with a notebook. Do more things that can help some groups, which not only helps others, but also corrects your own heart. Take a walk every day, have a job you like, and like it so much that you can do it well without money. To settle your heart, you must first know yourself, understand yourself and adjust yourself. In the process of continuous debugging, you can gradually become the one you want to be.
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