It is said that "giving is better than asking for happiness", and voluntary "being needed" not only makes people feel happy when they are busy, but also is a kind of love satisfaction and happiness when they see each other accepting their help.
People's needs are not necessarily money or status, but people's value. People's value is reflected in being needed by society, by work, by family and even by strangers.
If others have needs, it is good that you can help yourself. This heartfelt pleasure is more than anything else. Some people say that happiness means caring for each other, happiness means being rich, happiness means being strong and healthy, and happiness means having children and grandchildren ... because you need me, I need you, and we become interdependent. You can have money because society needs you to build with your intelligence, and money is the reward after you create value. You can become strong and healthy, because you know there are still many things to be done and many people to love. Because of you, family ties can be maintained. Because you have raised several generations, your family needs you as the backbone.
Only when people are helpless will they understand how much they need a person who is willing to help. The people who are needed are not necessarily helpful, but with such a person to talk to, the world will not be too lonely. Then, I understand how important it is to be a needed person at a critical moment. As a person in need, he may be able to help, or just accompany him, and a sense of happiness arises spontaneously.
A really smart person would rather people need him than thank him. I think this is not only clever, but also noble, beneficial and giving. He cares more about giving. In his own opinion, giving is to realize value, while in the outside analysis, this is great love. Realizing self-worth in great love skillfully interprets the word "noble".
But some people use their own abilities to make others have to need him and submit to him, thus accumulating wealth and even endangering the world, which will be condemned by God. Such people cling to being needed and distort their outlook on life, which leads to evil thoughts, so God will not care for them because of his distorted "eating, drinking and having fun".
Love and narrowness often have the same starting point, but there is an ideological deviation at a certain node. This may be the difference between heaven and hell. Being needed by others is a kind of happiness, which is used to irrigate yourself, not to indulge yourself.
Chapter two: connecting the starry sky with language.
Between the vast world, there are various languages playing. The rumble of huge waves is the cry of the sea, and the sound of pines is the meditation of the Woods; Haw, like resentment, is the whisper of autumn insects, and Li Ru's resentment is the lament of Zigui. However, these kinds of music have not merged into a kind of advanced harmony after all. Only we humans know how to communicate with each other in language, so that the river of language can be merged into an ocean of mind.
You see, we have learned a foreign language, and let's bid farewell to the years when we are not in contact; English, an international language, makes blacks and whites feel like brothers; A clever Polish invented Esperanto, which makes people feel that our hearts are so close.
However, sometimes we find that the river of the mind will stagnate and the bridge of language will freeze. Although the natural moat has given us rich and colorful characters, it has also given us such a difficult problem: how do countless colors meet and unify?
The problem of language and communication is, first of all, a problem of cultural tolerance and cross-cutting. More than once, we have seen a person dismissing another person's dialect as "bird language", and more than once we have seen a person looking at another person with a different accent with bullet holes. In fact, for a nation or even a culture, language is the first element of its inheritance and maintenance. Respecting and accepting a language is often the starting point of sincere communication, and it is also the premise of tolerance and acceptance of a culture or a group. If we kill Tibetans indiscriminately, there will be no deep beauty between China and Tibet; Prussians' pursuit of German hegemony in France only resulted in the deep-seated and emotional rejection of the French people.
Communication, harmony but difference, honesty, two of the same kind. However, the diversity of language will not become a barrier to communication, but it must be the most authentic source of communication. Not only ABCD International Phonetic Alphabet is accompanied by English, but also Shakespeare and Shelley, and Fan Binbin from Cambridge and Oxford. Accompanied by Chinese, there are not only square words and soft melodies, but also the flowery flowers of Qu Tao and Du Li and the hazy beauty of absolute beauty, Tang poetry and Song poetry ... When the two languages are played together with these two charming musical sounds, the interaction between Chinese and English cultures is even more beautiful, and the hearts and hands of Chinese and British people are interlinked.
Communication began with language, but stopped because of different languages, with 56 nationalities and thousands of dialects; More than 190 countries and countless languages ... don't these mean embarrassment in the eyes and helplessness in breaking up? When we open our eyes, open our hearts, absorb the essence of other people's languages with great harmony, tolerance and tolerance, and carry forward the charm of self-literature, we will find that every language is a star, and * * * is linked with a starry sky of understanding, generosity and blending.
Chapter 3: Face to face with Beethoven
Sent by the literary director of his magazine, he made a special trip to Vienna to visit Beethoven, the great musician. Time is 1826.
Although the mare named "Delu" is far less handsome than the tens of feet of Tanxi that Liu Bei rode in Luo Guanzhong's works, she pulled the carriage and just walked leisurely. This is convenient for me to enjoy the Gothic architecture, bluestone alleys and other scenery along the way, but I am anxious inside: it is said that Beethoven's health is worrying.
To tell the truth, I am full of curiosity about this composer with high yield and high quality. In particular, he suffered from illness all his life, and his deafness worsened just after he was 30 years old. Actually, there are 9 symphonies, 1 opera, 32 piano sonatas and 5 piano concertos.
Sitting in the carriage, I thought: so many works have been produced, which have a wide influence. Are they all as fast as Brother Lu?
Who is rouge? You may not be familiar with Zweig's One Night Genius. However, you must be familiar with La Marseillaise. Yes! This is the national anthem of France: March, March, play with the motherland, and the glorious moment has arrived ... Dietrich, a good friend and mayor of Strasbourg, asked him to write a war song for the Rhine soldiers who are about to go to the battlefield to fight Prussia. He spent the night in a simple room at Central Avenue 126. The sound of bugles, the rumbling of guns and the cheers of the people declaring war made him capture the frenzied rhythm, which is the pulse of the people.
History remembers this date:1April 26, 792; At the same time, I also remembered Lu Ge, who was humble and peaceful by nature. Just because of radical patriotic notes.
Finally, the carriage stopped at Beethoven's apartment.
The health care doctor wanted me not to disturb Beethoven, but Beethoven warmly welcomed my visit. He even leaned over from the cane chair.
Our conversation began with Handel. Because Beethoven once said, "Handel is the greatest composer of all time, and I would like to kneel at his grave." Don't peers despise each other? How can you have such a compliment and be completely convinced?
Beethoven explained:
At that time, Han Deer, who was over 500 years old, suffered a stroke, resulting in paralysis of his right side. Dr. Jenkins sentenced him to death: "It is impossible to continue writing!" For a master who loves music creation, it is better to die than not to create! However, Handel ignored the doctor's warning not to soak in hot spring water for more than three hours, and soaked for nine hours every day, which revived him. He wrote the oratorio Sol and serenaded the poet's meditation with his recovered right hand. Then there is the glory of Messiah: when it was staged in London, King George II of England went to the theater himself. When the second part of the finale Hallelujah was played, the king stood up excitedly and listened to the whole song.
Since then, Hallelujah has been standing and listening as an unwritten rule until today. Just because the voice of "Hallelujah" conveys the fear of God.
It was with Handel's encouragement that Beethoven got out of the predicament of being fidgety, withdrawn and desperate because of deafness, and became Grippa Cha's prestigious "immortal and glorious heir of the predecessors, the magnifying glass of Handel, * Haydn and Mozart's great art".
Say goodbye to Beethoven and recall the lives of three artists. They opened a wonderful world for us with their unique musical language and made life rich, wonderful and civilized.
Three months later, I was shocked to hear that Beethoven died!
Chapter 4: Be a "person who knows what to say"
Han Yu has a saying: "If you don't know what to say, you can speak with it;" Those who know what to say are silent, and their meaning has been conveyed. "So, I'm fascinated by the realm of" On Knowing People ".
However, talk is easy!
Jaya-Iwaszkiewicz, a Polish writer, said, "If anyone really wants to explore the spirit of Chopin's music and understand how closely Chopin's music is related to Poland, he should carefully understand Eugen Delacroix's so-called blue tone, which is the * * * tone of Polish landscape and the music of artists born in this great plain". How many people really understand? There are such beautiful people in the world, and I just met them today! Besides, this perfect style is not like the grandsons and daughters of ancestors, but actually the granddaughter of the first family. How many people can do it? Shu Ting expressed her love view that "I must be a kapok near you and stand with you in the image of a tree", and at the same time she understood that "but no one understood our words". Zheng Wei was repeatedly trained by Emperor Taizong, Wu Zhu was able to "retire from the Qin Dynasty", and Lin Xiangru was able to return to Zhao unscathed and win at the Mianchi meeting, which had a lot to do with their glib words!
These musical languages, literary languages, political languages and diplomatic languages still belong to the category of human languages. Even if it is not clear at a glance, it can always be obtained after repeated attempts.
Can you be a "person who knows what to say" in the face of inhuman language?
Is Zhu Kezhen's Language of Nature familiar? "For thousands of years, working people have paid attention to the relationship between natural phenomena such as the rise and fall of vegetation and the coming and going of migratory birds and the climate, and arranged farming accordingly. Apricot blossoms are in full bloom, as if nature is preaching to cultivate the land quickly; Peach blossoms are blooming, which seems to imply that we should plant millet quickly. The cuckoo began to sing, and the working people knew what it was singing ... Flowers and birds singing, grass growing and warblers flying are all the languages of nature. " If you "know what to say", you can plan ahead.
Is Liu Liangcheng familiar with the evidence of this life? "If there are no old houses and roads, no ups and downs of dust, no people and livestock who grew up with me and still live in the village, and no wind still blowing, who will prove the past life?" All these people in the village can talk. If you "know what to say", the village is still your village.
Is Lawrence's Song of Birds familiar? "When there was a thick layer of dead birds scattered on the local floor," pigeons, turtledoves and thrushes began to crow. The author's understanding is: "Whether people like it or not, osmanthus trees are always in bloom, sheep are always standing and dancing, and chelidonium majus is always shining everywhere. That is a new paradise and a new earth." These birds are born to die. If you "know what to say", your perception of life will be unusual.
Are Zhou Xiaofeng's stripes familiar? The snake was punished by God because Eve stole the forbidden fruit. It has no vocal cords, no hearing, poor eyesight, no limbs and can only walk with its stomach. When their scales are stacked together, they will vibrate like castanets-this is a sinful music, because it is often the prelude to an attack. If you don't know what to say, you will worry about your life.
In fact, as long as you have the heart and knowledge, you can change from "not knowing what to say" to "knowing what to say".
It's good to be a "person who knows what to say"!
Article 5: I am very grateful to Cang Xie for his kindness.
Cang Xie coined words, and when it rains, the ghosts cry at night. God sent millet to celebrate human wisdom, and the reason why ghosts cry is that they can no longer play with human beings.
Our ancestors started from the myth of Cangjie's word-making, which shows the seriousness of words, while the older generation respected the word paper, and the paper with words could not be thrown away, and blasphemy would be condemned by heaven. In A Cheng's Gossip, I quoted a view that China's writing is vertical to connect man and God, while western writing is horizontal to spread. No wonder we attach so much importance to Chinese characters, which originally contained the initial piety.
Words are the carrier of language, and language communication will not be limited to one form of words. Zen is not standing on words, but knowing each other with a smile is not Zen. The Book of Changes explains the world with two symbols: Yin and Yang. Today's network computer, in the final analysis, is just a game of 1 and 0. In Zhuangzi, the useless tree is flourishing, telling you the wisdom of survival; In Laozi, the phenomenon of endless winds and showers reminds you that tyranny cannot last long; Ji Kang played a song Guangling San to deal with the charge of wandering sentient beings; In The West Chamber, Zhang Sheng is homesick for Yingying's eyes when she leaves. And the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl don't need silent eyes. Sometimes, what you say is not as effective as another form of language.
Confucianists are tired of talkative people and think that "clever words are rare", while Taoists like "expressing nature", while Zen Buddhism has no words, and there are proverbs that "disaster comes from the mouth" and "silence is golden". Nowadays, in the Internet era, various input methods have liberated the typing speed, and the screen is full of nonsense, less cautious and more presumptuous. The piety of Cangjie's word-making is drowned by the verbosity of nonsense, which is an unexpected embarrassment at the beginning of the birth of words.
When the vast number of online novels consume a few bricks of pious Chinese characters, language seems to be a burden, and the beauty of language is getting farther and farther away from us. We failed Cang Xie's good pleasure.
Tang Zhi quoted Li Rihua's Miscellaneous Notes on Zitaoxuan in his essays, in which a white stone gave birth to an ancient story. Baishi lives in the valley, and he sits alone in silence. When someone asked him not to answer, ask ask replied, "There is nothing to eat and nothing to say." This laziness and helplessness of not wanting to speak or turning to language may happen to you and me. In the ambiguity of "I want to be quiet", in the ignorance at the beginning of "Zhuangzi's Theory of Everything", in the silence of leaning against the wall in the winter sun, in the blank where friends ask you how you are doing on WeChat, you are bored and don't want to reply. A language without language at the moment may be another language, which is also our more real life.