Chapter 1: Be open-minded and not angry.

Chapter 2: It is indisputable that it is right.

Chapter 3: I can't understand the origin of laughter.

Chapter 4: It is a shame to die rich.

In traditional Chinese medicine, anger is a very harmful behavior to the liver. But is anger just hurting the liver? Anger may make people lose their appetite, and anger may also make people do impulsive things. So how can we keep ourselves away from anger?

Open-minded without anger

"If you don't get angry, you win." This is the wisdom of Jin Yong, and it is also the topic of an essay by Jin Yong's teacher.

Teacher Jin Yong told a short story in "No Anger, No Power": There was a famous man in Taiwan Province Province named Yin. He and Lei Zhen ran Free China magazine for ten years, but Chiang Kai-shek drove him back, and Lei Zhen was also locked up. Although Yin was not imprisoned, he thought of Chiang Kai-shek at dinner one day and was so angry that he couldn't eat. Later, Yin got stomach cancer and died at the age of 49, while his enemy lived to be 88.

Although the above story can't show that Yin died of stomach cancer because he was angry with Chiang Kai-shek, it can fully show that a person's mental state, health status and mood are closely related.

In real life, it is not difficult to understand this truth as long as you carefully observe the familiar people around you.

Open-minded people are cheerful, energetic, healthy and enthusiastic all day in their work and life.

On the contrary, a narrow-minded person is unhappy all day, which is not a trivial matter for others, but a major event for him, making himself unhappy and his family unhappy. People often lose confidence in work and life because of poor mental state and poor health.

Open-minded, in a good mood, relaxed and happy, happy and healthy family. At the same time, if people are broad-minded and calm, they will look young, not easy to get old, always healthy and full of vitality.

In daily life and work, no matter what problems you encounter, you should face them calmly and don't get angry. If you are not angry, you win.

My life experience also proves that what Jin Lao said is not wrong at all. These are really words of wisdom.

When someone scolds you, you smile at him, and he will feel ashamed and miserable, because the purpose of scolding you is to make you angry. If you are angry, he will be very happy. On the contrary, if you are not angry, he will be more angry if his goal is not achieved, and he will be so angry that he can't eat or sleep. That's it. Didn't you win with a smile?

When others criticize you, if you are really wrong, explain or apologize to the other side with an open mind, accept criticism with an open mind, learn from the strengths of others, make up for your own shortcomings, further enrich yourself and improve yourself; If you are not wrong, you are misunderstood by the other party, you don't need to argue with the other party, or you should keep silent. Silence is golden; Either accept criticism and be generous. In the practice of life, give each other a process of buffering and re-understanding, and let them gradually realize that they are wrong. It seems that you failed, but in fact you won.

When you encounter difficulties and setbacks in your life or work, don't be angry and impatient, because anger will make you lose your reason and direction. When people are angry, they often do something irrational or very stupid. In this way, you may miss the best opportunity to solve the problem and lose the best way out of the predicament. These are not the most important things. The most important thing is that you are angry, lack of rational analysis, lack of intelligent thinking, and finally make irrational choices, resulting in lifelong regret. For example, a man was angry with his father-in-law somewhere in Shaanxi. As a result, in a rage, he killed his wife, children and his father-in-law family.

We often hear such words as "getting angry hurts our health" and "complaining more to prevent heartburn".

No matter what that sentence means, being angry is not good for your health, it is harmful to your health.

Only in a good mood can you be healthy. By the same token, only when you are in good health can you have good work results and achieve something in your career.

For our health, don't be angry;

In order to realize our dreams, don't be angry;

No matter whether you are rich or poor, in life, because you are not angry, happy, healthy and long-lived, you can live decades longer than others. Even if you are poor, you will win, because life is the most precious wealth.

Society is constantly developing. The longer the journey of life, the more wonderful you will share.

Please remember: if you don't get angry, you win!

Stop arguing.

The most troublesome word: struggle.

The noise and intrigue in the world are the result of disputes. Internal strife; Great benefits, small benefits; Yesterday, today; You play, I also play; The chicken flies and the dog jumps, and people go belly up. In the end, the vast and distant world can only accommodate a selfish heart.

Open-minded, can't fight; Gains and losses are underestimated and cannot be fought; Lower your goal, you can't compete; Utilitarianism is slightly lighter and indisputable; Think more about others, and you can't argue that there are countless irrefutable truths in life, but desire makes everyone crouch in the grass like a lion, and there is no way.

Power wins, happiness is gone; Fame wins, happiness is gone; If you do something wrong, your inner peace will be gone. In other words, it is not happiness, happiness and peace of mind that you have racked your brains for, but trouble, pain, hatred and a tired heart.

Can't you argue?

Even if you fight less and put aside seemingly important things indifferently, you will find that people's hearts will suddenly be enlightened and the world will suddenly become bigger. Because of this little argument, there are more smiles, more handshakes, more comity, more friendship and more friends. In short, I feel stronger, I feel stronger, and I love it more.

The noisy world, in an instant, everything is quiet, quiet.

I often remember that in March and April in the countryside, a yard is full of spring scenery, and there is great competition. However, in the desolate corner, there are always one or more needles of mustard grass under the slate, trying to be green alone. Although it looks lonely, weak and lifeless, it is still a part of spring-a small but indomitable part.

Yes, there is no favoritism in this world, and there will be no favoritism. Don't argue about anything. Life is only in the hearts of people who are confused by desires, so you must distinguish between good and bad.

I can't see through the origin.

I was hospitalized intermittently in Ruijin Hospital for half a year, and I contacted about thirty or fifty patients within half a year. At the beginning of hospitalization, cancer was unbearable, and the core monument of life was ignored. Later, when the pain stopped, I started chatting in the ward.

I took two masters and one doctor, two courses, social statistics and social investigation. I don't know how many times I took the exam. When chatting in the ward, I will start to beat around the bush like a social investigator, consciously or unconsciously, and ask some questions with professional and meticulous thinking. This is a spontaneous scientific research, because I have been trying to find out what kind of people will get cancer. Sometimes, I feel like a young researcher lurking in the cancer ward, so excited. Ironically, however, the reality is that I am a cancer patient lurking among young researchers.

Long-term sampling survey gives me enough confidence to overturn a long-term conclusion about the personality of breast cancer patients. Breast cancer patients may not necessarily experience long-term depression. To be sure, there are too few introverted and gloomy breast cancer patients: on the contrary, too many people tend to be controlling, eager for power, aggressive, impatient and extroverted. Moreover, the family economic background of these sample patients is very similar: many of them have family businesses, and their husbands are like promises around the emperor, whether at home or in factories. Once they become emperors, they make their own decisions. In fact, the family economic background can't explain anything, because people who come to Ruijin for treatment, especially foreigners, don't have a strong economic background, and they are unlikely to count on that hospital in Changzhi.

The personality characteristics of patients around me can't help but make me start to reflect on my own personality. I like my personality very much, even though a buddy said half-jokingly on the wine table that I must have been the daughter of Shandong in my last life. I never felt anything wrong. Later, when I became ill, I had to admit that I had a bad personality: I was too competitive, did my best in everything, led the overall situation, was worried and didn't want to do anything.

I couldn't wear it before anyway

I tried to get a master's degree in Norway and a doctorate in Fudan in three and a half years, just like Yuan Yuan got two degrees in three years. However, doctors are not always masters. I worked hard day and night, and finally I didn't accomplish the goal I set for myself. I'm so angry now that I think about it. I'm exhausted Finally, I will graduate one year ahead of schedule. However, who cares if I graduate from PhD a year earlier or a year later?

I strive to be an excellent female scholar. Although I am extremely bad at scientific research, since I have embarked on the road of scientific research, I have to look good. My ambition is to become an associate professor in two or three years, so I began to publish articles and engage in scientific research projects. Although I have achieved my goal of being an associate professor, I am very confused about what to do next. Now, I think that if a tramp like me becomes a professor one day, I will feel very lost in China's education system. Of course, I am sure and responsible to say that some people I know are not as good as me in scientific research ability and moral character. Let's not talk about it. I have to say, jumping on something I don't know is my goal in life is a fool's stupid behavior. Only when you are sick do you know that people's happiness should be based on sustainable long-term goals in life, not just short-term fame and fortune.

I was not born to do housework, but I like to worry about making plans. Especially after my mother raised potatoes, my mind suddenly became meticulous and inadvertently became the CpU at home. I'm in charge of where to put everything, when to do it, and who to find to arrange everything. I moved home a month before I got sick, as ignorant as sleepwalking. I feel that I will sleep in different places the night before and the night after.

Later, I fell ill, and suddenly found that my bald head was not what I expected, but a bookworm who lost his ability to take care of himself in daily life in his previous life. When I left the earth, I didn't care about anything. He can live with potatoes. Nothing more than a few taels of silver. However, money is just money after all. CpI rises, inflation, my heart is broken. How much money can you save after 30 years? If my parents had 10,000 yuan 30 years ago, they could basically match the value of multi-millionaires now, but in fact, 10,000 yuan now can't buy 500 yuan that year.

Life is worse than death, narrow escape, narrow escape, after life and death, I suddenly feel relaxed. I don't want to control the overall situation, I don't want to mind my own business, I don't have any opponents or enemies, and I don't care who is better than who. I don't care about topics or tasks for the time being.

Everything in the world is watching flowers across the bank, and the wind is light and the clouds are light.

It is a shame to die rich.

What is a person's anxiety related to? Externally, it is an endless temptation; In my heart, this is a strong desire.

What is the increase in anxiety proportional to? It is the growth of age, knowledge, power and wealth. In other words, anxiety is often directly proportional to the so-called secular success.

People's material needs are very limited, and those overflowing parts are anxiety that may overflow at any time. After passing through Qian Fan, you finally realize that every boat is yours, and every boat has nothing to do with you.

Find the answer to the game

Is this an empty business life?

1900, andrew carnegie married his American steel company with Morgan consortium and became the richest man in the world at that time, but until then, he didn't know what wealth had brought him. From a poor boy to the richest man in the world, Carnegie created an unprecedented steel empire and painted a stingy, cold-blooded and soulless life chart.

This year, at the age of 67, he began to go to church frequently. One day there, he suddenly began to wake up. He wrote in his biography: At that moment, he realized that God sent him to earn so much money that he would return all the money to God's people in his lifetime. So, old Carnegie devoted the rest of his life to charity. Today, you can see the libraries and museums donated by Carnegie anywhere in the United States.

J.P. Morgan, the founder of Morgan Consortium, also became a philanthropist.

Rockefeller, Carnegie and Morgan are contemporary oil tycoons. He was a stingy man in business, but he donated most of his property in his later years. In his will, he said, "It is a shame to die rich."

A person's understanding of wealth can generally be described as "Zen": "Thirty years ago, mountains were mountains and water was water. Twenty years ago, mountains were not mountains, and water was not water. When I came back today, I saw mountains and mountains, water and water. "

Carnegie, Morgan and Rockefeller are lucky. They are addicted to money games all their lives and enjoy excitement, excitement and happiness. Then, before they died, they finally found the answer to the game.

What is wealth? What can you buy with wealth? Is there anything more important in life than money? These problems are in front of everyone, and no one can avoid them all his life. At this point, you and I are on the same answer line as the richest man.

The simpler, the more successful and the happier.

I know a friend who is the president of a multinational consulting company in China. Thanks to his efforts, this company has made outstanding achievements in China. At the beginning of last year, he suddenly announced his resignation and went to Taiwan Province Province as a missionary. At a party before leaving the mainland, he told his friends, "I have earned enough money in the first half of my life." Let me find my own happiness from today. "

I envy this friend, at least personally, he found his own answer.

As the saying goes, business is a "barbaric" cause. Because in essence, the transfer of interests is either one or the other, and opposition often stimulates people's grasping instinct. Therefore, the life of entrepreneurs is a painful process of continuous cultivation.

So, what should an excellent entrepreneur look like?

Of course, he should be an excellent accountant and engineer, an adventurer and a prophet. Without the combination of these two diametrically opposite qualities, it is difficult to create a great and lasting enterprise. Besides, he should be a religious scholar.

You can believe in God, Buddhism, any doctrine, environmental protection and family. In short, you must believe in some metaphysical and healthy ideas. What it is is your choice, but at least, it should be longer than life.

The ultimate pursuit of life is simple happiness. When you were a teenager, you must have disagreed with this view. The colorful world is certainly richer, happier, farther away, happier and more depraved. In the future, you will agree that the simpler it is to make friends, the simpler it is to do business, the easier it is to succeed and the happier it is.

Conclusion: Don't be angry. If you get sick, you will suffer. Life is so short, don't spend the limited time angry with yourself and others, open your heart. Actually, it's no big deal (The article was originally published in "Healthy Reading" and "Everyone's Health", with the issue of 20/kloc-0 on June 5, February, by Wu Ming, Li Mengying, Jiang Ya and Wu Xiaobo, and the copyright belongs to the author; The purpose of reprinting is to convey more information, which does not mean that 360 Common Sense Network agrees with its views and is responsible for its authenticity. Please contact us as soon as possible and we will delete the content as soon as possible.