In this way, women can win in their feelings.

1, coax men like "children", don't let men coax themselves like "children". Whether you are psychologically more mature than him or not, as a girl, you should be more mature than a man in emotional expression. This is a killer. Most girls can't do this. They always have a bad temper on their faces when they are emotional. When they are unhappy, they often lose face. When they are emotional, they often care about venting rather than achieving their goals.

In this way, men will think that you are a son, ignorant, don't understand him and don't love him, but the opposite is true. You said it was irritating. So women should learn to control their emotions in a more advanced way.

Let's lose our temper, be full of skills and achieve our goal. Rather than simply venting for venting, this is very unwise. Sometimes, you have to hold a man's fire and lose your temper. Listen quietly. Sometimes, the more things that make you angry and anxious, the more you have to talk to a man slowly. Sometimes, you should learn to speak out when he can't grasp the reason, guide him and guide him to recognize you. Each speech scene and emotional environment can be different.

But in any case, you must have a clear brain and know that you are talking to each other to achieve your goal, not being hugged and coaxed by a big lady. It's normal for a man to fool you for a while, but he can't fool you for a lifetime, so you should make good use of this and build your own relationship capital.

2. Four steps of communication: stating facts, expressing feelings, expressing needs and making demands. I found that you couldn't pick up a word I said when the video was turned on these days. I feel bad that you didn't listen carefully. I hope you can listen to me carefully and give it back to me in time (usually after the first two steps, he begins to feel guilty and apologize, because my tone is relatively stable, and I won't comment, for example, you are selfish and you don't care about me).

3. Girls should be interesting and always create surprises in their own lives. Man is an animal born to like the new and hate the old. Of course, when he can't grasp the reason, you should learn to say it, guide him and guide him to recognize you. Every speech scene and emotional environment can be different, but in any case, you must have a clear brain and know that you are talking to the other party in order to achieve your goal.

Always make friends with more interesting people, change your life forever, and never let a man touch you. Learn to keep 30% mystery for yourself forever, and stick to this 30% even if you love each other to death.

4, the ultimate killer-let men rely on you

How to make a man more dependent on you? It's easy to cultivate a habit for him. At least one kind of life need or psychological need is unprincipled, accessible and satisfied, so that he will never turn to others except you for help on the same problem. I don't want to get it from others anymore. For example, from the first time he talks to you about his troubles, you can try your best to calm his mood, adjust his mood and provide him with positive emotional value.

Let the other person feel "strength, warmth and happiness" and so on. In the long run, whenever he is unhappy, he will subconsciously and spontaneously demand you, and then the sense of demand will gradually emerge. Dependence will gradually arise. Who says men are weak in dependence? If they are well trained, they will still have innocent girls.

5, girls must be independent, you have to be independent in all aspects to be attractive. Don't think that men like self-reliant and innocent girls, yes, but you see that you are too dependent, and after a long time, men will not bother you. Don't take their short-term expectation of displaying androgen as their permanent need for the other half.

Nobody wants to raise a daughter. When men get married and fall in love, they are actually looking for a "life partner". So even if you like to stick to your boyfriend, you'd better arrange your own time. You only need to spend some time with each other every month, and you still need to be independent most of the time.

6. Make good use of men's vanity

People fall in love, on the one hand, because of demand, on the other hand, vanity. Everyone is the product of social relations and the influence of others. Therefore, especially for men, who are good-looking creatures, they attach great importance to the external objective conditions of their girlfriends, that is, they all hope that their girlfriends will take them out with face and increase their sense of value. Therefore, they should try their best to make more efforts outside. There's nothing wrong. Don't save him money in this matter, save money in this respect.

7. A good wife means "practical value", and the old saying "marry a good wife" has been passed down to this day. When looking for a woman, you must find someone who can help you. Actually, it is human nature. Even if you find a fairy, you will actually look tired after a few years. What can finally support two people is the mutual support in decades of life. Therefore, you should participate in his world as much as possible in your life or career, help him make suggestions and solve problems. The more you do, the more important it is in a man's life and career.

If you can only serve men tea, porridge and soup, it is only the importance of being a nanny at best, but if you can help men plan their careers and take care of family affairs, then you must be irreplaceable.

8. Let this man find absolute sense of existence and heroism in you. Men naturally like to be heroes who save lives from the mud. Learn to tell him you really need him. I used to be a very brave person, but after a long time, I found that men still don't like girls who are willing to be brave in everything. They would rather help others at their own expense than accept the advice of people around them.

9. Be sure to give yourself a sense of security and not stop to set goals. Don't give up setting goals and making plans for yourself just because you are in a high emotional state. No matter when the men around you are good or bad to you, you should set your own life goals, from fitness to various work studies, and you can't give up building yourself. The foresightedness and durability of this construction are the barriers to security. Men can't give women a sense of security, only themselves.

10, learn to praise.

Always staring at men's shortcomings, always worrying, always criticizing, this is very stupid. Even if you don't feel comfortable meeting Neptune, you can simply leave him. There is no need to make trouble in front of him, because once this quarrel begins, it is easy for men to catch hold of it. For example, you see, I broke up with her because she was too strong. "This hat buckles your head. You said this was not a case.

So if you encounter some problems or something, give him a high position first and then criticize him, and the other party will accept it more easily. For example, if a girl seduces your boyfriend in life, don't blame that man. "Why don't you delete him? Do you want to cheat? " It's really unwise to say so. If he didn't want to, he was wronged. If he wanted to, he just didn't think he would do it. If you provoke him like this, he will break the jar. You can say, "I know you are excellent, so little girls will pounce on you, but only they are active and diligent." You are a good man and know how to choose men, so you don't care about them, do you? " Therefore, smart women always stare at men's advantages and always encourage and praise them.

Finally, it is to be benevolent. You praise a person in which direction he is developing, and only those who praise him more make more progress. There is no one who exaggerates the worse. Everyone has a basic sense of shame.

1 1. The more indifferent you are to men, the more men care about you. I know many girls like to read their boyfriends' chat records and track their boyfriends' whereabouts, but it's not necessary. At least it can be done in secret, but there is no need for them to know. You have to meet each other's needs, and you have to be beautiful in the basic girlfriend duties, but other than that, there is no need to stick to this.

Male creatures themselves are an easily bored group. Therefore, it is important to maintain space and spiritual independence with them. No matter how much you love them, you should have your own life and ideas. Sacrifice within the tolerable range and choose to protect your own interests within the unbearable range.