Dear brothers and sisters,

Hello everyone! Entrusted by Mr. Liu, the head teacher, he asked me to share with you my experience in communicating with children. In fact, most people of our age have only one child, and all educational behaviors for children are also groping. When it can be called experience, it can only be left to parents who are much younger than us. For our brothers and sisters of similar age, what we can communicate can only be some feelings gained through our own exploration.

Now I want to talk about how I communicate with my children from five aspects:

First of all, treat children with respect, understanding and trust. Respect, understanding and trust are the basic prerequisites for good communication between adults. Our child is also an independent life. And most of them are sixteen or seventeen years old, and they basically have relatively independent thinking and judgment ability. As parents, we should give basic respect and understanding to some of their ideas. In our family, if the child has any ideas with us, his father and I will listen patiently first, then talk about our views on this matter and communicate with each other. As long as the child's idea is reasonable, we will follow his idea. For example, my son likes playing basketball very much and takes up a lot of his spare time. His father and I were worried that this would affect our study, so we talked to him and wanted to hear his thoughts. The child said that he played because he liked it. Second, he thinks that the learning task in high school is very heavy. Studying in the classroom for a long time every day will be very sleepy and inefficient. He wants to relax his tired brain by playing ball. We think what he said is very reasonable, that is, as long as you can handle the relationship between study and playing ball and arrange your study and relaxation time reasonably. For example, some time ago, he said that he would take the ipad to school, so we asked him if he had a legitimate reason. He said that there were many activities in the school during this period, and he wanted to check the materials and videos. I said, mom and dad believe you, but you can't violate the school discipline when you use it. You should put them home after the activity, and the children agreed happily. In fact, in many things, as long as we give children a certain understanding and believe in their self-control, they will become more and more self-disciplined in the respect and trust of adults.

Secondly, be a positive parent. The family's education and influence on children are various, and parents often unconsciously set various examples for their children. Therefore, as parents, we should consciously pay attention to our words and deeds and influence our children with our positive attitude. For example, when my husband is fat, he made a weight loss plan for the whole family to supervise. For this reason, my father got a fitness card and exercised after work every day, and his weight has been obviously reduced. My son often asks my father about the progress of losing weight. We will talk to him about losing weight. Although it is not easy, the effect is gradually emerging with Dad's persistent exercise. Doing anything is actually the same, no matter how difficult it is, as long as you keep doing it, the result will be there. I am a high school Chinese teacher and often talk to my son about my lovely students. I want my children to understand that although my work is ordinary, there is also a lot of happiness in this ordinary work. So as long as we have a positive and happy heart, we can get a lot of happiness from the seemingly busy and monotonous life, and children will be infected from it.

Third, learn to apologize to children and show weakness. On the road of children's growth, they are the real protagonists. No matter how capable our parents think we are, we can't steal their thunder. In front of children, learn to show weakness appropriately. What's more, in the face of some things about children, because of excitement or eagerness to express their attitude, they often say something inappropriate and act inappropriately. At this time, we need to learn to apologize or show weakness to our children. We need to let our children know that parents will say and do wrong things, but when we realize that they are wrong, we will correct them. For example, my son has been taking a biology competition class. When he comes home on weekends, he will read some books about biology competitions. But he didn't do well in math and didn't take the initiative to do math problems. One weekend, I went to his room to get something, and when I saw that he was studying college biology again, I got angry and said, "I don't know how to study arts and sciences in the future." Spending a little time doing more math problems can improve math scores. Don't always spend your time. " Say that finish and went out. Later, I realized that my words would probably hurt my children. After all, the child's love for biology is a legitimate hobby, and I can't attack him like this. Later, at dinner, I apologized to my child and explained why I said so. I hope that children can forgive and understand their mothers. The child said that he likes biology very much, but he will work harder at math. I am very gratified by the child's words. In fact, many times, as long as we parents can lean down and communicate with our children, children are not as difficult to communicate as we think.

Fourth, we should treat children's achievements correctly. Children's academic performance is always the focus of our parents' attention. When children's test scores fluctuate greatly, it will affect parents' hearts. But, you know, if the child doesn't do well in the exam, he will be more sad than us. So at this time, we must not blame the child blindly, but comfort him, let him have a peaceful mind, think that winning or losing is a common thing for military strategists, and let him learn to analyze the reasons for the failure of the exam: the exam is a test of what he learned in the previous stage, but is there something wrong with classroom listening? Or is there a problem with the consolidation of homework after class? Or is there something wrong with the calculation of the exam because of carelessness in the exam? Find problems and solve them, and your grades will naturally go up. So, whenever my son says to me, Mom, I failed this exam. I will make fun of him: "Come on, your mother has enough psychological endurance to face your bleak grades and your bloody scores." This kind of teasing tone can alleviate the child's already heavy mood, and then it may be better to find problems in the exam with him. I can also be a teacher for a long time. I have seen many ups and downs in students' grades, but I really don't care much in my heart. But I believe that as long as our children have a solid knowledge of each stage at ordinary times, when it comes to the college entrance examination, as long as their mentality is normal, everything will come naturally.

Fifth, maintain normal communication with children. Unconsciously, our children have grown up. As parents, we should pay more and more attention to them from the material level to the spiritual and spiritual level. We should make use of every possible opportunity to communicate with our children and let them feel that our love for them is everywhere. Since our son was fourteen, his father and I have written him a letter every birthday. It has been three years since then. In the letter, we will talk to our children about the progress and gains we have seen in the past year, talk about some suggestions we have given him, and even talk to our children about the feelings between our husband and wife. In short, as parents, we hope to be friends with our children as much as possible, chat with them as much as possible every week, learn about the people and things around us, and share the happiness or troubles with them for a week. We can also talk to him about the happy things between our colleagues and friends, so that they can understand the life of adults. Slowly, we should treat them as adults, and over time, our hearts with our children will get closer and closer.

Dear brothers and sisters, today, as a parent who comes for children like others, standing here reminds me of my many years of teaching experience. Every time I watch students graduate from my side, I think about how much I hope each of them can have the best development when they come to my side. But after three years, I often find that although I have the same intention in these children, their results are so different. Therefore, it is more clear that teachers are the nobles in children's lives and parents are their relatives. If we, as children's relatives, can accompany our children with our heart and find ways to communicate with them when we encounter something, then our children's life may go more smoothly.

Thank you!