First of all, when it loses its balance,
Love between men and women is voluntary, their relationship should be equal, and they will respect each other in all aspects. None of them is superior or superior, let alone who should please. This is the premise and foundation of love between men and women, the most basic condition and the core of love relationship.
When you find two people together, the relationship between them is that one side is condescending and the other side is flattering; One party is overbearing, and the other party bears the burden of humiliation and resignation; One party gives selflessly, but the other party takes it for granted, accepts it calmly, doesn't know the return, and doesn't feel the good of the other party. They are not like a love relationship, but like an attachment relationship and a "master-servant" relationship. One side is in an absolute dominant position, and the other side is passively wronged and accepted. If you have been in this unbalanced state, you have completely deviated from the essence and significance of love. It's time to consider giving up this feeling.
Second, it is dispensable.
Once a man and a woman fall in love, they will always pretend to be each other, always care about and pay attention to each other, and carefully guard each other. On weekdays, they always like to accompany each other. When we are not together, we will be very worried about each other, think about each other day and night, and miss each other very much. Telephone calls and information will continue, which can be said to be "asking for instructions early and reporting later". No matter what happens, they will spare no effort. When you have emotional behaviors, they always involve each other's hearts.
If you find that no matter how much you want each other to be together, the other person feels whether to accompany you or not, it doesn't matter whether you meet today or how long you are apart, you don't want to miss, miss or recall, and your life will be happy and free. If you don't contact him, he hardly has any phone calls, WeChat, texts or even no news for a long time. Even if he contacts you, it's just a simple greeting, without any emotion.
When you have something, if he is present, he will perfunctory and deal with it in vain, and when he is not, he will turn a deaf ear. No matter what changes in your mood, the other person will be completely indifferent. Even if you pay attention, it seems to be just a routine. Only when the other person feels bored or has any needs, will he think of you, and then he will come to you, accompany you, and even care about you hypocritically. For the other person, you are like a person who should give up this feeling.
Third, "spare tire"
The word "spare tire", originally a car term, is to prepare a spare tire for the car. Once a wheel has a problem, the spare tire will be replaced conveniently and timely to keep the car running normally. Now people jokingly introduce the concept of "spare tire" in terms of feelings, that is, the other party already loves each other very much, but does not refuse the love of others, then accepts all orders, and then chooses to compare and choose the better one, or has a choice after breaking up with the one they like, so as not to lose their lover. These couples are like substitutes on the sports field, and everyone may become each other's spare tire at this time.
As we all know, love is single-minded and faithful. There are many "spare tires" who are not playboy, playboy, selfish or people with bad heart or personality problems. They are not sincere to anyone. Everything is just for my own self-interest, for my own happiness, and I don't care about the suffering of others. As long as it is not discovered, it will always be. Let you just meet your own needs or fill the emptiness at a certain moment and get rid of loneliness and boredom. Everything is just for your own needs. Whenever you perceive and find yourself as one of the "spare tires", you should make a decisive decision and make up your mind to give up this absurd relationship.
Fourth, when you are tired.
The experience of lovers together is sweet, happy and relaxed, which is the proper state of love. However, although some men and women love each other on the surface, they are always two contradictory bodies that cannot be run in. The relationship between them is like a car dragging a square wheel, which can't work normally. There are always all kinds of conflicts between them, always arguing and quarreling, even fighting, or repeated cold wars. This contradiction has been solved. That question came out again. All day is "press the gourd and lift the gourd". Both sides always need their own efforts and maintenance to make the relationship go on normally. If they are not careful, their relationship will be impacted, and even they will always find it difficult to manage and maintain their relationship. Every move will directly lead to disharmony between the two sides, and their efforts to maintain will always change with little effect.
It is not clear where the reason is and who the problem is. Over time, the love between two people is particularly hard and tired. Both sides feel tired of struggling to support this relationship, but they always struggle to support and work hard, but both show an uncompromising attitude of resisting each other. This situation actually means that it is not appropriate for two people to be together. There is no need to persist in this exhausted and meaningless love. At this time, we should consider letting go, re-selecting and finding our own love.
If these four times, the relationship has reached this point, you should choose to give up.