On the first day of the "Double Festival" holiday, I did an interesting thing-being a matchmaker.

But this process is very simple. I didn't even get a chance to make my debut, so it was over.

Xiao Chen, a boy, is my colleague and my office. I remember when I first arrived in this unit, Chen Xiaoting's posture quickly caught my eye. Xiao Chen is over 1.85 meters tall, tall and straight, not hunched or fat.

Although Xiao Chen is young, he pays great attention to fitness and nutrition, and pays attention to the quality of life, just like me, so he has always been selfish about how to bring him into our big family.

My hands are full of resources. My parents come from a big family with many brothers and sisters, and I have several cousins.

A few days later, I got to know Xiao Chen, and I was a little disappointed to learn that Xiao Chen had a girlfriend in small talk. Probably birds of a feather flock together. Xiao Chen likes to associate with me. She is polite and considerate all day.

During the public holiday in August, Xiao Chen said to me one night, Sister, how long do you have and when will you come back to work?

I asked: What's the matter?

Xiao Chen replied, Sister, there is something that needs to be troubled. You have a suitable one around you. Introduce me to a girlfriend. Before that, she didn't want to get married [cry]. She wants to talk for a few more years and then tell me it's not appropriate.

I was glad and answered with tolerance: I feel very sorry. If I had said it earlier, there would be no need to talk for so long.

I asked Xiao Chen what she wanted from a girl.

Xiao Chen said: I don't ask for anything, I just want to find someone to live a down-to-earth life.

I said: you are so handsome and capable, you can definitely find the right one.

Xiao Chen said, where can I be? Now all the girls choose me.

Xiao Chen is very modest and wise, and I like him more and more.

After returning to the unit after the public holiday, I had another careful chat with Xiao Chen and asked him what he wanted from girls' looks.

Xiao Chen said: No requirement. Be smart and have a proper job. The height should be above 160, because you are taller.

My cousin Ye Zi, born in 1990, works in the administrative law enforcement department, and her height is 164. She looks ordinary, but she is smart and sensible and respects her parents.

I introduced Xiao Chen to Ye Zi. Ye Zi and her mother were very satisfied and agreed to meet.

Ye Zi's mother also asked anxiously, I don't know if she likes us, because people's conditions are so good.

I said, it's not a big problem. I asked, and the boys didn't ask too much.

During the national holiday, Chen Xiao and Ye Zi both have time, so I will make an appointment to meet them.

Xiao Chen is very active.

Ye Zi is a little shy. She said, how can I know you? This is the first time I have met you directly.

I said: Then if you feel embarrassed, you can chat on WeChat first, and then date when you feel better.

Both sides agreed to the plan. I exchanged WeChat between Chen Xiao and Ye Zi.

I told Ye Zi not to be my cousin until the relationship was confirmed.

A few minutes later, Ye Zi said, Sister, WeChat has been added.

I said: You are chatting.

Ten minutes later, Ye Zi said, Sister, Xiao Chen invited me to visit Tiantai Mountain.

I said, then you go, it's a holiday anyway.

Then, Xiao Chen picked up the leaves at the appointed place and went to Tiantai Mountain together.

At about six o'clock in the afternoon, Xiao Chen gave me WeChat, which read as follows:

Sister, Ye Zi has already seen it. She made an appointment to meet at noon. Take her for a walk in Tiantai Mountain. She will go home and get her uniform. Besides, she has to go to work at six o'clock in the afternoon. She said that time was a little tight, so she didn't eat. She promised to make up for it later and make more friends. It's good. Sister, is there anything suitable?

I asked Xiao Chen in a daze: I don't understand. You said you were going to invite others to dinner, and you asked if there were any suitable ones. Yes or no? To be clear, I'm afraid I misunderstood.

Chen Xiao expressed embarrassment and sweating.

I continued to be adamant and asked Xiao Chen: Is it because the appearance can't pass the customs or other reasons?

Xiao Chen explained in a hurry: No, no, it's just eye contact, no eye contact.

I said: if you don't like it, you'd better not invite you to dinner, otherwise it will leave the impression that you are being nice to the girl and affect her judgment, which is not good.

Xiao Chen said: That makes sense.

It started in the morning of "1 1 month" and ended in the afternoon.

I was thinking: Didn't Xiao Chen say again and again that there were no conditions and no demands? How to get an "eye contact"?

The meaning of eye contact: one person and another person are attracted by each other's appearance and temperament charm at the first meeting. This phenomenon is eye contact.

It seems that nobody really doesn't care about appearance. The so-called no requirements and no conditions often have higher conditions and requirements.

Looking back carefully, this is not the first time. I had a similar experience a few years ago. No matter how rich and educated the other person is, he will be chosen because of his unsatisfactory appearance.

Xiao He, a male colleague of the former unit, was born in 1980s. At present, it has entered the ranks of older youth. He is sunny, cheerful, temperamental and capable, and he is the middle-level leader of the unit.

Later, we all transferred from the original unit, but we kept in touch. I am very optimistic about Blackie. Although Xiaohe is a leader and has great affinity, let me introduce him to someone. I always take things seriously.

That woman, Xiaowen, my childhood playmate, lives behind my grandmother's house. When she was a child, she went to her grandmother's house in winter and summer vacations. She is like a "follower" who sticks together all day and is called "Sister, Sister".

Xiaowen teaches in a mountain middle school. Because of her remote location and small social circle, she had little chance to get in touch with boys and unconsciously entered the ranks of older young people.

Xiaowen stands out in the middle school where she teaches. She is a middle-level leader in the school. Xiaowen has quietly sponsored several children from poor families in mountainous areas. In recent years, she has saved money from her salary every month, leaving it to her children for living expenses and school supplies.

All this was silently dedicated to her. It was not until one day that the parents of the students found the school that everyone suddenly realized and praised her. Soon, the reporter interviewed her advanced deeds, and the Education Bureau rated her as the most beautiful teacher and teaching model of the year. She has been invited to observe and give lectures in schools all over the country for many times.

Small lines, big eyes, porcelain skin, medium build, a simple natural beauty.

In my eyes, such a small pattern is a five-good youth and a moral model. I feel that He Xiaowen, who is a little older, is quite suitable and has a bright future.

It was an early autumn. I made a matchmaker for Xiao He and Xiao Wen, and let them meet. Both sides are attracted by each other's stories and qualities and feel that they can communicate.

Half a month later, Xiao He said to me, Sister, I have offended Xiao Wen. Let me tell you something.

I was surprised and asked, what's the matter?

Xiao He said: I deleted her WeChat.

I said, just tell me why, don't beat around the bush.

Will smiled shyly, but said nothing.

I said: Is it because my parents are not beautiful enough?

Xiao He said: No, it doesn't matter how you look, what's more, Xiao Wen is your sister and looks a little like you.

I said: What do you mean? Just say I don't look good

Xiao He repeatedly explained: No, no, you both have big eyes, but she doesn't have your temperament.

I'm a little angry: you just think people's looks make you unhappy, but they are also temperament. What is temperament? What is temperament?

Xiao He wry smile: I don't feel that way.

Well, don't ask, so as not to involve me.

Half a year has passed, and Xiao He is still alone. A friend of a friend asked me to introduce a date to her daughter. This friend's friend is a big boss who runs a chain hotel, worth tens of millions, which means his daughter Yingying is a rich second generation.

I have seen Yingying twice. Although the child was born in a rich family, he is not spoiled. It is said that her father started from scratch, so he is strict with his children, even harsh.

Yingying is very thin, and Jiao Jiao is very small. She looks a little weak, quiet and introverted. She is an English teacher in a school.

I remembered Xiao He who was still alone. Arrange Yingying to meet Xiao He. Yingying's father may be worried about his daughter's marriage and went with him when he met.

I remember we met in a teahouse. Xiao He politely booked a place in advance. After a simple greeting, everyone was anxious to get to know each other, especially Yingying's father. There are many questions, and we should talk about all aspects. Yingying sat quietly.

Half an hour later, Xiao He said that his unit had something to do and got up and left. However, I know he is really busy, and it's his turn to work in shifts. I explained to Yingying's father that people understood.

After Xiaohei left, we continued to have tea and chat. Yingying's father, the big boss, appreciates the river very much, saying that the river is clean and promising, and he likes it very much. Let me give more snacks and try my best to promote this marriage. Yingying also expressed her love for Xiao He.

Trust people to be loyal to others.

The next day, I called Xiaohei and asked him what he was thinking.

Xiao He said: You are so aggressive. Can you let me think about it for a few more days?

A few days later, I asked Xiao He again, because someone urged me to go there to reply.

Xiao He said: Yingying is not suitable for me.

I asked: Why?

Xiao He: Yingying's family is too rich to be suitable.

I almost laughed. I only heard that people who don't like others have poor conditions. It's the first time I heard that people who don't like others are too rich.

Me: I heard for the first time that people are too rich and money doesn't bite. I don't believe it, just tell the truth.

Xiao He: It's really that her family is too rich.

Me: There is nothing wrong with more money!

Xiao He: People will say that Yingying and I are together for money.

Me: Why do you care about others, as long as you like it.

Xiaohe: Do you think we are a good match?

Me: You can't just look at one aspect and combine all the conditions. You two are a perfect match.

River: ...

Well, no one will admit that he is a superficial appearance association, a sensory animal, which is likely to involve feelings, temperament, cultivation and even counterfeit money.

My mother often teaches me not to match others casually, which will ruin my peach blossom and turn the matchmaker into an enemy.

My mother said that in her generation, there were often couples who had a bad life and disagreed, so they would settle accounts with the matchmaker and even ask face to face: Why did you introduce such rubbish in the first place? A posture of letting the matchmaker be responsible for his marriage to the end.

I said: matchmaker, what matchmaker, so ugly.

Not afraid to ruin my peach blossom luck. I don't need it anyway. But I really met a matchmaker who became an enemy.

I am one of my peers who got married earlier. When my daughter was three or four years old, many friends were still single.

Ronaldinho and I are also colleagues. Because of our peers, we have more opportunities to deal with each other. A group of men and women of similar age often get together to play. Ronaldinho is very active among men. He laughs all day, dares to say anything, speaks freely and is mean. Everyone likes him.

Girl Mai is a unit in our neighborhood. She has a fair complexion and a moderate figure. She and I only have some working connections. I think she is nice, but she doesn't know much.

Once wheat went to our unit to play, and it happened that a group of us got together. I set ronaldinho and wheat together, and the two hit it off, and soon developed into a relationship between men and women.

At first, Wheat couldn't stand Ronaldinho's unruly personality and often complained to me. I patiently enlightened Wheat and encouraged her to have confidence. Ronaldinho is a very good person at heart.

Turning around, I played the role of an intimate sister, criticized Ronaldinho's mistakes and asked him to care more about wheat's feelings and be more considerate and caring. This round has been repeated many times. Ronaldinho took my advice and changed a lot.

Later, the relationship between wheat and Ronaldinho became more and more stable, and Ronaldinho stopped laughing with me. Later, they were going to get married. I was surprised. I was the last person who could be regarded as a matchmaker to know the news of the marriage.

Chatting with other colleagues, they all said that Mai told Ronaldinho not to contact me too much. In retrospect, we really don't talk about everything as much as before, and we often get together.

I asked my colleague why, and my colleague said, of course, Mai mind that Ronaldinho has too much contact with you, which threatens his feelings.

A mouthful of old blood almost came out. At this time, my daughter was four years old. I just help others wholeheartedly and make wedding dresses for others. I didn't expect the truth to be like this.

Later, wheat and Ronaldinho had children, and Ronaldinho was transferred soon. Occasionally, we will meet wheat in the street. In order to avoid embarrassment, we all choose to escape, and when we see it from afar, we will avoid each other.

Looking back many years later, the original traces of resentment have already been felt in Gone with the Wind, which is only a little funny. Young people are too bad at grasping friendship and tension.

Another time, it was the matchmaker who kept me busy and called back and forth, and she shot me in the heart.

The beautiful swallows in the unit next door often play together because they are similar in age. At that time, she was also an older young man. Let me meet the right person and introduce her boyfriend.

As it happens, a friend of my husband's, Zhang Da, and Yanzi are quite suitable in age, education, occupation and appearance. I introduced them, and both of them left their phone numbers, so I didn't ask any more questions. During that time, I was busy decorating the house.

Before long, the swallow found me, full of anger, and counted all kinds of grievances.

The swallow said, Look at all the people who have introduced me. I haven't seen them many times. Let's talk about marriage again We're not young anyway. Let me write down what I want to marry after I get married. Do you find it irritating? I really want to throw paper and pen in his face!

I smiled and said, yes, yes, if it were me, I would have thrown it in his face.

Swallow continues to be angry: Just me, Swallow, not bad. Who do you recommend?

I continued to accompany him: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I really don't know him very well, he just knows my husband, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I wronged you.

Later, I drifted away from Swallow, and after many years, I met again, and my former kindness was never found.

Being a matchmaker also encountered two wonderful things.

Once I introduced a man and a woman to meet, and the girl's cousin accompanied her to check the pass. As a result, the man took a fancy to her cousin, who was more than ten years older than the boy, divorced and had a daughter. But the boy seemed to be possessed, so he fell in love with her and launched a fanatical pursuit.

My cousin resisted at first. She cares about her sister's feelings and the age gap between her and the boys. Later, she was moved and dated boys for several months. Later, my cousin separated from the boys. She said the age gap was too big and she felt guilty. She is afraid of hurting others.

Such a thing is not the original intention of the matchmaker at all, and it is completely out of the control of the matchmaker.

Another time, a leader asked me to introduce an object to his nephew, saying that his nephew was lovelorn and was very painful.

I introduced a girl to my nephew, and the leader said to transfer the girl from the mountain area immediately.

Girls are happy, boys are good, and jobs are settled.

But it didn't take long for girls to get angry, saying that boys were getting married and looking for girlfriends everywhere, which was extremely hateful!

I asked the leader what happened, and he was embarrassed.

It turned out that the boy's ex-girlfriend heard that he had a new girlfriend, and suddenly she was full of blood and asked to return. Maybe the boy still loves his ex-girlfriend. After compromise, they soon set a wedding date.

Is this also a matchmaker? It's not what I want, but it's also a beautiful marriage.

Being a matchmaker is an interesting thing, and you can see many emotional stories of separation and combination in reality, which are bizarre and colorful.

Being a matchmaker is also a technical job. If you are not skilled, you may be thankless and frustrated. If a place is not properly considered, a marriage may also fall apart.