There was a time when I made a long list of change plans every day. In the past, I made a list of dozens or twenty items, but every time I failed within three days. I am depressed, and I often scold and reflect afterwards. Why can't I insist? Why is my self-control always so poor? Until this summer vacation, I gave up a long list, and I firmly carried out a plan that needed to be changed-meeting a new friend every day. Because this is a project, I need to punch in the WeChat group every day. In order to prove to myself that I can stick to it, with the purpose of improving my communication skills urgently, I seriously reflect on my records every night. After a month, I really succeeded.
When I found that I had formed a habit and no longer regarded this "task" as a "task" that required a lot of efforts, I started a second habit-running. Similarly, I learned from previous experience and only pay attention to this one every day. Other task habits don't matter. I can train them slowly in the future. In addition, because of the money in the gym, group punching, and the motivation to start a new day every morning, I have maintained my passion for running and persisted until now.
Recently, I started Project 007 to cultivate good habits of writing and deep thinking. Recently, I unconsciously changed my good habit of listening to songs into listening to books and recording every day. These tiny good habits have greatly changed my attitude and way of thinking about life, and enabled me to achieve a breakthrough from quantitative change to qualitative change.
Recently, I read a book, Courage: The Power of Passivity and Perseverance by Angela Lee Duckworth. Many viewpoints in it have verified my recent changes and given me more motivation to improve and persist in changing myself. Grit is perseverance, representing the combination of enthusiasm and persistence. This indicator can predict a person's future success more accurately than IQ and self-control.
There is a point in the book Perseverance: the strategy of life effort should aim at marathon, not sprint. This suddenly awakened my previous wrong view. I used to think that life could suddenly turn upside down. However, the pain of every change makes me unable to persist, and every cell in my body is resisting its own mutation. Now, I can calmly accept my imperfect self and gently say to myself who wants to change, "Slow down and stick to it."
How can we continue to exercise and improve our perseverance? Here, I take off four viewpoints in the book and share them with you:
1. Find your passion: If a person doesn't have the passion support from the inner core, he will be easily interrupted whenever he faces difficulties, setbacks and failures, because there are 10,000 reasons in his mind to convince himself to return to his comfortable area; If you have a core passion in your heart, that voice in your heart can help push you to the finish line whenever an excuse comes.
2. Deliberate practice: Constant practice can not only strengthen your confidence, but also find your weaknesses through reflection and focus on strengthening your promotion.
3. Combine with the goal of helping others: it is difficult for a person to achieve great things, and cooperation is definitely needed on the road to growth. The hidden rewards of sharing and helping me are unimaginable. I found that the more I help others without asking for anything in return, the happier I am, and sometimes I get unexpected gains.
4. Have a growth mentality: people are different, IQ can be improved, and perseverance can also be improved through action. As long as I move forward in the right direction, I will definitely see my progress.
Work together to improve your "perseverance" and record a little bit to witness your change and improvement.