However, the reality is this: if you work too hard, it will affect your health and the quality of your baby. Having children will affect your career progress and efficiency for at least one year. Although the law stipulates that pregnant women cannot be dismissed, some enterprises are very taboo about the birth of female employees. However, some positions only accept female employees who have given birth. Employers will consider that women who are mothers are more patient than unmarried women and are willing to make more efforts to gain a sense of professional accomplishment, social status and respect.
If you meet a very "vicious" employer, get pregnant unexpectedly and want to have a baby, you might as well leave your job as soon as possible or apply for job hopping. Otherwise, you can't imagine what will happen during pregnancy. After waiting for the child, 1~2 years later, because the child had better stay with his mother until he is 3 years old, his physical and mental development will be very good. Then you can come out and find your favorite job.
If your lover can support you to be a full-time wife, that's good. You can use your spare time to find some part-time or freelance jobs. There are many job opportunities and entrepreneurial opportunities now. Just use some thought!
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According to the survey, 80% of working women want to return to the workplace after giving birth.
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The Year of the Golden Pig has passed, and many golden pig mothers choose to return to the workplace after the holiday, but the "road to comeback" is not smooth. According to the survey of Xiangyang career, more than 80% of professional women want to return to the workplace after giving birth, but they all encounter problems to varying degrees: their position has been replaced by others, and their concern for their children makes them unable to go forward as before. They quit after giving birth and now they have to rejoin the job search army, which makes "pig mothers" very headache. Dale Hong, a career planner, said that the "baby boom" will continue in recent years, and the confusion of these golden pig mothers is a common problem encountered by the parenting mother return engagement. It is suggested that these "pig mothers" adjust their mentality, find their own career orientation and achieve a good balance between career and family.
[Confused 1]
Lack of professional mentality is out of touch with work
Before giving birth to the baby, Xue Yun was an executive of a company, and his work was busy, and her husband's salary was enough to make the family comfortable. Therefore, after she was pregnant with the baby, Xue Yun applied for unpaid leave and worked as a full-time wife at home for more than a year. After the Spring Festival, Xue Yun couldn't wait to quit her engagement, but after working for a few days, she always felt that there were many problems. She comes to the company first every morning, not only preparing boiled water, but also picking up a rag to clean herself. During work breaks, she takes out her snacks and shares them with her colleagues. But the boss and colleagues think that she has done too much foreign affairs and failed to do her job well. Xue Yun felt that his self-esteem had been hurt. She treated the company with love, but she got such an evaluation.
When communicating with his boss and colleagues, Xue Yun also encountered problems. At home, she used to talk to her husband and baby in a consultative tone, but her boss and colleagues objected to her ambiguous way of speaking. For example, if the boss wants to ask her for advice on working in other places for a period of time, she will just sit there and talk about "everything is arranged by the leader" and have no idea how to express her opinion. In fact, she doesn't want to work abroad at all. In addition, Xue Yun likes to give some lunch suggestions to his colleagues. Several times later, a colleague protested to her: "Why do you talk to me like a child?"
Emotional, unable to adapt to the intense work rhythm, and difficult to quickly integrate into the professional atmosphere are the problems encountered by most parenting mothers when they return to the workplace. Dale Hong said that Xue Yun's problem is that she has not stepped out of the role of mother. "Mother and professional women are two identities and cannot be confused. Once you choose to go back to the office, your way of thinking and work pace should be accelerated. Mother's speech in front of familiar family members can be a mild discussion tone, and even can not directly express her opinions. But when you return to work, you should have a suitable speaking style and express your attitude clearly and simply, because you need to let everyone know your thoughts in a short time. "
-Expert advice: In case of such problems, Xue Yun can adjust his mentality from the following aspects. First of all, be clear about your responsibilities and don't cross the line, otherwise others will think that your work is ambitious, and don't mistake the company for your home. Secondly, learn to cut to the chase and delete words such as "that", "I think", "possibility" and "feeling". Such gentle words will make your words sound uncertain and affect the effect of your speech. Once again, recharge at any time and don't refuse new job opportunities. In this era of information explosion, only by constantly updating our knowledge can we be comfortable in our work. It is suggested that mothers on maternity leave should keep in touch with colleagues and keep abreast of the current situation of their work units, so as to rejoin the working environment and not feel strange when returning to work.
[Confusion 2]
After passing the customs, the position was replaced by others.
Last year, Kiki, who had just been promoted to department manager, originally planned to do a good job, but unexpectedly gave birth to a baby. After consulting with her husband, relatives and friends, she decided to give birth to this "unexpected baby". Kiki's company is engaged in import and export business, and someone must be responsible for contacting customers, so during Kiki's maternity leave, her position was temporarily replaced by her colleague Yi Ling.
Yiling lived up to her boss's entrustment. When Kiki was on vacation, she made the company's business colorful, and her performance was even higher than when Kiki was a manager. After Kiki's "customs clearance" resumed work, the boss tried to appease his two "generals", balance their relationship and make them all equal department managers. The boss made it clear that the two men would compete in secret and then decide who would be the department manager. After having a baby, Kiki is so busy all day that she can't concentrate all her thoughts on her work like Yiling. Kiki hesitated whether to stay in the company and wait patiently for the opportunity or leave.
On the one hand, Kiki doesn't know how to deal with this setback. On the other hand, she doesn't know how to suppress her anger. She often has disputes with her colleagues in the office, and her colleagues privately blacklisted Kiki.
Dale Hong analyzed that during the three months of maternity leave, Kiki was completely regarded as a "baby". Break out when you are unhappy, have a big fight with your husband, or pretend to pack up and go back to your parents' house. However, Dale Hong pointed out that Kiki's mentality in the office is totally infeasible. The result of breaking into a furious rage will only make the situation worse. Not only will it not solve the problem, but it will also leave the impression that she is "irritable and difficult to get along with". Kiki needs to learn to face setbacks and control her anger.
Dale Hong suggested: "When encountering anger, Kiki can go to the bathroom to calm down for a few minutes, and then deal with things instead of venting her emotions immediately. She should learn to communicate well and express her dissatisfaction instead of losing her temper to solve the problem. "
-Expert advice: When some women encounter problems, it is easy to blame "gender discrimination" and external reasons, and they often neglect to find their own reasons. In the workplace, "neutral people" can achieve greater success.
Being tolerant of job changes is the first lesson that new mothers should learn when they return to the workplace. It is better to think from another angle, treat personnel changes as normal phenomena, put down your airs and treat yourself as a new person, which is more conducive to learning. Since this situation is encountered, we should face it bravely. You should not only finish the work arranged by the leader seriously, but also use this time to make up your professional knowledge. When you are too depressed, you might as well ask a few girlfriends. Chatting with your girlfriend is also an effective way to solve depression.
In addition, as a new mother, we should know how to choose. You are no longer a free man who can arrange all the time and manipulate everything, so never ask for all the opportunities to earn more money or express yourself, which will only make you flustered.
[Confusion 3]
Returning to the workplace, I can't take care of my family and work.
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In order to give birth to a healthy and intelligent baby, Li Yu resolutely quit her job as a reporter three months before she was ready to get pregnant. However, after giving birth to a child, Li Wei had the idea of coming back after seeing that his girlfriends were working hard.
After nearly two years of career gap, coupled with the status of a married mother, Li Yu lacks confidence in returning to the workplace. After several job searches, her professional self-confidence fell to the lowest point. Later, under the introduction of a friend, after the holiday, Li Yu went to work in a magazine and started her career again, but she encountered new problems.
"Busy during the day, I have to get up at night to feed my children. I throw it three or four times a night. I don't get enough sleep every day, and the iron man will be exhausted. Besides, my daughter is only five months old, so I have to worry about everything. I have no time to write at all. " Li Yu complained. Because she can't sleep well at night, Li Yu is always listless during the day. The boss has a lot of complaints about her, and Li Yu is ashamed of herself and wants to redouble her efforts. In addition, the nanny at home often has such "conditions", and taking time off from time to time makes Li upset, which intensifies her distrust of herself.
Dale Hong analysis, a survey of Xiangyang career found that only 15% of mothers who return to the workplace have a very smooth career development in the future. They have a common feature, that is, they have found their own career orientation before giving birth; On the contrary, most troubled golden pig mothers are not very clear about their career orientation.
Dale Hong said: "The problem Li Yu encountered was not the new confusion she encountered after becoming a mother, but the problems accumulated in her previous career and the lack of career orientation. A person's career orientation is often related to a person's value and experience. If a person has a clear career orientation, he can guide, restrain or stabilize his career, and even if his career is interrupted because of fertility problems, he can quickly return to his best state. Obviously, Li Yu can't do this. In addition, Li Wei can't correctly handle the contradiction between family and work, which further aggravates her predicament and affects her work status. "
-Experts suggest that, first of all, Li Yu can use the following two practical methods to deal with the dilemma: First, improve work efficiency and make time to "plant private plots" for himself and take care of the baby; The second is to use all the scattered time. People are very lazy. If you always give yourself some excuses for not doing something or doing it badly, you will only make yourself lazier.
Secondly, Li Yu should find his own professional orientation and form his own professional values. The so-called professional values are what he thinks of himself in his heart. If necessary, he can also seek the help of professional analysts.
Thirdly, we should minimize the impact of child-rearing on work and separate work from family affairs. For example, if the baby needs vaccination or goes to the hospital when he is sick, he must call the unit leaders and colleagues and go back to work as soon as possible after handling the matter.