One of my visitors, Xiao Ai, told me her story. She just ended a five-year relationship between brother and sister and a long-distance relationship.

Xiao Ai and her boyfriend met when they graduated from high school. They are brother and sister.

At first, Xiao Ai disagreed. Her boyfriend is too young to be reliable.

The boy was surprisingly serious and told Xiao Ai that even though you are several years older than me, you are just a little girl who needs protection in my eyes.

As he said, in the days of pursuing Xiao Ai, the boy insisted on waking her up every day to remind her to eat on time and be caring and attentive. Snacks and toys make Xiao Ai very happy. ...

Share anything interesting with her immediately. Wechat always comes back in seconds. When he can't sleep, he will stay with her all night ...

He really dotes on her like a little girl.

Gradually, Xiao Ai was moved by the boy's enthusiasm, accustomed to the days when he was around, and accustomed to being cared for and loved by him. In this way, she went behind her family's back and chose to be with him under the opposition of almost everyone.

In these five years, although she has experienced many obstacles, she never thought of leaving him.

In my junior year, the boy came to the city where she went to college and wanted to stay longer, but he didn't bring much money.

They rented a small house in a village near the city. The rent, water, electricity, pots and pans, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar all add up, and the money spent is 7788. At that time, Xiao Ai's monthly living expenses were only 700 pounds. In those days, in order to save money, she only ate a steamed bun and vegetables every day.

Xiao Ai said that when they were together, they were often as poor as death. They can't afford clothes for shopping, and all they eat is stalls. They couldn't afford expensive gifts during the festival, so she bought colored paper, folded stars and paper cranes for her boyfriend. There were hundreds of them with different blessings written in them.

Graduation year, without warning, Xiao Ai received a text message from her boyfriend, "Let's break up, I like someone else".

In order to prevent Xiao Ai from pestering him, he also sent photos and videos of his new girlfriend, an online celebrity, to Xiao Ai.

He said, look, my new girlfriend is younger than you, more beautiful than you, more fashionable than you, with a good figure and good taste in clothes. Don't bother us again.

And my parents also think that you are older than me, and we are not suitable …

At the beginning, Xiao Ai couldn't accept that her boyfriend was too young, but now it has been replaced by the reason that her boyfriend abandoned her.

Xiao Ai still doesn't understand why her boyfriend doesn't love when he says he doesn't love, and it changes when he says he doesn't love. If she dresses like an internet celebrity and has European double eyelids, maybe her boyfriend can change his mind.

I told her,

Because most people who love each other will selectively ignore the shortcomings of their lover's physiology and appearance, and failed love will never cherish, work hard and distrust …

02

There is a fat girl in America named Jenna Kucher, who is a wedding photographer.

When she posted a photo with her husband on the Internet, she received many blessings and comments, but at the same time she also encountered many malicious attacks.

Jenna's husband is a fitness instructor, handsome appearance and six-pack abdominal muscles that countless girls can't help licking the screen, while Jenna is a plain and slightly fat girl.

Someone said, "Where did you find such a handsome husband? It's fake. How is it possible! "

Others said, "Don't worry about this buddy, you are so fat that you don't deserve him at all!" " "

Someone even directly attacked: "wake up, big sister, he is only with you for money." No one will really love you in your body. "

Jenna is a girl with great temperament. Although she is fat, she never likes her true self.

But those who hate her and laugh at her figure will still appear in the comment area, especially those malicious remarks about her disagreement with her husband, which once made her very depressed.

Later, with more and more discordant voices, she became very inferior: "Is it really not worthy of her husband?"

She also stopped sending photos of herself and her husband.

Just when she was sad about it, her husband stood up.

Not only opened ins, but also announced to the world: "I am Jenna's husband ..."

Every day, I express my love for my wife without hesitation and scatter dog food to netizens.

Perhaps encouraged by her husband's love, Jenna bravely faced the keyboard man and launched the most loving and powerful counterattack:

She spoke her mind frankly:

"I often feel insecure, partly because I married this gentleman with six abdominal muscles. I will ask myself, why am I a fat girl, but I got such a good exam?

I will keep telling myself in my heart that I am not thin, I am unworthy, I am unworthy. ...

But it is this person who has calmed my inner anxiety for 10 years.

He hugged my every curve, every piece of fat, kissed my dimples and acne, reminding me that no matter what kind of struggle I have inside, I am the most beautiful in his eyes ... "

In the world of love, there is no match or mismatch. As long as you are in love, the other person is the most beautiful person in your eyes.

China people often say, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder", which means the same thing.

03

At that time, Tony Leung Ka Fai stood up and said that "the most beautiful woman in the world is not as attractive as my wife" when fans questioned that his wife Jiang Jianian was old, ugly and out of shape.

The black and fat Asian lady around Zuckerberg has also been criticized by countless people.

Psychologists recruited 83 college student volunteers (32 males and 565,438 females +0) to participate in the laboratory and asked them to evaluate their appearance according to the scale.

Subsequently, psychologists sent emails based on the emails provided by volunteers from their lovers and friends, asking them to evaluate the looks of these college students.

The survey results show that:

1. Lovers really evaluate our looks, which is obviously higher than friends' evaluation of us and our own evaluation of ourselves.

2. Although lovers think that we are "like Pan An" or "as beautiful as a fairy", lovers themselves know that our evaluation of ourselves is very general.

Although lovers think highly of our appearance, they also know that our friends don't think so highly of us.

French writer romain rolland once said: "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life."

Applying the above research results, we can say that there is only one kind of love in the world, that is, I still choose to love you after knowing all your shortcomings.

Whether Jenna Kucher or Jiang Jianian, or Priscilla Chen, although in the eyes of ordinary people are far from her husband's identity.

But in the eyes of their lovers, they are the most trustworthy objects in the world, the most unforgettable scenery and the most incomparable beauty …

Love is like drinking water. You know yourself very well.

There is a line in the movie Juno: I think you'd better find someone who loves you for who you really are, no matter whether you are good-tempered, ugly or beautiful. The right person will think that the sun can also shine on your ass.

May you and I both marry love. ...

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