What is the best way to live after retirement? Some people may think it's dancing in the park, chatting with old friends and telling jokes. The rest of my life is not long. Every day I can be happy, I will be happy. Three or five friends will accompany me, talk about personal feelings and gossip about others. This is an easy retirement.
However, Aunt Yang doesn't think so. Aunt Yang thinks that the best retirement life is not sociable and doing what she likes alone.
Aunt Yang said that where there are people, there are right and wrong. There will always be some people in the crowd who hold high and tread low because of envy, deliberately crowding out others and isolating them. It's a pity that Aunt Yang met these bad worries. After retirement, Aunt Yang was excluded and isolated because she danced ballroom dancing for school. Aunt Yang simply quits the group and is alone, no longer gregarious.
Aunt Yang was a beauty when she was young. She is tall and fair-skinned, and she is the kind of person who stands out from the crowd. Maybe time will always be especially good for beautiful women. Aunt Yang is still elegant when she is old. Compared with her peers, she is much younger. Plus, Aunt Yang is good at dressing up and her clothes are good. She will always be the most dazzling of the old ladies.
A few years before retirement, Aunt Yang was too busy taking care of her grandchildren to enjoy retirement. Later, my grandson went to kindergarten, and Aunt Yang went to the park to learn ballroom dancing to kill time.
Aunt Yang specially chose a team that looked very good. Many people come to dance every day, led by several skilled teachers.
On the first day of joining the team, Aunt Yang got along well with many people and greeted each other politely. However, I don't know why. After only one week, Aunt Yang found that some female companions in the team actually began to ignore her. Aunt Yang greeted them, and they were indifferent.
During the break, Aunt Yang found that several female companions always looked at what Aunt Yang was saying from time to time. In order to get on well with them, Aunt Yang went to talk to them on purpose, but they ignored Aunt Yang. Often Aunt Yang just walks by and they leave without saying a few words.
Aunt Yang is a little confused. She doesn't seem to have offended any of them. How can they crowd out and isolate her?
Later, a nice guy told Aunt Yang that the male teacher who danced with Aunt Yang had been dancing with Xiao Zhang (one of several female companions who excluded and isolated Aunt Yang). This male teacher is very popular, and all the old ladies in the team like to dance with him because he is great.
The good man also told Aunt Yang that Xiao Zhang did not allow his female companion to associate with Aunt Yang. If anyone gets close to Aunt Yang, Xiao Zhang and his gang will suppress her and make her unable to stay in the team.
Sure enough, a few days later, the good man stopped dancing.
After understanding the situation, Aunt Yang no longer asked the male teacher to take it, but chose to follow another teacher who led the team. However, the situation has not improved. Xiao Zhang and his gang still crowded out and isolated Aunt Yang, letting her say that Aunt Yang couldn't stay and left.
Sometimes they will take words to ridicule Aunt Yang, saying that Aunt Yang is so old and dressed so young that she is definitely not a good woman. Learning to dance must have a purpose.
Aunt Yang really feels bad. Originally, she came to learn ballroom dancing to enrich her retirement. Unexpectedly, she became upset, isolated and ridiculed every day, and her body and mind were severely hit.
Aunt Yang couldn't help it any longer. Like a good person, she chose to quit the dance team and never go again.
Still have to retire, but Aunt Yang is not going to squeeze into the crowd again. Now Aunt Yang is a loner and doesn't know anyone well. She changed a dance team, and there were not many people. She goes home after dancing every day, and she doesn't get along with anyone. Besides meeting and greeting, she can hardly talk about other topics.
In addition to dancing, Aunt Yang also found a suitable way to support the elderly. She went to a senior college to study embroidery and practice calligraphy at home. Although there is no good partner, Aunt Yang's retirement life is getting richer and richer.
Aunt Yang said that after being unsociable, she felt much better, never heard those ugly words again, and never had to deal with the embarrassment in interpersonal communication again. A person is free and very comfortable.
Where there are people, there are right and wrong, where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and life is alive, either being talked about or talking about others. People who can choose not to be sociable are actually smart people, because being away from the crowd means being away from right and wrong, and being alone is actually the best state of life.