On the afternoon of September 7th, Li Lianfa asked Weibo for help, saying that actor Xu Ting had a severe abdominal infection and a high fever of 40 degrees. He was now being treated in Beijing 304 Hospital.
About afternoon 17, an alumnus confirmed that Xu Ting died at the age of 26 because of ineffective rescue.
Xu Ting has participated in film and television works, such as Lovers in the Clouds, Australians, Bringing Love Home, League of Legends, Dad's Home, Uncle, etc., and was once called "Little Angie Chiu" in the Mainland by netizens.
A sentence in Xu Ting's Weibo before his death made people cry:
"No matter how long I can live, I want to live happily every day in an unknown time. After all, it seems that I have never lived for myself in these 26 years. ...
My parents gave birth to seven children. I am the third child. Since I went to college, I have earned my own money to pay my tuition. After I finished college, I began to live in the basement for 300 yuan. In the past five years, I have worked hard to make money to pay tuition, rent, pay my parents' debts and buy a house for my brother. ...
Countless times of staying up late to shoot films, tired lumbar disc herniation, and soaking in ice water to shoot films in winter.
I can't breathe under pressure. I made dozens of plays in five years, and all the money I earned went to my family. I never want to spend it myself. ...
After I learned that I had cancer, I felt a little relaxed ... I felt I was going to be free ... "
It is really distressing and regrettable that such a sensible girl lost her life early. I realized that I "never lived for myself", but that was after I knew I had cancer.
Is it too late to realize this?
I have a college classmate who got married right after graduation. The man's family is relatively rich. But the in-laws are difficult to get along with, and my husband occasionally sees ambiguous flirting messages on his mobile phone.
She is a hard-working and caring person in the unit. She always thinks about taking care of her colleagues and wronged herself. Going home is a nanny, devoting herself wholeheartedly to the family. The two-and-a-half-story villa is spotless, and the trained daughter has elegant temperament and decent manners.
Even so, the time for her husband to go home is getting late. Although she felt a great crisis, she didn't know how to deal with it.
Outside, I have to support my husband's face and pretend that husband and wife are harmonious and have a good month.
She has nothing but pain and patience.
Because her mother told her from an early age that the most important thing for a woman is her children and her husband, and she should think of each other and pay for everything.
Time is still long, slowly endure, one day, my in-laws will die and my husband will go home.
She is so sensible that she always thinks of others and never thinks of herself. Until one day, she was stung by a sentence:
You are so wise that no one should get hurt!
Well, not only others, but also she doesn't love herself. There are only others in her heart.
In the tug-of-war between the two, inch by inch, the other side came in inch by inch, so it was more and more looked down upon by the other side, and naturally it became more and more humble in the marriage relationship. How can a person who doesn't even love himself expect others to love you?
So I lost myself day after day, and finally, I couldn't find myself.
Only by understanding that in this world, the only thing that really cares about you and deserves your concern is yourself, whether accepting yourself or transforming yourself, will be smooth and willing. At the same time, there will be less self-torture.
I recently watched the movie version of Sex and the City.
Samantha in the film doesn't understand or even despise her countless previous male life, but she is moved by a fragment.
At 49, she finally became a housewife. However, after she became lonely and gained weight 15 Jin, she began to be unhappy and became no longer like herself. She decided to leave him.
He asked, don't you love me?
She stared at him with fine-grained eyes and said:
I love you, but I love myself more. I have a relationship with myself for 49 years, and I must continue.
This is the impression that Samantha gave me. She always loves herself, always enjoys life according to her own ideas, and is selfish and justified.
Regardless of the chaos outside, you are equally focused on your own happiness. She won't let herself be treated unfairly.
Yes, in the end, it will always be self-love. There is no love that never leaves.
In one's life, one comes alone and walks alone. In this boundless world, the only people who really care about you are themselves.
For decades, the joy of the bottom of my heart is unknown, and the bitterness of my heart is unknown. What a person has to face in the end is always himself.
Only by handling the relationship between yourself and yourself can we handle the relationship with others and everything in the world.
In real life, how many girls lost themselves in love and marriage?
For a feeling, I wronged myself and lost my dignity; Infinitely sacrifice yourself, bind the other half with this morality, and live a life of mutual torture.
The teacher once wrote such brave words in Rouge:
My destination is health and talent. A person can be trusted after all, but it is himself who can hold his head high, not himself. What destination do I want? I found myself, and I am my destination.
Love yourself, don't stay up late, eat a balanced diet and exercise;
Love yourself, don't force yourself to go beyond your reach. Don't always jump up and pick peaches, so there is no pain of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss;
Love yourself, keep reading, thinking, traveling and improving yourself.
In good times, walk leisurely forward; In times of adversity, stop to recharge your batteries and let your vitality gather.
It's for self-love
Attach a copy of "Stay away from eight bad habits to prevent cancer". You who are willing to read this article are healthy and upward, and you can see the sunshine when you look up.
At the same time, give the person you love, she (he) is healthy, and you will be happy!
First, let the temper eat.
Eating barbecue instead of vegetables, big fish and big meat are not enough, and there are few vegetables and fruits, which has become a common problem of modern people.
Let yourself eat:
1, which will cause obesity, obesity and breast cancer, prostate cancer and other cancers;
2, vegetables and fruits contain a lot of dietary fiber, which can promote intestinal peristalsis and take away harmful substances. Often not eating fruits and vegetables will increase the risk of colon cancer;
3. Lack of vitamins. People who don't eat carrots lack beta-carotene than people who eat a lot of carrots, and the incidence of lung cancer is 7 times higher. Lack of vitamin A is very likely to cause lung cancer and gastric cancer; The deficiency of folic acid and vitamin B2 is an important reason for the high incidence of esophageal cancer.
Countermeasures: Eat more than 400g of vegetables and no more than 75g of meat every day.
Second, don't sleep at night.
The British Scientific Cancer Research Center studied more than 30-50-year-old cancer patients around the world 1000, and found that 99.3% of them stayed up all year round and didn't rest until after midnight. On the one hand, staying up late will cause disorder of biological clock, on the other hand, night lighting will destroy the formation of melatonin, which is an important part of protecting human immune function. Without it, leukemia, breast cancer and prostate cancer will easily find you.
Countermeasures: If you work overtime until the early hours of the morning, you'd better find a room with sunshade curtains to sleep in. The dark environment is conducive to the production of melatonin in the body.
Third, sit down and don't want to move.
After sitting at work for a day, I get stuck on the sofa when I get home ... Don't think that sedentary harm only hurts the cervical spine and spine. German experts pointed out that the number of immune cells in human body increases with the increase of activity, and the number of sedentary immune cells decreases, which greatly increases the risk of cancer; Japanese doctors found that most patients with gastric cancer usually eat too much and sit still; American research shows that sedentary people are 40%~50% more likely to develop colon cancer than those who exercise regularly, and men are also prone to prostate cancer.
Countermeasures: After working for 2 hours, you must get up and exercise 15 minutes or more.
Fourth, always drink boiled water.
Many people like to make a cup of kung fu tea in their spare time. This "hot" tea may lay a hidden danger for esophageal cancer. Boiling water can burn the esophageal mucosa, causing oral mucositis and esophagitis. After a long time, cancer may occur. The survey shows that Kazak people in Xinjiang often drink boiled milk tea, Chaoshan people like kung fu tea, and Taihang people like to drink big bowls of hot porridge. At present, these areas have become the high incidence areas of esophageal cancer, cardiac cancer and oral cancer.
Countermeasure: Don't drink food while it is hot, and eat it when it is isothermal.
Five, love to get stuck in a dead end
People who love truth, are angry and are not good at expressing themselves in life, and the autonomic nervous system, endocrine system and immune system are in a state of high excitement and tension for a long time, which is an important inducement of breast cancer and ovarian cancer. People who love the truth too much and pursue perfection at work are more likely to suffer from gastric cancer and pancreatic cancer.
Countermeasures: An open-minded and cheerful mood is the "natural enemy" of cancer cells.
Six, eat moldy food
Moldy products such as peanuts, soybeans, rice and flour will produce aflatoxin, which is a strong carcinogen and may lead to liver cancer and gastric cancer. In addition, moldy food also contains aspergillus toxin, ochratoxin, etc., all of which have strong carcinogenic effects.
Countermeasures: this kind of frugality is not enough, stay away from toxic and moldy food!
Seven, excessive sun exposure
You will find that furniture that is often exposed to the sun at home ages faster, and so does human skin. Studies have confirmed that overexposure in childhood will accelerate skin aging and increase the probability of freckles and even cancer in adulthood.
Countermeasures: ultraviolet rays are strongest at 1 1 ~ 3 o'clock every afternoon, so pay attention to sun protection.
Eight, work too hard
Lymphoma, liver cancer and lung cancer are among the top three "tired" cancers. Doctors say that although overwork will not directly lead to cancer, it will lead to repeated attacks and aggravations of liver disease and lung disease, and eventually induce cancer.
Countermeasure: Life is more important than money! Don't overwork, don't work too late, don't overwork, ensure 8 hours of sleep every day, and ensure certain rest and fitness activities on Saturday and Sunday to adjust your mood. Usually, I sit still, meditate and listen to music.
Introduction: Shui Qing, a middle school teacher, likes coding and Braille to entertain himself. Faith: Shuttling between words, movies and heaven and earth will triple life.