The typical "Yamato Nadeshiko" is described as "standing, standing, peony, lily and flower". It means "stand like a peony, sit like a peony and walk like a lily". It can be seen that etiquette is the first. Keeping a clean and dignified appearance is not only a respect for others, but also a constraint on yourself. Even if you don't say a word, you can hold up your whole body. I think the ladies who were able to wear cheongsam smoothly and elegantly in those days must have always held a gesture. It doesn't matter if you keep your posture occasionally, but it's difficult to keep it forever, naturally and appropriately, just like being born perfect. Of course, people naturally like to be relaxed and comfortable. Without deliberate practice, outstanding charm will become loose in minutes. Once I met a mother and daughter on the tram, and there was only one vacancy. Mother carefully taught the little girl how to sit well, with her back straight, her hands crossed on her knees, and her feet together. She could not kick around. The four or five-year-old girl obediently did it, else. Probably know that being active is a child's nature. After a few minutes, her mother said it was ok, and the little girl relaxed and showed a lively look around her. It seems that this kind of exercise is a compulsory course for her every day. With an empty seat, my mother sat down, naturally sitting with her feet together, putting her handbag on her lap and holding it in her hand. The gesture is very elegant and dignified, and the girl who looks at her mobile phone with her back crossed is simply unsightly. Sure enough, upbringing has been passed down from generation to generation. It is conceivable that decades later, the little girl is still as dignified.
People who have just come to Japan will immediately find that Japanese women, regardless of their age, rarely wear makeup. As the joke goes, Japanese women rely on makeup, Korean women rely on plastic surgery, and China women rely on Mito Xiu Xiu. It is true that Japanese women are skilled in make-up, and they pay attention to shopping or attending parties every day. Light makeup and heavy makeup are always appropriate. Without makeup, they will never go out. 1 1 Go to the gym in the evening. After taking a shower, you will often see them sitting in front of the mirror in rows in the dressing room, drawing eyebrows and lips, and drawing a perfect face before leaving. Although Japanese fashion is changing, real Japanese ladies always keep exquisite makeup and elegant clothes. Their greatest pursuit of appearance lies in their shiny black hair, skin as thin as jelly, soft and slender fingers and white and delicate neck. This kind of natural beauty only needs a little makeup to shine. However, even though their faces are getting older, they do not hide the traces of the years, but they are still radiant and radiant with a little modification.
Japanese people's extreme pursuit of details is everywhere, and so is Japanese women's cultivation of self-connotation. From cooking to cleaning the room to choosing a career, everything has rules to follow and is scrutinized repeatedly. On the one hand, their good knowledge and self-cultivation come from family education, on the other hand, they also pay attention to reading. No matter on the tram or in line, you can see women reading quietly. The books in their hands are always carefully wrapped in kraft paper or cloth, which shows their love for books. Having special talents is also a necessary accomplishment for a lady. A little knowledge or three minutes of enthusiasm is rare among Japanese ladies. When they talk about their hobbies, they often don't like tinkering around, but are fascinated, at least they will do it seriously. It is normal for them to invest time and money in hobbies. For example, those who like cooking will take a vegetable or nutrition certificate in their spare time, and those who like tea ceremony will choose a certain genre to formally learn from their teachers. Japanese ladies not only favor traditional arts such as tea ceremony and flower pattern, but also can always see them in western art galleries or concerts, and they always wear suits suitable for the occasion. The lady in a beret stared at a masterpiece, and the young woman in a dress smiled at the sound of nature, which made everyone ecstatic.
People familiar with anime seiyuu must know that Japanese can be described as extremely gentle, especially when going to Kyoto to listen to a geisha's gruff smile, which makes people feel crisp all over. If you encounter an important event in a restaurant or airport, the response is a long list of polite words, which makes it impossible for you to vent your anger. Japanese women seldom talk witticisms, even their speech speed and intonation are always kept at an appropriate level, but they know how to respond in conversation, and they can connect the words properly no matter what the other party says, so that the other party's words are as smooth as sitting on a sleigh and the listener feels very comfortable. Their speeches are like a trickle, and they are not anxious or angry. No matter how humble things are, they can be praised appropriately, and no matter how humble things are, they will never be criticized with barbed words. It's just Japanese. Sometimes it's boring to meet a female politician's endless inflammatory remarks on the road. When I turned around, I accidentally bumped into the woman next to me, only to hear a soft apology "Oh, that's rude", which is better all day.
If you just hold the impression that Japanese ladies are arrogant and cowardly, it is all wet. In fact, "Yamato Nadeshiko" highly praised women's unique perseverance and natural style, and stressed that men should not be blindly flattered. This typical woman always whispers and wears a kimono on weekdays, and looks gentle and virtuous. She looks like a delicate young lady, but she can immediately roll up her sleeves and compete with several strong men one after another. She was deadlocked for a long time. Ask her. She may have practiced archery since she was a child. In the end, regardless of winning or losing, she will give up, rub her red muscles and continue to talk and laugh. In this troubled country, everyone should have an arm that can support suffering, so character training is also an extremely important part of Japanese education for girls. From an early age, you can freely choose "boy" activities, such as judo kendo, football and basketball, all of which are practiced unequivocally. They often confront men on the training ground or in court, without any timidity, full of energy and high spirits. Style belongs to style, but Japanese ladies rarely have the style of "goddess" that we often say. They are neither indifferent nor arrogant, but more approachable.
If Japan is the most polite country in the world, I'm afraid no one will object. Etiquette originated in ancient China continues here today, and permeates every bit of daily life, among which table manners are the most common. Japanese people are used to a big pot of dishes with a small dish, and younger generations or women often serve dishes for everyone. If you carefully observe the behavior of people who carry plates, you will know how they are educated. A pot of dishes must be shared equally with all of you here, and even the dishes should be shared equally. Don't favour one over the other. Serving is also very particular. The dishes on the small plate must not ruin the dishes originally ordered by the chef and need to be pleasing to the eye. Not to mention being careful when holding chopsticks, being polite when handing food, and being meticulous when pouring wine for others. If you pay more attention to their eating habits, you will find that a large piece of food is usually divided into small pieces of the right size with the tips of chopsticks and chewed one by one. Never put the whole piece together and put it back on the plate to avoid splashing soup or leaving ugly bite marks. After eating, I took out my handkerchief and wiped my mouth gracefully. I folded it in all directions and put it back in my bag. I bowed slightly and said "Thank you for your hospitality". If the above can be impeccable, that is the real Japanese lady. Nowadays, young people in Japan also pay little attention to etiquette. Every time they see people who are willing to bend down on the porch to carefully sort out their shoes that they just took off, they are quite touched.
Rather than saying that Japanese women have done all the above to the extreme, it is better to say that they will always carry out the attitude of self-respect and self-love. Everyone in the world has their own love. Sometimes powerful and overbearing royal sisters are more popular, sometimes confused and lovely cute sisters are more popular, and sometimes arrogant goddesses occupy the trend. In this eventful autumn, only a quiet and relaxed woman will always share weal and woe, just like a cup of green tea, which deserves a long aftertaste.
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