Immersing ourselves in our own affairs is the first magic weapon for us to get happiness.
Second, learn to praise yourself.
Too many people only learn to complain in life, but don't learn to praise and reward.
People need rewards. Children do well in exams or write well in compositions. We need rewards and encouragement. We should congratulate our friends on their success in starting a business.
But in life, we often only know how to congratulate others and praise others, but forget to keep the same return for ourselves.
Be good to yourself. Always applaud yourself, cheer for yourself and shout for yourself.
A trivial thing in the eyes of others, maybe we will try our best to do it. In the process of doing it, we will be dissatisfied with ourselves and think that we are stupid and not as smart as others. At this time, we will be unhappy. But as long as we grit our teeth and stick to it, we will succeed in the end.
When you succeed, don't say that it turned out to be a trivial matter. Tell yourself that you have finally succeeded, applaud yourself and reward yourself.
We should not just wait for applause from others, nor stare at affirmation and flowers from other places, but learn to motivate ourselves and affirm ourselves.
People's unhappiness, to a large extent, comes from self-distrust, from not seeing their own advantages and highlights. When we form the good habit of self-praise, the situation is completely different. Every day, we will hear the voice of praise and encouragement in our hearts. In this voice, we will be happy to re-engage in new jobs, and the unhappy mood will naturally disappear.
Third, learn to find your sense of accomplishment from daily life.
Don't always treat achievements as endless things. In fact, too many achievements are accumulated bit by bit. When we define the word "success" as "great success, great achievement, great record", there are fewer and fewer successful things in our hearts, and even less expectations. At this time, failure will take advantage of it. The sense of failure is very bad, which will not only ruin our good mood, but more seriously, it will make us often show unconfidence in front of things and even give up on our own initiative without trying.
Finding a sense of accomplishment in daily life is a very interesting thing in itself. We need not only patience with life, but also normality with life. Buddha said that a normal heart is the most comfortable. Freedom itself is a kind of happiness.
Today you finished one more job than yesterday, and today your work was praised by the leader. Or today you take a thousand steps more than other days, which can all be attributed to a sense of accomplishment.
Overcoming those obstacles and getting rid of the temporary clouds in our lives is a sense of accomplishment. For example, a beginner of calligraphy, perhaps you have worked hard for a long time, and the handwriting is still crooked, but you finally found the happiness of writing, and learned the basic essentials of writing through day-to-day exploration, which is a sense of accomplishment. You get it through hard work. How can you not motivate yourself?
Fourth, don't beat yourself up with other people's achievements or successes.
Others have achieved great success in some aspects, which will naturally stimulate our mood and even bring us frustration.
For example, a colleague suddenly got a promotion, and you are still in your original position. Originally, his position and office were the same as yours, but tomorrow, he will be more by going up one flight of stairs than you, and even become your boss.
At this time, our hearts are often very complicated, and even dark things and negative emotions rise.
We will think that the other party may have a background, or the other party may have taken some abnormal measures. In short, we can't get happiness from the promotion of our colleagues, but come up with a lot of unhappiness. This is typical of beating yourself with the success of others.
The correct gesture is to congratulate each other first. Then calm down, to discover, to ponder, what are the strengths and outstanding places of the other party. There must be this, but usually we don't find it or think about it. If you can find out at this time, learn from it optimistically, improve yourself and make up for yourself, it is only a matter of time before you get promoted.
Unfortunately, too many people are not like this. Too many people think differently at this time. For example, I am better than him, and this opportunity is mine. How does he know now?
Then I thought that I had no one and no background in the DPRK, and then I was even more degraded, fearing that I would never have another chance in my life.
You see, a little thing that could have inspired us has put such a big pot on our backs and aroused so much negative energy in our hearts. Where does our happiness come from?
Fifth, don't be overwhelmed by your past self.
Many people will have such a life, that is, you have succeeded, or sat in a prominent position, or achieved better results in a certain field. But for one reason or another, you left the position and circle that once brought you confidence and honor. Let's just say that today is not as good as yesterday.
So you are troubled by a permanent emotion, feeling that you have failed and are caught in a fight.
Your progress will be slowed down by such setbacks, and even you lack firm strength.
Being bound by the past is another bane of our unhappiness.
This past may be a glorious past or a failed past.
The glorious past may lead us into a decadent situation where heroes are no longer there. In the past, when we suffered a great defeat, it was easier for us to fall into a situation that I was not good at. I am a lost person.
These minds are unhealthy and the enemies that make us unhappy. We must adjust our mentality and forget the past.
A person who can't get out of yesterday is not in a good mood to deal with today.
A person who is always immersed in yesterday's scenery, even if he travels far, his eyes can't appreciate the new scenery.