The first thing to learn is to refuse others. To put it mildly, he can make you do something. Why are you embarrassed to refuse him? We have no obligation to help others. I remember reading a story. Xiao is an employee of a company. Whenever his colleague has something to do, he will ask Xiao for help. I have a date tonight. Can you help me finish my unfinished business? Small, can you copy something for me? Little a. . These people come to her for help every day. Finally, one day, Xiao Ya couldn't stand it anymore. She broke out and refused them. So her popularity among people began to deteriorate. Everyone said she was so bad behind her back, but now that I think about it, those things are not her obligation to do. It's not her job to help them at all, but sometimes she is so resigned that everyone thinks you are good.
When someone asks you to do something you don't like, you should first think about why I should do it for him, what obligation I have to help, and what benefits I will get after helping. If you think about it carefully, you may find, well, I have no reason to help this man.
Anyway, I have to get rid of this problem of not refusing others. I didn't know how to refuse others before. Sometimes I help others to make things late, and my own things are not finished in the end, but these things have not been known by others, so I feel that many things have been done in vain, but now it should not be like before. As I said before, I can think before helping others. Do I really need to help him?
Learn to reject others. When someone asks you to do something, if it's really nothing, you should let him know that he owes you one. These things are not what you should do. Don't promise everything to others. You have your own things to do. Say no appropriately, and learn to say no slowly from a very small thing, otherwise people will think you are easy to bully.
I think you should learn to refuse whether you are a person or a thing. People who don't know how to refuse, even if they are exhausted, will not get real respect from others, because they are used to your obedience and take your request for granted. A person who knows how to refuse others suddenly helps you, and maybe you will be extremely grateful to her. So in any case, don't be a submissive person, but be a person who makes others really respect you.