Six Harms of Premarital Cohabitation to Women
The trend of abortion is obvious now. According to the survey, about 50% of women under the age of 25 accepted abortion, 65% were unmarried women, 54.3% were pregnant unexpectedly because of no contraceptive measures, and the number of repeated abortions was as high as 50%. According to a set of data released by the National Population and Family Planning Commission, China has at least130,000 induced abortions every year, excluding10,000 induced abortions and the number of induced abortions in unregistered private clinics, ranking first in the world. In China, under the background of family planning, abortion is legal and optional. Moreover, for single women, abortion after pregnancy is almost the only way out.
Usually, we will see a long queue of women waiting for surgery at the door of the abortion operating room. These fashionable girls are all nervous when they stand in the waiting room. Many girls lack scientific knowledge of contraception and are unaware of the harm of abortion. Girls who have had many abortions regard abortion as a contraceptive measure to some extent. Abortion requires company, whether it's a boyfriend, a close friend or a family member. There are many friends, because boyfriends at that moment often seem timid and shy, and most of their families don't know. The average cost of an induced abortion operation is about 1 1,000 yuan, including preoperative examination, surgical expenses and postoperative medication, which is not covered by medical insurance reimbursement. This is a big price for unmarried girls mentally, physically and financially.
Generally, girls who have an abortion for the first time don't know what will happen next, and their hearts are full of fear; Those who need a second or more abortions are worried that it will affect their future fertility.
Abortion can be divided into drug abortion, traditional abortion, painless abortion and induced labor. Drug abortion can only be performed within 6 weeks of pregnancy. Both traditional abortion and painless abortion suck the baby out of the body by means of machinery. The difference is that the latter is anesthetized and the patient will not feel pain during the operation. Induced labor is 12 weeks of infant abortion.
There is also a girl 16 years old. Because she was infected with AIDS, doctors and nurses wore full-body protective equipment from head to toe to operate on her. When the doctor asked her how she got AIDS, she replied, "I 14 had a boyfriend. I only have him, and I don't know if he has infected me. " When I miscarried for the first time, I knew I had syphilis, and my boyfriend checked it later. He said he was fine and not contagious. "
According to the survey of infertility in China initiated by China Population Society, among female infertility patients, the number of people aged 25-30 is the largest. Among the main factors leading to infertility, "induced abortion causes inflammation, which leads to tubal blockage and hinders the combination of eggs and sperm" ranks first.
In the residential buildings of the city, there are always many unmarried men and women sharing the same roof and sleeping in the same bed. Landlords and neighbors seem to have seen this kind of scenery too much, and naturally they are numb.
When I went to the gym the other day, I happened to meet the receptionist and her sister on the phone. The discussion is about the embarrassment of pregnancy before marriage and the failure to negotiate the bride price, which led to the wedding being blocked. The most harsh sentence is' it's also a big deal for you to have an abortion', and the other end of the phone says' I have had an abortion twice', and the answer here is' some girls have an abortion seven or eight times, but it's okay'.
Not long ago, Yuan Yuan (a pseudonym), a 0/7-year-old girl from Lanzhou/Kloc, was pregnant with her boyfriend without telling her family, and ate the forbidden fruit secretly until she gave birth naturally in her bathroom. Afraid of being scolded by her parents, she threw the child who had just fallen to the ground out of the window. Recently, Yuan Yuan was sentenced to 3 years in prison and suspended for 5 years for committing intentional homicide.
In fact, I have questioned unmarried men and women who live together countless times in my life. They were questioned by my direct layman, and they quickly bowed their heads and admitted their mistakes, but it didn't stop them from living together. Faced with their hasty cohabitation, hasty pregnancy and hasty abortion, I sincerely hope that all cohabiting men and women will eventually become husband and wife, but in real life, can the love of cohabiting men and women really come to the end?
According to a data survey, more than 90% unmarried men and women live together after getting engaged, but less than 50% unmarried men and women live together. It can be seen that cohabitation before marriage needs timing control, not impulse.
There are also some traditional men and women who stick to their wedding night for the first time because they follow the rules, only to find that one of them has physical defects. Personally, I think this kind of thing should have nothing to do with cohabitation before marriage, but the process of physical examination before marriage. It's just that many people regard premarital physical examination as a form of' going through the motions', which leads to marriage tragedy.
There are also some women who will be emotionally threatened by men who love them deeply. If they don't live together, their love is over. In this case, some women live together passively before marriage because they don't give up love. This is even more wrong, because every smart woman should understand that if a man breaks up because he didn't live together before marriage, such a man is not worth your lifelong commitment. Cruel loss may be temporary pain, but it will never leave lifelong pain.
So once the bride is not you, what harm will cohabitation bring before marriage?
First, physical injury.
The most important thing for a woman is not the hymen, but whether she can get pregnant. Cohabitation before marriage means unintended pregnancy. After pregnancy, because there is no legal marriage as a guarantee, innocent children can only choose abortion. Frequent abortion must first bear the pain on the operating table, and secondly it may lead to lifelong infertility due to unsuccessful abortion. There are also some unmarried men and women who cooked uncooked rice because their parents beat Yuanyang. The key is to make preparations for the wedding without bride price and ostentation and extravagance before making this decision. There are also some women who wait until they find out that they are pregnant before they rush to get married. At this juncture, the future mother-in-law will often attach importance to your anxious marriage mentality, thus suppressing you in bride price and other aspects.
Second, emotional harm.
Although many women are very open-minded about cohabitation before marriage, I still believe that most unmarried women must choose cohabitation partners on the premise of true love or marriage. Once they live together and have had an abortion, they are mercilessly abandoned, which will bring great harm to women emotionally, and men will be even more wretched. After hearing the news of pregnancy from a cohabiting girl, she suddenly became helpless out of thin air. I'm afraid to tell my parents about my pregnancy, and I'm ashamed to tell my friends. Finally, I ran to the hospital and walked to the operating table alone. What I want to ask is, as a woman, is it necessary to humiliate yourself like this?
Third, the reputation is damaged.
About a romantic cohabitation, your friends and colleagues, as well as friends and colleagues of the other side, will certainly know. Once cohabitation fails, in the face of a new relationship, your reputation is actually damaged. If you meet some unfriendly friends, they will say a few sarcastic words behind your back or give you a hard time. Will the new love go smoothly? However, life is like this. You must bear everything you do. We can't control other people's mouths, but we can definitely control our own behavior. If you don't live together before marriage, others will inevitably make an objective evaluation of you with colored glasses.
Fourth, the damage of love concept.
In the love stage, men and women who are deeply in love but can't get married in the end often have years of fear and confusion about love when their feelings fail, thus gradually reducing themselves to leftover men and women. Unless you are old enough to get married, you will hastily find yourself a partner, which is often said to be married for the sake of marriage. But will such a marriage be happy? To this end, we need to discuss what it means to be deeply involved in feelings and sex life. In other words, if you don't live together before marriage and just fall in love, the damage will be reduced by half, which means that the healing time will be shortened by half.
Fifth, the harm of outlook on life.
The pessimism of frustrated love is often manifested in work, and the most intuitive performance is listlessness or absent-mindedness at work. Remember that all leaders expect competent employees, and your listlessness can only be exchanged for not being reused or even being fired. At this moment, it is easy to fall into the double blow of emotion and work, so that people around you are ruthless masters, which leads to your pessimism, and some people even have suicidal thoughts.
Sixth, the harm of abandoned babies.
More than 20% unmarried women will think about giving birth to their children after discovering that they are pregnant, and 80% unmarried women will choose abortion. For the latter, they are hurting an unformed life. For the former, they often don't know how to face their parents and the world after their children are born, and usually give them away or take extreme actions to destroy them. I believe that these abortions or destroying children will eventually become a woman's lifelong guilt.
There is an old saying that describes the feelings between men and women like this: feelings are very touching and can hurt people. I hope all unmarried men and women will not live together before marriage.