Why do married women cheat?
1. Women's Prince Charming Complex In fact, almost every woman has a Prince Charming complex in her heart, hoping to stage a romantic scene in real life one day. So when this person appears, and the woman gets married, she may think that this is her own destiny, and no one can stop her, and she can desperately pursue what she wants.
2. Overwork and psychological imbalance of housework. In that era when women were in charge and men were not in charge, men could be shopkeepers when they came home. Now, however, the world has changed, and women are beginning to squeeze into the workplace to make money. Because of this, why do men continue to be shopkeepers? When women come home from work, they must do all the housework and help their children with their homework. Men play computer games and drink a little wine. Then, after men's enjoyment and women's overwork have settled for a long time, how can women get a will? In the face of women's complaints, men who are used to being shopkeepers not only don't realize their laziness, but also complain that their wives are picky. You know, even a virtuous woman will have a temper. Don't rush a woman, or she will seek comfort from extramarital affairs.
The husband neglected his wife's concern. Men like to get together and women like to be homesick. This is a kind of nature. However, men can't give full play to this nature, because companionship is the longest confession. Usually, women will not turn against each other because of men's entertainment, but because men are free to play, women will be dissatisfied. Therefore, men must pay attention to women's complaints. You know, what a woman complains about is that she is really lonely. As a husband, if he can't get rid of his wife's loneliness in time, he will get countless cold wars. Behind the cold war is that women must use external forces to drive away loneliness. When women cheat because of this, should men blame themselves for not knowing amorous feelings, or blame their wives for being sluts?
4. Revenge on her husband's infidelity. Revenge on an affair or infidelity is a common situation for women, and women will use it as a way to regain their self-esteem. It's simple. She wants to be fair. Of course, she may not cheat outside, but what you do will make her disappointed and angry and reduce her control over herself. Many times, a woman's sense of fairness will overwhelm her inherent value system.
5. The long-term contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law leads to disappointment with her husband. The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has existed since ancient times. One is a man's mother, the other is a man's wife, and the two women will compete for affection and intrigue. The root of the mistake is that these two women confuse family and love. To this end, resentment towards each other will be manifested in trivial matters of life. If a man prefers his daughter-in-law, my mother will say, "I married my daughter-in-law and forgot my mother"; If a man is partial to my mother, my daughter-in-law will say, "The whole family treats me like an outsider." In fact, the most important thing in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the attitude of men. If a man can't make two women happy at the same time, he should help his parents, not them, from the moment he gets married. This is simple, and the complaints between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be relatively reduced. When mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in conflict, what I fear most is the man's "wallflower". One minute I help my mother scold her wife, and the next I help my mother scold her. It may be only a matter of time before a woman meets a wallflower man.
6. Colleagues keep up with the joneses, which breeds unhealthy materialistic mentality. What do female colleagues talk about the most after work? It is nothing more than how their husbands are, how their wages are, and how their children study. But this kind of chat topic is most likely to breed women's comparison psychology, especially women who think they are not bad. Why did she marry such a good husband when I didn't need that person to be bad? When I get home, the more I look at my husband, the more dissatisfied I am. When this material desire for comparison reaches a certain level, it is easy for women to cheat and choose to go out and find a richer man.
7. My husband is so useless that he doesn't mention anything, and then he is disappointed to find that women are women after all, and they always have more needs in the emotional field than men. However, in real life, there are always some men who don't make progress at work, and even blame others for making their careers stagnate. This kind of man is usually difficult to be alone after an accident, and even pushes his wife in front of others when an accident occurs. So gradually, a cheerful and open-minded woman will become more open-minded and show her feminine side. These women are strong in appearance and weak in heart. Especially in the face of some overloaded promises, they also need a generous shoulder to rely on, but that person is definitely not their little husband. In this case, can they not cheat?
8. The husband can't satisfy her sexual needs. Couples are prone to problems if they can't meet each other's sexual needs. Especially women in their thirties and forties have the strongest sexual ability and desire, while middle-aged husbands are facing the decline of sexual ability. Some people even explicitly benefit from erectile dysfunction and refuse treatment. This will lead to discord between the two. If the situation is serious, the woman may take the initiative to ask for a divorce. On the other hand, some middle-aged women in this age group may go to the other extreme of serious deterioration of xy due to factors such as taking care of children and deteriorating health. If my husband's xy is still strong, it will be an excuse for him to cheat.
Factors of women's infidelity after marriage
1. Married women cheat because they feel that their marriage lacks seasoning and is very dull. However, she doesn't understand that insipid is the true meaning of a happy marriage. Unlike marriage, when you are in love, you will be happy and feel fresh and passionate. However, marriage is different, because two people live together and need to operate. Therefore, it is inevitable to lack some flavoring agents, that is, the so-called freshness and passion, but it is because of dullness that marriage is happy. My wife's marriage is warm and loving, but there is not much passion and ups and downs of romance. I know my wife's cheating partner is a fitness instructor, which can give her some passion and freshness that is not in marriage, but I think she has forgotten that marriage is the source of happiness for a woman in this life.
The married woman cheated because of her vanity. The word vanity is both a derogatory term and a commendatory term. Why do you say that? Because everyone has a little vanity. Some people strive to create their own happiness because of vanity, while others go astray because of vanity. Although my wife gave birth to a child, she is still in great shape and is a hot girl in everyone's mouth. Sometimes my wife is a little naked, and other men often glance at her. Of course not. So in the dressing part, when I accompanied her to the mall, I said that the exposed clothes were not good-looking. But since she cheated, the clothes she wore have become more and more exposed. I know, I like fitness instructors, but not my wife. He doesn't care whether others look at it or not. But in his wife's heart, he greatly satisfied his vanity.
A married woman will cheat because she thinks her lover is more considerate than her husband. Every man doesn't necessarily think the same about his other half. Some men are women who help with housework to show their concern. Some men will help with the children, but no matter how considerate they are, it is always not enough for some women. My wife is a high-profile person. She once asked me to give her a high position in the street, but she was so conspicuous in public, so I almost never satisfied her in this respect. So, after we got married for so many years, she found this fitness instructor and satisfied the care and consideration she wanted. After I learned that my wife was cheating, I thought I could humble myself in love and tolerate all her little temper in marriage, just because this is my favorite woman. However, I can't love without self-esteem, and I can't make my daughter hard. How can such a wife live in harmony and educate our lovely daughter? So, after I figured this out, I got divorced, and now I'm alone with my daughter. "
Three reasons why women are easy to cheat after marriage
First, the improvement of women's social status and a high degree of ideological emancipation.
Because women hold up half the sky, their social status has gradually improved, and they are no longer vassals in the family and gradually become dominant. In addition, many women are playing an important role in more jobs, which is indeed a very good phenomenon. Women's liberation is also the inevitable trend of human and social civilization and progress. Coupled with the influence of western culture in recent years, women began to break free from the shackles of feudal thought, advocate freedom and equality, and have their own pursuits and ideals. In fact, there is no problem with the development here. But everything has advantages and disadvantages. The disadvantage is that when women have higher status and resources, they have more courage and confidence to cheat than before. Empress Wu Zetian found four Toy Boy after having the power and wealth of the king of a country, which is why high-income women are more likely to cheat than low-income women. In fact, I think this is also the result of social development. Development and progress are good things, but physical derailment and spiritual betrayal are not necessarily good things.
Second, the lack of love in marriage and family leads to women's derailment.
When couples get along, especially after getting married for a long time, aesthetic fatigue will inevitably occur, the novelty of love will gradually disappear, and the original passion will become the present daily necessities. At this time, if men don't want to run their own marriage and family, they just want to work outside all day or be busy in restaurants, then when women are extremely tired and lonely, the idea of cheating will definitely become more and more serious, which will eventually lead to cheating. Another situation is that husbands often cheat, which leads to women's insecurity and extreme disappointment with marriage. In the absence of security, most women will find their own spiritual comfort to balance this insecurity. At this time, women are most likely to cheat. In short, the lack of love in marriage and family life is another major reason why women cheat. If men can give women more care and cherish in marriage, then this kind of cheating behavior can be reduced.
Third, with the gradual growth of age, the idea of cheating is becoming more and more common.
Women are most likely to cheat between 35 and 45. At this stage, women's family life has begun to show a formal husband and wife life. In addition, women at this stage have their own mature social outlook and outlook on life. Seeing or hearing cheating is no longer taboo as it was when they were young. At the same time, women at this stage are also in a period of burnout, so women at this time are also the most mature and easy to cheat, and their views on cheating are more open than men. However, women at this stage rarely cheat ideologically, because women at this stage are very mature and know what they want, so the first thing that comes to mind is their original family.
What kind of man is most easily cheated by women?
1. A nagging man
What women fear most is that men nag, because once men nag, they will rob women of their jobs. Because of this, women will find it more troublesome to live with such a man. Therefore, in the running-in period of marriage, it is best for both men and women to do more and talk less, even if the husband and wife communicate more, and finally say some sweet words.
2. Men who rely on women to earn money to support their families
Since a woman chooses an ordinary man to marry, she will not divorce him for money after marriage, but needs to see the hope of life. In other words, a man who is enthusiastic, thoughtful and self-motivated about his career can give women a sense of security. If a man can't do his job well, many can be a competent housewife, but some men are simply mambo men after marriage, with mouths and clothes, which not only makes women bear the financial burden of the family, but also makes women. Such a man will soon wear away his wife's love for himself. When you become a burden to women, it doesn't matter whether you are at home or not, it's better without you. If so, it's hard for a woman not to cheat.
3. A man who has cheated each other many times.
In today's society, many women cheat not because they are lonely, but because the teacher cheated first and broke their hearts. They use revenge to achieve psychological balance. At this time, they will easily seek comfort on the internet. In the online world, a man who is better than her husband and cares for her, at this time, it is often difficult for women to resist the temptation. As a result, drifting with the tide will only hurt each other in the end.